Insensitive medical staff

Some of them have zero bedside manner. Im so sorry. And also steroids can make you balloon massively I’ve been there myself. My Consultant when I was having chemo one day decided to rock up at the hospital and tell me I should be sent to the scrap yard. I went to absolute pieces in there and luckily the nurses heard him and kicked him out of the ward. I’ve never forgiven him and will never ever see him.

I'm so sorry. You're doing amazingly and you should be incredibly proud of yourself. Don't waste a minute worrying about what that pathetic ignorant doctor said. Unfortunately too many drs and other healthcare workers are deeply misogynistic, have no people skills, or are as thick as pig shit, and that dr was clearly all three. 💐

It's so unfair that all this has been heaped on you OP.

What a dick of a doctor. Some of them are just like that.

It's not only misogyny, although that is definitely a factor. My friend's brother is having chemo currently and was so sick on the weekend he drove himself to the local hospital. On giving his date of birth, the doctor said 'Happy Birthday, hope your day improves" and walked out.

Some of them just have zero bedside manner.

Sending love 🌹

Medical misogyny; it's rife. But I'm so sorry it's happened to you, especially given everything else that you're dealing with. I'm sending you all the best, and sincerely hope you don't have to encounter such godawful arseholery again.

@Wtafdidido that's both outrageous and soul destroying for you.

You would be perfectly reasonable to contact PALS if you feel able.

Do try not to waste any more of your energy nor head space on this condescending arsehole. 🌸

It’s incredible to me that you are still standing. What a trooper you are. I’m so sorry for all you are going through.

The doctor, on the other hand, is an arsehole.

That's a disgusting way to speak (and not address you) to you. I'm so sorry for both your health, the extensive treatment and side effects, but most sorry for this doctor and any other medical professionals who don't keep their patients at the core of their work.

Do you have the energy and ability to make a complaint?

This is terrible

But also, you are on steroids and he's banging on about your weight?

What is it with these people?

Please if you have the energy complain. What a self important, ignorant wankstain of a man. You have dealt with epic challenges that would floor the likes of him. He shouldn't be allowed anywhere near patients if he doesn't know how to function as a human. Big hugs x

Omg, complain. He is a disgrace.
You, however are a fucking rockstar. His opinion or the size of your arse won’t change that.

I’ve been there so many times over the years. Sometimes it’s been a doctor who was great for years that I think maybe just had a bad day. Others it was the first visit and definitely was the last.

it always hurts and it always seems to happen when we are at our most vulnerable.

one doctor was so bad that every time I ever saw her again in a hospital corridor I would have a panic attack.

i try to remember that most of my doctors are good at what they do. That doesn’t fix the problem, but I have to focus on that because I have to drag myself back to those appointments. You just have to find a way to push past it and get what you need from the system.

tldr: being sick sucks and the bad apples make it so much worse

Keep your chin up sweetheart 🤗. You are doing marvellously.
Don't let an arrogant little twit get you down

I'm so sorry you've been through so much - you've done amazingly to cope with all of that. What an awful man. Sending love.

It’s outrageous OP.
sending you hugs and 💐