To be annoyed Dh calls out little boy by his initial?

And that doesn’t strike you as even a little bit of a dick move? When people ask her “Can I do….?” does she say “You can, but you may not?”

There are "correct" abbreviated versions? I didn't realise there were rules. I once knew a Christopher who went by Toph. Unusual I thought, possibly unique, but not "incorrect". Do you consider Peggy, a well-established nickname for Margaret to be incorrect? Or Sandy, for Alexander (or Sandra maybe)?

My brother is Michael. We've only ever called him Michael. Friends, coworkers, etc., usually default to calling him Mike. People just shorten names.

That would wind me up too but then I hate when people email or text me “Hi S”. S?!!! I have a name!

Same for my daughter. She gets called "dummy," "snickerdoodle," "me love," etc. I'm surprised she even knows what her real name is, actually.

I can understand why it annoys you @harvestingsomewarmthand it would annoy me too.

If his name began with any other letter and he was shortening it I don’t think it would be an issue. But he is literally calling him by a different name!

Why call him Jay and not Joe, same syllables so it’s not like Jay is easer/shorter.

Of course it might/ probably will happen. He is 6 now. My own son is 3 and will not accept a very common nn for his name. If I call him it he says 'no my name is x'
So while we might choose the name, they aren't ours.

When I was about 12 and landlines still existed I called a friend and used her nn. Her mother told me to use her correct name, she is not a dog. 😯

My brother was ALWAYS called by his full name within our family, let's call him 'James' One day when he still lived at home his work called and asked if 'Jim ' was available. My DM was 'im sorry there isnt a Jim here ! Do you think it might be James you want?'

A school friend’s parents did this. They figured there was no way to abbreviate Fleur.

We called her Floral.

My son is also a Joseph. He has many nicknames JJ Joe, Joey. Monkey. The only person who uses his actual name is my dad. Even school call him Joey.
Is it really a big deal? As he gets older and goes through school his name will get shortened anyway.
My eldest has the nickname E because that's what her sister called her when she was learning to talk and it just stuck.
I think your husband can call him what he wants and so can you.

I do it, everyone has a nickname. YABU

Could be worse. I’ve been calling my son Bubba Gump for 14 years now. He’s called George.

Blimey at 8 weeks old I'm pretty sure that I was calling DD 'the baby' mostly despite us choosing her beautiful name at 16 weeks pregnant!
Now she's a bit older she gets all sorts from us both inc generic terms of endearment. She loves her name though and we love it.

The thread has reminded me, my best friends’ parents gave both her and her brother short names that (so they thought) couldn’t be shortened. Hers is two syllable and his is one. They’re both common diminutives of longer names.

Absolutely everyone calls my friend by the first letter of her name.

Nicknames happen, and when like the OP’s they’re out of affection, and if the recipient doesn’t mind, then there’s no harm. It’s THEIR name, not yours.

Hmm my eldest is mairead. She was never given a nickname until she went to secondary school and ended up Merry to her friends. Not sure how you'd stop it if they are ok with it

Thinking about it my mum was Jane but was Babsie throughout her school life and my gran called her that until she died

YANBU. I find it highly irritating when my children's names are shortened even to the correct abbreviated version. I call them by their full name. People always say oh do you call them x, y or z. No!!! I call them their name 😂

My dad calls me by my first iniital. I like it. Only my dad does it. 💕

If he's only 8 weeks old, I can see why you're not in the headspace for the nickname thing, and I promise I don't mean that snidely, I really do get it.

But honestly, longer term, this really isn't an issue. His dad has an individual relationship with him and can call him whatever the hell he likes, that's between them. I have a million nicknames for my son, some of which his dad joins in with, but he also has his own set of names for him (and son happily answers to the full range). Honestly, the fact that your son's dad has nicknamed him is indicative of affection and bonding, just let them get on with it and enjoy your family, this isn't worth getting upset over.

My kids Bageera, Brian and Lasenia agree 🤣

Yep. This is the ultimate in mummy-preciousness. It's 50% his child and 100% her name.

None of your long-winded explanations make you sound any less rigid or controlling.

I don't particularly care for Joe or Joey, but if my Joseph decides he wants to use that (or any other nickname) in the future, it's up to him. It's his name in the end, not mine.

Yabu this sounds very controlling wanting to dictate the nickname a child's own father can call him?! Surely you have bigger things to focus energy on

I have about 20 names for my son, and sometimes i use his real name.

Same here. Faffelina Von Stinkentoesen….