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To think some older women having tax payers funded ivf are hypocrites?

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Spiderbug · 19/05/2026 10:39

There seems to be a substantial group of people who are ok with calling teen mums a waste of their tax money but then leave child bearing too late and expect the tax payers to foot the bill for their multiple ivf cycles which costs the tax payer up to 100 million a year.

Hypocrites!!!

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Spiderbug · 19/05/2026 10:58

coulditbeme2323 · 19/05/2026 10:57

I am going to ask ONE more time.

Do you have links to evidence?

Or is it all anecdotal?

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What do you want links for? That ivf is expensive or that a lot of people hate teen mums and call them a waste of tax money?

I mean I can find links to both if you want but I thought this was just common knowledge

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Tsundokuer · 19/05/2026 10:58

Spiderbug · 19/05/2026 10:50

im Not sure what part of this you’re struggling to believe but google is your friend

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I googled. It doesn't say anything about older women receiving multiple rounds of ivf on the NHS costing £100M.

The NHS states instead that ivf is a postcode lottery but generally one cycle of ivf is available for women aged between 25 and 40. NHS-funded in vitro fertilisation (IVF) in England - GOV.UK

NHS-funded in vitro fertilisation (IVF) in England

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/nhs-funded-ivf-in-england/nhs-funded-in-vitro-fertilisation-ivf-in-england

B1anche · 19/05/2026 10:58

Spiderbug · 19/05/2026 10:55

Loads of people hate teen mums, anyone that was one will know this me personally was pregnant at 15 and have been disrespected by a vast array of people for it.
Some of these people leave child bearing too late and then expect the tax payer to pay for their ivf which seems incredibly hypocritical

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It's only hypocritical if they expect taxpayer funding but also criticise others for being taxpayer funded. How do you know these are one and the same people?

ThisCandidMintGoose · 19/05/2026 10:58

If you are bitter and have a chip on your shoulder after being a teen mum yourself, your ridiculous reaction is exactly why people think it's generally a bad idea

WestwardHo1 · 19/05/2026 10:58

Oh do fuck off

coulditbeme2323 · 19/05/2026 10:57

Spiderbug · 19/05/2026 10:55

Loads of people hate teen mums, anyone that was one will know this me personally was pregnant at 15 and have been disrespected by a vast array of people for it.
Some of these people leave child bearing too late and then expect the tax payer to pay for their ivf which seems incredibly hypocritical

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I am going to ask ONE more time.

Do you have links to evidence?

Or is it all anecdotal?

Rewis · 19/05/2026 10:57

I know there are people who are anti- teenmoms but I've never heard that the complaint is their cost to taxpayers.

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Spiderbug · 19/05/2026 10:57

Theeyeballsinthesky · 19/05/2026 10:56

so your 'evidence' is one person that you know

Deary me 🤦🏻‍♀️

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No read my last comment

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plasticplate · 19/05/2026 10:56

I also don't know anyone who thinks teen mums shouldn't be supported.

B1anche · 19/05/2026 10:56

All the people I know who have had IVF were in their late 20s or early 30s. I wouldn't know their opinions on teen mothers.

Theeyeballsinthesky · 19/05/2026 10:56

Spiderbug · 19/05/2026 10:44

I personally know some like this

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so your 'evidence' is one person that you know

Deary me 🤦🏻‍♀️

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Spiderbug · 19/05/2026 10:55

coulditbeme2323 · 19/05/2026 10:52

Google is my friend, but I can't see any evidence on Google that backs up your claim that it's women complaining about teen Mum's who are having all the IVF.

Either provide a link to evidence or accept you don't have any.

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Loads of people hate teen mums, anyone that was one will know this me personally was pregnant at 15 and have been disrespected by a vast array of people for it.
Some of these people leave child bearing too late and then expect the tax payer to pay for their ivf which seems incredibly hypocritical

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SemperIdem · 19/05/2026 10:55

You might have been better off making this thread less general. Because are you clearly speaking about women who you personally know and trying to make it seem as though it is a broader issue, when it is not.

Shamesame · 19/05/2026 10:54

Absolutely no one I who had IVF had it because they left it too late and were actively trying for years before.

Error404FucksNotFound · 19/05/2026 10:54

Spiderbug · 19/05/2026 10:44

I personally know some like this

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Well, if you know them then say something to them. 🤷‍♀️

LowPowerModes · 19/05/2026 10:54

Spiderbug · 19/05/2026 10:44

I personally know some like this

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So take it up with them, rather than ranting on the internet?

plasticplate · 19/05/2026 10:53

I'm sure there are people like this but I don't believe it is a substantial group.
Most women don't have IVF because they have 'left it too late' and those who have multiple cycles generally fund it themselves.

Lottie197 · 19/05/2026 10:53

IVF isn’t funded after 40, and before that only one cycle is funded (rest person has to pay themselves)

Tigerbalmshark · 19/05/2026 10:53

Also where are you finding threads about teen mothers these days? There are barely any, it’s far less common than it was 40 years ago.

I thought all the online frothing these days was about immigrants having large families.

Tsundokuer · 19/05/2026 10:53

coulditbeme2323 · 19/05/2026 10:45

Do you have a link to provide evidence?

And evidence of the costs. The whole thing screams "bollocks" to me.

coulditbeme2323 · 19/05/2026 10:52

Spiderbug · 19/05/2026 10:50

im Not sure what part of this you’re struggling to believe but google is your friend

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Google is my friend, but I can't see any evidence on Google that backs up your claim that it's women complaining about teen Mum's who are having all the IVF.

Either provide a link to evidence or accept you don't have any.

JontyGentooey · 19/05/2026 10:51

The only women I know who've undergone IVF have done so in their early 30s, after considerable time trying. And none of them have any beef with young mothers, to my knowledge.

B1anche · 19/05/2026 10:50

Spiderbug · 19/05/2026 10:48

You can google it. You think cycles of ivf on the nhs aren’t costing the tax payer? Do you know how much ivf costs?

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Nobody is disputing that IVF is expensive. You specifically said that it was older people who criticise teen mums who are having IVF.

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Spiderbug · 19/05/2026 10:50

coulditbeme2323 · 19/05/2026 10:49

But that's not what you said is it?

So again I will ask do you have any evidence?

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im Not sure what part of this you’re struggling to believe but google is your friend

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Tigerbalmshark · 19/05/2026 10:50

Spiderbug · 19/05/2026 10:44

I personally know some like this

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Do you not think it is resentment and jealousy that somebody has fallen pregnant accidentally and doesn’t appreciate it, when they themselves are desperate to be pregnant, rather than genuine dislike of teenage mothers?

Is it a particularly edifying reaction, no it isn’t, but infertility does weird things to your emotions.

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