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AIBU to want my sister to leave my local crows alone?

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AliceNotInChains · 19/05/2026 13:07

I have been feeding a group of crows near my house and we’re just getting to the point where they wait for me now in a morning and come very close. My sister has decided she wants in on it but I’ve told her to go and find her own murder as I’ve put in all the hard work with these ones. I told her there is a murder across the way on the field she could do and feed.

this morning I was coming home from shop and there she was feeding Russel from my murder. I shouted at her and she shouted that they’re not my fucking crows, at the point a woman walking a dog walked past and tutted so sister shouted that they’re not my crows and I was shouting at her. The woman just carried on walking but this was right near my house!!

AIBU to think she should just go and feed the others???

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bridgetreilly · 19/05/2026 21:13

guinnessguzzler · 19/05/2026 13:26

I only recently discovered the saying; 'A crow in a crowd is a rook, a rook on its own is a crow'. Are they definitely crows?

It’s the other way round.

Okiedokie123 · 19/05/2026 20:50

I’m here for the comments…….
Surely this thread is a wind up?

HerbertHunterIWasBornToLoveYouNSoul · 19/05/2026 20:47

AliceNotInChains · 19/05/2026 13:19

No im sick of her waiting for me to start something and then swooping in to take over.

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Youre sister has developed crow/ bird characteristics
Swooping in🦅
Oh and your both full of Lunacy!!

Rhaidimiddim · 19/05/2026 20:45

AliceNotInChains · 19/05/2026 13:24

I’m going to pet shop on Friday for wild bird seed but apart from that some fruit, nuts and dog food

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Go to Waitrose. Get some packets of their essential chicken wings - £2-or-so for 8 - 10 pieces. Let your sister try to compete with that!

Witchonenowbob · 19/05/2026 20:39

putitonthewrongway · 19/05/2026 20:37

I think she should seriously CROW UP…
sorry this thread is really making me chuckle I’ve been going back to it throughout the day Grin

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You really shouldn’t keep reading it, you’re getting in a flap!

XenoBitch · 19/05/2026 20:39

Crows are wild animals. They are not yours.

Tillow4ever · 19/05/2026 20:38

You do love to find something to fall out with your sister over, don’t you? It strikes me as you’re always possessive over something you see as yours and she’s trying to take, or you are trying to take over a situation to bring attention back to you.

Think this is the first of your threads where you haven’t been unanimously told you’re batshit and unreasonable, but given your history, I think you are. No-one owns the crows.

putitonthewrongway · 19/05/2026 20:37

Squirrel60 · 19/05/2026 15:44

BOTH OF YOU SHOULD SERIOUSLY GROW UP.

You both obviously have no lives; nothing interesting is happening, so you spend your sad, piddly lives squabbling over a murder.

There are zillions of crows out there for you both to feed.

I think she should seriously CROW UP…
sorry this thread is really making me chuckle I’ve been going back to it throughout the day Grin

BlueShoeGlue · 19/05/2026 20:16

@AChickenNamedDoris I thought the exact same thing! At least I’m not the only one!

AChickenNamedDoris · 19/05/2026 20:14

For some reason I found myself reading this in a west country accent in my head. It seems to suit the post very well 😄

OneNewEagle · 19/05/2026 20:08

they will hold a grudge for a lifetime and pass the grudge on to their children and grandchildren so you can have generations of crows attacking an individual.

beautiful birds and so very clever.

yes your sister needs to get her own ones to feed or you need one of them to hold a grudge towards her and chase her off.

if you have Russell and Cheryl Crow so far what other names are you going for? I name my regular birds in my back garden.

I used to live in the countryside, wish i still did, as I was surrounded by birds. My fav male black bird would bring his babies to me to be fed every year in the garden, with my dog next to me, so they will learn to trust you if there’s a local of other people.

AMurderofMurderingCrows · 19/05/2026 19:57

userx30294025980 · 19/05/2026 19:09

Stop feeding the crows. Crows are vicious scavengers who can manages just fine on their own. Encouraging large groups to an area unnaturally isn't a good thing.

thecottonwoodpost.net/2022/05/02/the-maddening-truth-feeding-crows-and-jays-harms-other-birds/

How very dare you. We are peaceful creatures... when we feel like it.

Selkie33 · 19/05/2026 19:55

Witchonenowbob · 19/05/2026 19:29

Probably about five miles…… as the crow flies?

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🤣 love it!

HarshbutTrue2 · 19/05/2026 19:52

Squirrel60 · 19/05/2026 15:44

BOTH OF YOU SHOULD SERIOUSLY GROW UP.

You both obviously have no lives; nothing interesting is happening, so you spend your sad, piddly lives squabbling over a murder.

There are zillions of crows out there for you both to feed.

No. You're wrong.
There's also been disagreement over a bike in a hall and birthday cake candles. There's a lot going on here. I need to catch up with the other threads.
I'm sure there was an inspector wexford mystery called a kindness of ravens.
Midsummer murders simply must do a murder of ravens.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 19/05/2026 19:39

AliceNotInChains · 19/05/2026 13:20

Me and Russel?

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Youre hilarious 😄😄

Yanbu tbh!

ohlookimoneofthose · 19/05/2026 19:35

I cannot believe the lack of loyalty in Russel! If it helps, I find shouting at cheese does wonders for stress alleviation...

Leavesandthings · 19/05/2026 19:29

I love this.
Team Not Unreasonable!

GlomOfNit · 19/05/2026 19:29

OP is totally not BU. It takes weeks and weeks of coaxing and charming before crows trust you - they're really wary (probably because they're so intelligent). This being a social group of crows, they've probably started telling one another stories about the OP by now. To have some bloody arriviste parachute in at the 11th hour is not on. They're not bloody ducks at the local park. Hmm

Witchonenowbob · 19/05/2026 19:29

SoScarletItWas · 19/05/2026 13:13

OMG you and your sister again!

You need some distance from each other.

Probably about five miles…… as the crow flies?

Anxietyxxx · 19/05/2026 19:18

Spidey66 · 19/05/2026 18:00

I have just learnt a group of crows is called a murder. Your post wasn’t making any sense till I googled it. Every days a school day.

Thank you as i was about to go and google it, as i too couldnt understand it.

Kelticgold · 19/05/2026 19:13

Thank you, OP, today I’ve learnt what a murder is.

userx30294025980 · 19/05/2026 19:09

Stop feeding the crows. Crows are vicious scavengers who can manages just fine on their own. Encouraging large groups to an area unnaturally isn't a good thing.

thecottonwoodpost.net/2022/05/02/the-maddening-truth-feeding-crows-and-jays-harms-other-birds/

TorroFerney · 19/05/2026 19:09

WhyAmISoGoodAtThis · 19/05/2026 15:59

Pathetic!

Have you no jobs to go to? Or are you squabbling pensioners?

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I've a full time senior role and I make time to interact with wildlife. You sound like the kind of person who doesn't say hello to sheep!

TorroFerney · 19/05/2026 19:06

Squirrel60 · 19/05/2026 15:44

BOTH OF YOU SHOULD SERIOUSLY GROW UP.

You both obviously have no lives; nothing interesting is happening, so you spend your sad, piddly lives squabbling over a murder.

There are zillions of crows out there for you both to feed.

Bloody hell I always liked squirrels. I did not realise that they were so angry.

TheBlueKoala · 19/05/2026 18:45

Jllllllll · 19/05/2026 18:39

Sorry but this whole thing sounds mad!

The world is madder- just look at the news. I rather stick to this crow dispute. I gave OP grief for blowing up her nephew's candles but in this thread I'm on your side @AliceNotInChains.