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Feeling devastated after seeing this news about Afghanistan

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LovingLilacDuck · 19/05/2026 08:13

I stumbled across this on BBC — https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c0q25dwj807o

I can’t stop crying. I feel so incredibly devastated that we live in such an unequal world. I cannot believe in 2026 people have to starve and children die — and girls be sold??? because of hunger. Goodness sake. That’s not right, it’s so inhumane. Seeing the tears on those tiny girls’ eyes and how fearful they are just breaks my heart so much, oh Gosh.

I just really feel sorry for these people who have to live under Taliban and suffer immensely. It’s so heartbreaking. And I know these people are not the only ones unfortunately…I just feel like we all have so much, more than we all need to and I wish we could just help the poor more as a whole world. But that doesn’t bring any profits does it???!

I wish I could do something to help, whatever that may be. Does anyone have a clue about what to do? I’d appreciate any insight. Thank you.

A man wearing a pink turban cuddles his small daughter close in front of a cracked mud wall

Afghanistan humanitarian crisis: Ghor's starving families

In Afghanistan today, a staggering three in four people cannot meet their basic needs.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c0q25dwj807o

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Tableforjoan · 19/05/2026 23:02

Hallamule · 19/05/2026 22:57

Explain to me how they could be safely sent then? I mean, we could set up reception points in our embassies in Pakistan, and India where they could apply for asylum without having to travel thousands of miles in the hands of smugglers but we dont, do we?

I suspect most on this thread would be a damn sight less welcoming to Afghan women if they could actually get here.

I’d be happy to welcome women and girls directly from there.

Set them up with English lessons and get them into work and childcare/education depending on age.

Give them their freedoms as best as we can.

The men can fix their country so it’s safe for their educated return one day maybe.

Not just dumped in ghettos though or in little pockets with no integration. Spread out far and wide for everyone’s best interests.

Hallamule · 19/05/2026 23:02

Wearenotborg · 19/05/2026 22:56

Exactly. Where are the protests, the marches, the chants? Why are Arab billionaires not rescuing these women and children? Why are people in the uk who happily March for Palestine not doing the same for Afghanistan?

Oh God not this trite tripe again. Because, unlike with Israel, our government neither arms the Taliban nor allies ourselves to them.

You do understand that the point of marching in the UK is to influence British government policy yes? Are you suggesting that we march to encourage our government to go to war in Afghanistan again? Or what are you proposing we ask them to do?

Borrowerdale · 19/05/2026 23:01

A reminder that the UN invited the Taliban to meet with them - and sent all women out of the room at the Taliban’s request.

quantumbutterfly · 19/05/2026 23:01

SapphireSeptember · 19/05/2026 22:38

Yeah I know, and it's fucking disgusting wherever it happens. Don't know why you're saying it happens in the USA when this is a predominantly British forum though.

And I wonder, if they had to choose, if they would rather live in Afghanistan or the US, since they're so critical of it.

XDownwiththissortofthingX · 19/05/2026 23:00

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 22:00

Yep.

We have spent billions on Afghanistan, equipping and training their army with state of the art everything while our personnel died to do so.

The second the Brits and Americans left they ran away like cowards and let the Taliban take over and do this.

Sick of the hand wringers trying to explain it away

A fair old portion of that money went straight into the bank accounts of corrupt Afghan Government officials, meaning the Afghan Armed Forces were nowhere near as well equipped or trained as they should have been, and also that the personnel themselves often hadn't been paid in months. It's nowhere near as simple as simply "running away", and that's nothing but an ignorant, offensive statement.

Afghan soldiers who hadn't been paid in months also couldn't feed their families, so its no wonder at all the idea of an Afghan armed resistance to the Taliban was only ever notional and never going to materialise. There was never an Afghan military you could describe as a credible fighting force, morale was non-existent, and expecting men to risk their lives for an utterly corrupt State that hadn't paid them in months is laughable.

Borrowerdale · 19/05/2026 23:00

He may not prostitiue them out

But he can sell them into temporary hour long marriages.

Hallamule · 19/05/2026 22:57

Tableforjoan · 19/05/2026 22:52

No all the men fleaing what ever country they are fleeing leaving their women and children to fend for themselves are the threat towards the women and children which is why they cannot be sent instead 👍🏻

Explain to me how they could be safely sent then? I mean, we could set up reception points in our embassies in Pakistan, and India where they could apply for asylum without having to travel thousands of miles in the hands of smugglers but we dont, do we?

I suspect most on this thread would be a damn sight less welcoming to Afghan women if they could actually get here.

Borrowerdale · 19/05/2026 22:57

Chimen · 19/05/2026 22:51

The government before Taliban had every resource given to them to be successful. But they were more interested in enriching themselves than actually governing the country.
By then it was not our war.

It was Democratic presidential Carter who funded the rise of the Taliban - then the Mujahideen - as part of a proxy war with Russia.

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 22:56

Wearenotborg · 19/05/2026 22:56

Exactly. Where are the protests, the marches, the chants? Why are Arab billionaires not rescuing these women and children? Why are people in the uk who happily March for Palestine not doing the same for Afghanistan?

No Jews, no news.

Octavia64 · 19/05/2026 22:56

@Twinandatwoyearold

to answer some of your questions:

homosexuality is not permissible in Islam. Therefore the religious leaders in Afghanistan are against bacha bazi.

however a religion being against something does not stop it happening. Christianity is often seen these days as a “peaceful” religion yet in medieval times bishops rode into battle with knights and the concession was that they didn’t have a bladed weapon as they were not supppsed to draw blood. So instead they carried maces and other such blunt hitting instruments.

child marriage is permitted in Islam with the canonical example being the marriage of the Prophet Mohammed to Aisha who was somewhere between six and nine at the time.

slavery is also permitted in Islam with the proviso that no Muslim may be enslaved. The Taliban have explicitly permitted slavery in the new laws introduced in Jan 2026.

A Muslim man is permitted to have sex with any of his female slaves. This is known as the doctrine of “what my right hand possesses”. He may not prostitiue them out to others, but he can sell them to anyone he chooses.

Wearenotborg · 19/05/2026 22:56

Screamingabdabz · 19/05/2026 22:16

What I never understand is why the modern Islamic world isn’t also up in arms about the treatment of their Muslim sisters and brothers at the hands of this rag tag bunch of scum. Surely they’re aware of Muslim children starving and being raped at the whims of the Taliban? Surely they’re aware of the misrepresentation of Islam? They could be instrumental in putting pressure and shame on this ungodly regime. But they don’t. Why?

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Exactly. Where are the protests, the marches, the chants? Why are Arab billionaires not rescuing these women and children? Why are people in the uk who happily March for Palestine not doing the same for Afghanistan?

Twinandatwoyearold · 19/05/2026 22:54

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 22:50

That poster knows exactly what you meant but thought sardonic jokes about rape would be a good way of getting their nasty little point across

Comments like that show why so many people in Britain covered up Pakistani rape gangs. Grim.

@Borrowerdale i agree and I am pleased that so many people now see through BBC propaganda.

If only they (the bbc) were so vocal about the thousands of girls raped in the U.K.

FrankieMcGrath · 19/05/2026 22:53

elgreco · 19/05/2026 08:17

I have no fucking sympathy for afghani men. The sit and watch and tolerate their female family members being fucked over generation after generation. They let it happen. Id starve before selling my child.

This! Fuckers the lot of them.

Borrowerdale · 19/05/2026 22:53

The BBC trying to generate sympathy for men selling their five yeast old daughters to paedophiles to be raped as sex slaves every day for the rest of their, probably short, lives. Disgusting!

Tableforjoan · 19/05/2026 22:52

Hallamule · 19/05/2026 22:47

Really? Only Afgan men are a threat to Afgan women and girls? You talk as though the trafficking and abuse of females is unknown outside its borders.

No all the men fleaing what ever country they are fleeing leaving their women and children to fend for themselves are the threat towards the women and children which is why they cannot be sent instead 👍🏻

Chimen · 19/05/2026 22:51

MrThorpeHazell · 19/05/2026 10:15

This is why, in my mind, there is not a penny's worth of difference between Biden and Trump. Biden pulling the troops out was an incredibly stupid decision.

The international situation is going to shit and each is as much to blame as the other.

The government before Taliban had every resource given to them to be successful. But they were more interested in enriching themselves than actually governing the country.
By then it was not our war.

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 22:51

ThePieceHall · 19/05/2026 22:49

That is actually an offensive comment. Disgraceful. To make light of the act of rape. Shameful.

Because think of the menz and the injustices THEY go through, with people on internet forums calling out their misogyny, boo hoo

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 22:50

Dollymylove · 19/05/2026 22:48

I dont mean MY daughters i mean the reports of young Britsh girls who have been assaulted by these brutes who have entered the country illegally

That poster knows exactly what you meant but thought sardonic jokes about rape would be a good way of getting their nasty little point across

PurpleAxe · 19/05/2026 22:49

LovingLilacDuck · 19/05/2026 08:13

I stumbled across this on BBC — https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c0q25dwj807o

I can’t stop crying. I feel so incredibly devastated that we live in such an unequal world. I cannot believe in 2026 people have to starve and children die — and girls be sold??? because of hunger. Goodness sake. That’s not right, it’s so inhumane. Seeing the tears on those tiny girls’ eyes and how fearful they are just breaks my heart so much, oh Gosh.

I just really feel sorry for these people who have to live under Taliban and suffer immensely. It’s so heartbreaking. And I know these people are not the only ones unfortunately…I just feel like we all have so much, more than we all need to and I wish we could just help the poor more as a whole world. But that doesn’t bring any profits does it???!

I wish I could do something to help, whatever that may be. Does anyone have a clue about what to do? I’d appreciate any insight. Thank you.

The girls are not sold "because of hunger", they are sold because of men.

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 22:49

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Don’t be so pathetically churlish. How dare you use this topic to score cheap points

ThePieceHall · 19/05/2026 22:49

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That is actually an offensive comment. Disgraceful. To make light of the act of rape. Shameful.

Dollymylove · 19/05/2026 22:48

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I dont mean MY daughters i mean the reports of young Britsh girls who have been assaulted by these brutes who have entered the country illegally

FernFaery · 19/05/2026 22:48

Hallamule · 19/05/2026 22:47

Really? Only Afgan men are a threat to Afgan women and girls? You talk as though the trafficking and abuse of females is unknown outside its borders.

Predominantly Afghan men.

Twinandatwoyearold · 19/05/2026 22:47

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Really? Are you being sarcastic about rape. Or is this genuine?

Hallamule · 19/05/2026 22:47

Tableforjoan · 19/05/2026 22:32

And the reason they can’t send the daughters is all those very sons / brothers / uncles and traffickers who are a risk.

The same men we are supposed to welcome.

Really? Only Afgan men are a threat to Afgan women and girls? You talk as though the trafficking and abuse of females is unknown outside its borders.

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