DD14 and concert

I'd have let mine go at that age but if youre worried could you accompany them on the tube to see them safely into the venue, then if dh is picking them up they are only on their own inside where there is security. Go through what to do in certain scenarios make sure they have a portable charger and they should be fine!

Not at a big concert… phones don’t generally connect when you’re in a venue with 1000s of others. This isn’t a reason not to let her go though.

If you’re still concerned you could ask to speak to one of the other adults going who will accompany her in. That should hopefully reassure you.

If you're worried, could you travel with them and hand then over to the adults who are looking out for them? And hang around nearby while the concert is on?

I started going to gigs on my own at 15 and don't remember it being a particularly big deal, but I'm sure my mum hated it!

But you were independent and grown up because you were allowed to be.
I would and have let my DDs do this sort of thing at 14. There will be loads of people going to and fro the concert. Sensible things, put phone away/out of sight. Have cast iron plan where to meet if the get separated ( highly unlikely). Stick together.
I mean these days you could track her!

Depends what concert. There would be a big difference between the crowd at a Taylor swift concert to a Drake or Slipknot concert.

My 14 year old has been to premier league football games on his own (ie. with other friends no adults) in a city we don't live in - I think this is fine.

Exactly, you were only more independent because your parents allowed you to be. It’s hard loosening the reins with teens, but this seems like a reasonable risk. Tell her to message you when she’s off the tube at the other end if you’re really concerned.

I think it sounds fine, especially as they’ll be in the seated area.

As a society, we are far too overprotective these days. As you said, you did similar, and depending on how old you are, perhaps without a phone!

So now is the time for you to encourage your daughter to become more independent.

How well does your daughter’s friend know these adults? If they are adults she’s close to, I wouldn’t be particularly concerned provided both your DD and her friend are sensible. If your daughter’s friend doesn’t really know them I’d be a little more cautious.

No. There’s no adults, they’re loosely connected and so will not give two hoots about your daughter.

Hmm having been to a few concerts recently where drunk idiots have been an issue, I think I'd be a bit concerned in truth. I'd want to travel each way with them to be on the safe side and wait nearby.

I guess it depends whether your dc is used to the tubes. I have 2 14 yo DDs and we’d take and want to hand over to a responsible adult. Dh is taking them to a gig in Birmingham in a couple of weeks. They’re excited to be going with him and I really can’t imagine them going without a known adult. Dd1 did that at 17. But if you live in a city it might be different to us country bumpkins.

this particular scenario, needs a lot of faith that “it’ll be fine”.

Why wouldn't it be? What do you think might happen?

The title says age 14.

I think I would take them there so you know they've got to the venue. They can meet the other people once they are there.

Eons ago when my daughter was a teenager and went to big arena concerts from age 13 with a friend, one parent would take them and drop off, friend's parent would collect, and that was in the days of no phones. I also had a rule that no one was to be left alone at any time while they were there. I'm assuming your daughter has a phone which should make your worries lessen.

Is it the first concert of this sort for your DD? Has she ever been to the venue? How reliable is she? How reliable is her friend? Where adults will be seating? Would they be allowed into venue without adults?
My decision to let her go or not would depend on all these^ details.
I would be inclined to let her go but drop her ( and her friend) there and pick them up. I wouldn’t rely on these adults much unless they are sitting together. I wonder if they only were mentioned to calm you down .
By the way I wouldn’t ask the other mum directly where they would sit as she might lie to you. She wasn’t exactly forthcoming with details until now. I would rather ask how would they contact these adults in case of emergency as concert venues often have problems with signal.

At 14 they will be denied entry without an adult accompanying them, so I assume they will physically be with an adult getting in?
As it’s seated, I would be more inclined to let her go, with a few basic instructions like what to do in an emergency etc. If it’s a large venue like Wembley, service can be patchy due to high demand but there are plenty of stewards about.

I went to Wembley stadium with a friend as part of a coach package when I was 14 (it was 1990!) and my dad picked us up from the coach stop after, I felt so grown up!

Sorry seen in the title.

Do they get the Tube regularly? If not, could you or the other mum get the Tube with them and meet the other adults and then go home?

If I were the other mum, this is what I would have offered to do.

Considering that DH is picking them up so their only tube journey is at a reasonable time, I would be fine with the arrangement even if the mum's friends weren't there.