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Ihatetomatoes · 18/05/2026 22:21

BBC news 3 out of 4 struggle to find food

A growing number of billionaires and yet shocking food famine around the world.

Shocking decisions taken to sell children.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c0q25dwj807o

A man wearing a pink turban cuddles his small daughter close in front of a cracked mud wall

Afghanistan humanitarian crisis: Ghor's starving families

In Afghanistan today, a staggering three in four people cannot meet their basic needs.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c0q25dwj807o

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EasternStandard · 19/05/2026 14:43

HerbertHunterIWasBornToLoveYouNSoul · 19/05/2026 14:37

And the Taliban are pig ignorant heathen bastards that happen to be very well armed courtesy of the good ole USA.

The weapons were handed over though.

HerbertHunterIWasBornToLoveYouNSoul · 19/05/2026 14:37

endofthelinefinally · 18/05/2026 23:14

How do you get the aid to the women and children? The Taliban won't let women and girls access education, work to earn money, access medical care, read, speak, leave their homes. They won't let anyone in to help them.
Who can we donate to that can actually help?
It is absolutely heart breaking.
Women are dying in child birth because they are not allowed to have care or to train as doctors and midwives. It is barbaric but I can't see how to help.

And the Taliban are pig ignorant heathen bastards that happen to be very well armed courtesy of the good ole USA.

Ihatetomatoes · 19/05/2026 14:36

SwirlyGates · 19/05/2026 14:35

I'm not blase about this at all, but I have no reason to believe that any aid I give would reach the children. The Taliban are a law unto themselves. In the recent earthquake, women victims were prohited from speaking to male rescuers, while female rescuers were not allowed. Afghani women no longer get an education; they cannot train as doctors or midwies, but men cannot treat women, so women cannot access healthcare.

It seems only girls are being being sold. "The choice to sell daughters over sons, is because culturally sons are widely seen as future breadwinners, and here in Afghanistan, with the Taliban's restrictions on education and work for women and girls, it is even more pronounced." That is of their own making. And it's of their own making that selling children is even possible.

https://www.jurist.org/commentary/2025/09/how-the-talibans-repression-of-women-deepens-afghanistans-earthquake-tragedy/
https://www.jurist.org/commentary/2025/09/how-the-talibans-repression-of-women-deepens-afghanistans-earthquake-tragedy/

Thanks for sharing. I'll have a read.

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SwirlyGates · 19/05/2026 14:35

Ihatetomatoes · 18/05/2026 22:58

So let them starve? The children too?

I'm not blase about this at all, but I have no reason to believe that any aid I give would reach the children. The Taliban are a law unto themselves. In the recent earthquake, women victims were prohited from speaking to male rescuers, while female rescuers were not allowed. Afghani women no longer get an education; they cannot train as doctors or midwies, but men cannot treat women, so women cannot access healthcare.

It seems only girls are being being sold. "The choice to sell daughters over sons, is because culturally sons are widely seen as future breadwinners, and here in Afghanistan, with the Taliban's restrictions on education and work for women and girls, it is even more pronounced." That is of their own making. And it's of their own making that selling children is even possible.

https://www.jurist.org/commentary/2025/09/how-the-talibans-repression-of-women-deepens-afghanistans-earthquake-tragedy/
https://www.jurist.org/commentary/2025/09/how-the-talibans-repression-of-women-deepens-afghanistans-earthquake-tragedy/

How the Taliban’s Repression of Women Deepens Afghanistan’s Earthquake Tragedy

The earth shook beneath Afghanistan once again, and as rescue workers pulled bodies from the rubble, one devastating truth became clear: half our population remains invisible even in our darkest hour....

https://www.jurist.org/commentary/2025/09/how-the-talibans-repression-of-women-deepens-afghanistans-earthquake-tragedy/

Ihatetomatoes · 19/05/2026 14:34

ginanddreams · 19/05/2026 14:28

Interesting video from WFP posted this afternoon specifically on the food crisis in AFG and for anyone more interested in the context - it’s on Instagram for anyone using that platform.

https://www.instagram.com/worldfoodprogramme?igsh=a2hhbGZiM2JoNmR

there’s also a short video on how WFP transports aid to various destinations for those interested.

I'd ont have instagram. Is it possible to copy and paste the details here? Thanks

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Ihatetomatoes · 19/05/2026 14:33

Swiftie1878 · 19/05/2026 14:30

Hey, you started the thread. Thought you wanted opinions?

You haven’t thought this through, and your charity donation is the worst sort of virtue signalling as it ends up in the pockets of abusers. You don’t want to hear that, I get it. Doesn’t make it less true though.

Look you have given me you opinion and now descended into nastiness. I totally get you think I've wasted my money. That's fine. I wouldn't judge you for sending your money to a charity. All you are doing now is getting personal, isn't your opinion enough?

You made your point, time to go and have a go at someone else now?

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Desperatelyseekinglazysusan · 19/05/2026 14:31

Ihatetomatoes · 18/05/2026 22:36

Didn't say it did. Sharing it wouldn't kill them. How much does 1 person need.

Where do you think the ' billionnaires' money would go in Afghanistan? The Taliban leaders have ££££. Some of send their own daughters to Western schools ( private boarding schools) to be educatedvwhuoe denying others and education. Maybe the Taliban should stop wasting their time policing women who dare to speak outside or whatever rubbish they are doing this week and actually run the country?

Swiftie1878 · 19/05/2026 14:30

Ihatetomatoes · 19/05/2026 14:26

Ok enough of this. It's my money and if I wish to send it to a charity that says it helps people who are starving then that's up to me. You do you.

Hey, you started the thread. Thought you wanted opinions?

You haven’t thought this through, and your charity donation is the worst sort of virtue signalling as it ends up in the pockets of abusers. You don’t want to hear that, I get it. Doesn’t make it less true though.

ginanddreams · 19/05/2026 14:28

Interesting video from WFP posted this afternoon specifically on the food crisis in AFG and for anyone more interested in the context - it’s on Instagram for anyone using that platform.

https://www.instagram.com/worldfoodprogramme?igsh=a2hhbGZiM2JoNmR

there’s also a short video on how WFP transports aid to various destinations for those interested.

WFP | World Food Programme (@worldfoodprogramme) • Instagram photos and videos

1M followers, 312 following, 1,803 posts – see Instagram photos and videos from WFP | World Food Programme (@worldfoodprogramme)

https://www.instagram.com/worldfoodprogramme?igsh=a2hhbGZiM2JoNmR

Ihatetomatoes · 19/05/2026 14:26

Swiftie1878 · 19/05/2026 14:18

Your money has gone straight into the pocket of an Afghan man. Well done. At least you’ve made yourself feel better.

Ok enough of this. It's my money and if I wish to send it to a charity that says it helps people who are starving then that's up to me. You do you.

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Swiftie1878 · 19/05/2026 14:18

Ihatetomatoes · 19/05/2026 14:16

Indeed the women and girls have it incredibly tough, it's not their fault they were born in a country with extremist islamic leaders though. Hence, why I chose to donate. Others don't. that's up to them.

Your money has gone straight into the pocket of an Afghan man. Well done. At least you’ve made yourself feel better.

Swiftie1878 · 19/05/2026 14:17

Ihatetomatoes · 19/05/2026 14:13

You misunderstand. How can a child be bad 'they're all bad as each other'. The child needed urgent medical treatment and the only way the father could keep her alive was to have that treatment and to pay for that treatment he sold/promised her to a relative as a bride for his son once she was older. It's sad that people have to do that to keep a child alive.

Are you really not getting this?
They didn’t have to sell her to keep her alive. The men in the family are trading her life and her medical bills. She’s a piece of meat.
It’s disgusting, yet you are somehow sympathising with their position.

Ihatetomatoes · 19/05/2026 14:16

OtterlyAstounding · 19/05/2026 14:14

I imagine his wife didn't get a say in finding a solution to the problem, seeing as she has no rights. Really though, is keeping their daughter alive just so she can be sold off to be raped at the age of 10, then bred like cattle, watch her children starve and die, and possibly die in childbirth herself, really a 'win'?

It's difficult to feel any sympathy for a man in Afghanistan. In fact, I have none. All my sympathy is with the women and girls who suffer the deprivations and depravities inflicted by men.

Indeed the women and girls have it incredibly tough, it's not their fault they were born in a country with extremist islamic leaders though. Hence, why I chose to donate. Others don't. that's up to them.

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OtterlyAstounding · 19/05/2026 14:14

Ihatetomatoes · 19/05/2026 14:05

The man in the clip sold his daughter to a relative to marry when she was older to pay for an operation that she needed now, to stay alive. It was in the story, perhaps you didn't read it?

I imagine his wife didn't get a say in finding a solution to the problem, seeing as she has no rights. Really though, is keeping their daughter alive just so she can be sold off to be raped at the age of 10, then bred like cattle, watch her children starve and die, and possibly die in childbirth herself, really a 'win'?

It's difficult to feel any sympathy for a man in Afghanistan. In fact, I have none. All my sympathy is with the women and girls who suffer the deprivations and depravities inflicted by men.

Ihatetomatoes · 19/05/2026 14:13

Swiftie1878 · 19/05/2026 14:07

Wow. Sounds like a delightful family.
They're all as bad as each other.

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You misunderstand. How can a child be bad 'they're all bad as each other'. The child needed urgent medical treatment and the only way the father could keep her alive was to have that treatment and to pay for that treatment he sold/promised her to a relative as a bride for his son once she was older. It's sad that people have to do that to keep a child alive.

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Swiftie1878 · 19/05/2026 14:07

Ihatetomatoes · 19/05/2026 14:05

The man in the clip sold his daughter to a relative to marry when she was older to pay for an operation that she needed now, to stay alive. It was in the story, perhaps you didn't read it?

Wow. Sounds like a delightful family.
They're all as bad as each other.

Ihatetomatoes · 19/05/2026 14:05

Swiftie1878 · 19/05/2026 08:24

Not enough to have fought for their rights.
I have no time for these men.

Instead of crying about having to SELL their daughters (to feed and access healthcare themselves!), why not mobilise and tackle the Taliban regime? Cowards, the lot of them.

The man in the clip sold his daughter to a relative to marry when she was older to pay for an operation that she needed now, to stay alive. It was in the story, perhaps you didn't read it?

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BenjiCat · 19/05/2026 12:48

Meadowfinch · 19/05/2026 12:20

Note they weren't selling their sons !!

This ☝️

Meadowfinch · 19/05/2026 12:20

Ihatetomatoes · 19/05/2026 08:07

The men in the programme clearly did care about their daughters

Note they weren't selling their sons !!

HRTQueen · 19/05/2026 12:15

WaryCrow · 19/05/2026 09:58

It’s absolute truth. And yes it’s abhorrent. These are our fathers, brothers and the sons we give life to as well as the male partners who primarily care about getting sex.

it very easy for us to say this we are here in the comfortable west where we we are all able to work/or receive benefits. we have access healthcare for us all, education and safety.

We do not fear our children starving to death, not getting basic medical care, we do not for our lives if we step out of line by whatever rule a Taliban official/soldier has decided we have done, we do not fear being beaten or worse just for speaking out, we do not fear our sons escaping abroad and never seeing them again, we do not fear our neighbours could talk to someone that puts us or our families life in real danger, we do not fear our daughters being forced into marriage, we do not fear our sons are taken at a young age to fight or to perform for old men

Its a terribly warped society and people are beyond desperate one child is tragically worth more sold to keep the rest of the family just about existing, its absolutely pitiful and I can not find it in me to be critical of a parent who is so broken to have to make such a terrible choice they feel there is no other choice, there is one other choice that has at times been made and I am sure that will have crossed many of their minds

PerkingFaintly · 19/05/2026 12:11

ginanddreams · 19/05/2026 00:09

Everyone working there is delivering on the ground. Honestly I’d never bother donating to UN as the vast majority of our funds are through country funds and we’re not very economical on a global scale… smaller local organisations are usually best in terms of impact per $, from the ones I know that do good work are only international purely because I don’t know any local ones unfortunately (CARE, Save the Children, ACF all do nutrition interventions)

Thanks so much for this list, @ginanddreams and for your posts explaining what aid does get through.

Also @noctilucentcloud for recommending the Linda Norgrove Foundation.

Like many folk I've been wanting to donate but was held back by wondering whether it would actually reach families.

There's no shortage of places in the world in desperate, desperate need of food aid at the moment, and I'm splitting my usual giving between them. I find the breadth of need can be paralysing, but I'm trying to just keep going adding my tiny stone to the hill.

BenjiCat · 19/05/2026 11:47

I also think it's interesting how the original poster's question around 'if only there was the money, resources etc from billionaires to give to these people' completely overlooks (perhaps naively) all the things wrong in Afghanistan and how money and resources are not the simple solution to solving problems there.

Marmalademorning · 19/05/2026 11:42

AniahJeremiah · 18/05/2026 22:35

It's not like their money magically appears from nowhere...

This ^

EasternStandard · 19/05/2026 11:39

BenjiCat · 19/05/2026 11:35

Very interesting framing by the BBC about the 'poor men selling children to feed their families' rather than 'these men are selling young girls/their daughters (who are very likely going to be sexually exploited) because women/girls have no rights whatsoever under the Taliban in order for the males to feed themselves'

There’s been a horrifying assault against women and girls by the Taliban for years. The BBC haven’t said much on that, but focus on the men as you say.

BenjiCat · 19/05/2026 11:35

Very interesting framing by the BBC about the 'poor men selling children to feed their families' rather than 'these men are selling young girls/their daughters (who are very likely going to be sexually exploited) because women/girls have no rights whatsoever under the Taliban in order for the males to feed themselves'

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