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AIBU to not tell my mum about cheating dad?

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Cutie18327 · 18/05/2026 23:10

Very very long story short...

Suspicious that my dad is cheating on my mum for a period of two years. My partner has tried talking to my dad but he hasn't stopped visiting said woman. I am planning on confronting him directly (I am his daughter, so it's a very delicate situation and conversation), but my husband is under the impression that I should go straight to my mum. I worry for her health following the fall out of a potential affair.

Am I being unreasonable in wanting to confront my dad without her knowledge in the hope that he will stop? Of course if he continues past this conversation then I will tell her.

OP posts:
Crispsandcola · 19/05/2026 00:00

It's a bit late to ask this now, but why are you and your husband even involving yourselves? They're grown adults and it's their marriage. Mind your own business and let them run their own lives.

ToKittyornottoKitty · 18/05/2026 23:35

Are you happy to live in that lie for the rest of your life? You’d never be fully honest with your mum again. Does she deserve to be left in the dark and have her choices removed?

DramaAlpaca · 18/05/2026 23:23

When you confront your dad, could you tell him that if he doesn't tell your mum, you will?

suburberphobe · 18/05/2026 23:21

Hi OP, what a difficult situation to be in....

I would tell her, she deserves to know the truth.

Knowledge is power and all that....