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To think some older women having tax payers funded ivf are hypocrites?

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Spiderbug · 19/05/2026 10:39

There seems to be a substantial group of people who are ok with calling teen mums a waste of their tax money but then leave child bearing too late and expect the tax payers to foot the bill for their multiple ivf cycles which costs the tax payer up to 100 million a year.

Hypocrites!!!

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JuneFryer · 19/05/2026 10:50

Spiderbug · 19/05/2026 10:49

You see it online a lot as well. Insulting teen mums and accusing them of wasting tax money. Meanwhile the ivf industry is booming because of older women

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But that doesn't evidence that it's the same people complaining and receiving.

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ChocHotolate · 19/05/2026 10:50

A lot of areas will only fund 1 cycle of IVF now
1 anecdote does not make data (although “anecdata” is a good word)

BarbiesDreamHome · 19/05/2026 10:49

Why are you comparing women to make your point about teen mums?

Can you explain that thinking please?

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Spiderbug · 19/05/2026 10:49

B1anche · 19/05/2026 10:47

You said a "substantial group".

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You see it online a lot as well. Insulting teen mums and accusing them of wasting tax money. Meanwhile the ivf industry is booming because of older women

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coulditbeme2323 · 19/05/2026 10:49

Spiderbug · 19/05/2026 10:48

You can google it. You think cycles of ivf on the nhs aren’t costing the tax payer? Do you know how much ivf costs?

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But that's not what you said is it?

So again I will ask do you have any evidence?

Squirrelsnut · 19/05/2026 10:48

So are you basically complaining about a couple of people you know personally?

LetsBeWellBehaved · 19/05/2026 10:48

Yanbu in principle bit this thread isn’t going to take off because it’s phrased as a rant and people will just assume bad faith.

Basically yes, if people are making a lifestyle choice to delay parenthood then that’s costing taxpayer money. Teen mums, very often vulnerable, get flack for needing any kind of bursary or support as it’s less socially acceptable.

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Spiderbug · 19/05/2026 10:48

coulditbeme2323 · 19/05/2026 10:45

Do you have a link to provide evidence?

You can google it. You think cycles of ivf on the nhs aren’t costing the tax payer? Do you know how much ivf costs?

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B1anche · 19/05/2026 10:47

Spiderbug · 19/05/2026 10:44

I personally know some like this

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You said a "substantial group".

MrsShawnHatosy · 19/05/2026 10:46

B1anche · 19/05/2026 10:43

How would you know if they are the same people?

And how can you know they wouldn’t still have needed IVF even if they’d started ttc younger? Or that their partners don’t have fertility issues? I started at 29 and never did get pregnant.

Floppyearedlab · 19/05/2026 10:46

Yet those older women have probably paid into the system for years. Unlike the teens who just get pregnant and expect everyone else to pick up the pieces without contributing a dime.

coulditbeme2323 · 19/05/2026 10:45

Do you have a link to provide evidence?

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Spiderbug · 19/05/2026 10:44

B1anche · 19/05/2026 10:43

How would you know if they are the same people?

I personally know some like this

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Spiderbug · 19/05/2026 10:43

plasticplate · 19/05/2026 10:42

Not at all goady

It’s not about nice older women who have ivf just the ones who judge teen mums and call them a waste of tax money and then go and have multiple nhs ivf cycles. Just seems hypocritical to me

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B1anche · 19/05/2026 10:43

How would you know if they are the same people?

plasticplate · 19/05/2026 10:42

Not at all goady

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