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AIBU to want my sister to leave my local crows alone?

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AliceNotInChains · 19/05/2026 13:07

I have been feeding a group of crows near my house and we’re just getting to the point where they wait for me now in a morning and come very close. My sister has decided she wants in on it but I’ve told her to go and find her own murder as I’ve put in all the hard work with these ones. I told her there is a murder across the way on the field she could do and feed.

this morning I was coming home from shop and there she was feeding Russel from my murder. I shouted at her and she shouted that they’re not my fucking crows, at the point a woman walking a dog walked past and tutted so sister shouted that they’re not my crows and I was shouting at her. The woman just carried on walking but this was right near my house!!

AIBU to think she should just go and feed the others???

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Butchyrestingface · 21/05/2026 05:50

Is this the one with the sister where they keep stashing vehicles in each others houses?

Anyway, Russell is the problem here. He’s a faithless hoor. Take it up with him.

maxslice · 21/05/2026 05:46

HarshbutTrue2 · 20/05/2026 09:03

In my murder mystery I have 2 sisters living in a chocolate box village. One lives in a cottage with a hall too small to accommodate a bike. But she has a garden shed. What is in the garden shed?? She has a keyboard in the cottage. She keeps playing that nursery rhyme about the maid was in the garden, hanging out the clothes ,when down came a black bird and...... There will also be a bakery in the village which specialises in unique birthday cakes. The bakery may have a grudge.
We must have a rustic farmer, who shoots vermin crows.
Let's throw in a few magpies and rooks.
A suspicious looking bicycle repairs shop proprietor.
I haven't decided on the age of the characters. The 6 year old child may now have grown up and still be harbouring a grudge about the birthday cake. The sisters may be elderly. Or I may keep them younger.
Of course, we mustn't forget the long suffering husbands.
There may be a long standing feud between the crow appreciation society and the rustic farmer.
Plus, random characters who talk to sheep and squirrels.

And what is in the garden shed?
I haven't decided on the victim or the murderer.

Hmmm. Maybe there is an antique wooden cheese press in the shed. Perhaps the murderer killed the victim by pressing their skull in this device. And moving the body to another location.

FantasyFoodhall · 21/05/2026 04:22

I only have blackbirds, and I like them a lot but they lack that certain something that crows have. How do I get crows to visit? What makes them like you OP? I think your sister is bang out of order and should go and find her own friends. Pheasants maybe, there are loads of them around.

bornwithhorns · 21/05/2026 02:10

I mean I love my mr crow and I wouldn’t wanna share my little bond with him with my sister 🤣🤣

maxslice · 20/05/2026 23:07

I’m absolutely charmed. Crows are very smart birds and will remember faces. Remember too, those that are kind to them and those that aren’t.
You and your sister seem to have larger unresolved issues. I don’t know what to say about that. Except that crows are not that rare and she should find her own instead of trying to usurp the ones you’ve been feeding. Wouldn’t it be more satisfying to her to build her own relationship with wild birds than to try to take over someone else’s? Mozart had a starling who was very clever. Maybe she can try a different species.

Neuronimo · 20/05/2026 22:35

Is White Chest back Alice? I've been a tad anxious!

Neuronimo · 20/05/2026 22:32

SerafinasGoose · 20/05/2026 19:37

We have buzzards in the farm on our lane up the hill. The crows are fearless.They mob the buzzards whenever they make a strike, notwithstanding they're at risk of copping it themselves. They are the thugs of the avian world (another reason why I like them)!

They're brave and they're also persistent. I just hope the buzzards don't go after the brown hares on the other side of the hill. Hares are one animal I love even more than crows!

Same here with the red Kites. Never sure who is after who as the Kites will occasionally take a bird on the wing. I wonder if they get near the crows nests.

daleylama · 20/05/2026 21:36

Ilovelifeverymuch · 20/05/2026 16:37

😂

I guess I was today years old when I learned that a pack of crows was called a murder of crows 😂

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Collective nouns make for fascinating reading

SerafinasGoose · 20/05/2026 21:34

Easterchicken · 20/05/2026 20:01

Omg is this the same person

Think she's got attention seeking needs

What a freak

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And what's wrong with a bit of freakery, may I ask?

SnowyPetals · 20/05/2026 21:21

HarshbutTrue2 · 20/05/2026 09:03

In my murder mystery I have 2 sisters living in a chocolate box village. One lives in a cottage with a hall too small to accommodate a bike. But she has a garden shed. What is in the garden shed?? She has a keyboard in the cottage. She keeps playing that nursery rhyme about the maid was in the garden, hanging out the clothes ,when down came a black bird and...... There will also be a bakery in the village which specialises in unique birthday cakes. The bakery may have a grudge.
We must have a rustic farmer, who shoots vermin crows.
Let's throw in a few magpies and rooks.
A suspicious looking bicycle repairs shop proprietor.
I haven't decided on the age of the characters. The 6 year old child may now have grown up and still be harbouring a grudge about the birthday cake. The sisters may be elderly. Or I may keep them younger.
Of course, we mustn't forget the long suffering husbands.
There may be a long standing feud between the crow appreciation society and the rustic farmer.
Plus, random characters who talk to sheep and squirrels.

And what is in the garden shed?
I haven't decided on the victim or the murderer.

Don't forget to add in the personal loos and a spooky corridor....

Ileithyia · 20/05/2026 21:12

She’s a cheeky fucker.

I’d love my own murder.

Miaminmoo · 20/05/2026 20:31

I don’t really have an opinion on the feeding rights of these crows but I have certainly enjoyed the comments and I hope this post is genuine because it’s made my day 🤗

HarshbutTrue2 · 20/05/2026 20:30

oooh. I need to update my murder mystery with a holiday bathroom story...I haven't read that thread.
I need to include buzzards, blackbirds and dogs. Maybe an air bnb with a toilet issue. Maybe more than one farmer. I need to include a traditional English pub with a quirky name. It should probably be a bird related name. The Dog and Duck is a bit too tame. The Crow's Nest...not quite right.
Characters will need to be saluting magpies. We all know what happens if you don't salute a magpie.

Easterchicken · 20/05/2026 20:01

Ilovelifeverymuch · 20/05/2026 16:40

Ahhh it's you the sister with the holiday bathroom post. You guys need to stay away from each other 😂.

If you're not fighting over which toilet to use you're for being over loyalty of the crows 😂

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Omg is this the same person

Think she's got attention seeking needs

What a freak

Newsenmum · 20/05/2026 19:55

Theyre very clever. Show them that youre top dog and offer superior snacks.

How many in the murder?

Emeraldforest · 20/05/2026 19:53

Please dont fall out over crows!
That being said I love them too, they are so intelligent and funny. I love watching them playing with dogs.
I see more magpies this year though.

Easterchicken · 20/05/2026 19:51

Am I high???

Brideofclover · 20/05/2026 19:42

SerafinasGoose · 20/05/2026 19:41

Munster.

What an absolutely brilliant name for a crow.

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I edited to what it should’ve said but maybe I should’ve left it 🤣🤣🤣🤣

SerafinasGoose · 20/05/2026 19:41

Brideofclover · 20/05/2026 19:41

I voted yabu BUT only by a very tight margin - I’m going to sit on the fence with the crows ……and THIS thread is why I love Mumsnet so much!!! Batshit craziness that people think is normal 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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Munster.

What an absolutely brilliant name for a crow.

Brideofclover · 20/05/2026 19:41

AliceNotInChains · 19/05/2026 13:21

Yes that’s what I was hoping for too, I’m making them a buffet at weekend in my garden and hoping once they’ve had they will frequent my garden and I can keep her away

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I voted yabu BUT only by a very tight margin - I’m going to sit on the fence with the crows ……and THIS thread is why I love Mumsnet so much!!! Batshit craziness that people think is normal 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

SerafinasGoose · 20/05/2026 19:37

We have buzzards in the farm on our lane up the hill. The crows are fearless.They mob the buzzards whenever they make a strike, notwithstanding they're at risk of copping it themselves. They are the thugs of the avian world (another reason why I like them)!

They're brave and they're also persistent. I just hope the buzzards don't go after the brown hares on the other side of the hill. Hares are one animal I love even more than crows!

Cherrysoup · 20/05/2026 19:26

onedogatoddlerandababy · 20/05/2026 19:02

Actually crows do remember people and faces, and will tell their friends and family about you and how you treat them.

they’re incredibly intelligent.

op, I love you for making a friendship with these crows, perhaps you need to elevate the quality of food you’re giving them so Russel bad mouthes your sister’s inferior treats

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Well aware of this, 17 years is the recorded record of generations of crows holding a grudge. Unfortunately, my dog snatched a youngster and we were-quite rightly-attacked for a long time afterwards by the family.

onedogatoddlerandababy · 20/05/2026 19:02

Cherrysoup · 19/05/2026 13:10

This is ridiculous. They aren't 'your' crows and they have no loyalty to you. Do you live together?

Actually crows do remember people and faces, and will tell their friends and family about you and how you treat them.

they’re incredibly intelligent.

op, I love you for making a friendship with these crows, perhaps you need to elevate the quality of food you’re giving them so Russel bad mouthes your sister’s inferior treats

SummerMadnessBegins · 20/05/2026 18:18

Do the crows bring you gifts @AliceNotInChains ? I've heard that's a thing with crows. Or was it robin's...