And just like that... MAFS is over

Just had a quick watch of this. Why the hell would anyone willingly go on a show like this?

^ Exactly this.

This was a massive juggernaut of a programme heading full speed into a crash. So many involved in making the programme (especially the experts), have some responsibility.

The pressure to be sexually intimate was intense. The stirring up of conflict became an uncomfortable watch. I stopped watching the most recent series of MAFS Australia because it became more about the nasty conflict between the participants and not about finding love.

and now virgin island!

they do it for fame and fortune

honestly what did anyone expect? You throw a load of strangers together, and are then surprised when it turns out that some of them turn out to be predators?

And much of the fault here lies with the people who watch it. Because without an audience there is no market.

And this isn’t unique. Love island, imaceleb, the tv talent shows, big brother. Anything else reality, it’s all the modern day equivalent of bear bating, and the viewers love it.

I judge the people who watch these shows as much as I judge the ones who produce them.

I think she meant that him leaving when he threatened to would be a good thing - not the acid attack!

Honestly, I'm not going to be cool and pretend I've never heard of this programme but I had no idea what it entailed until now.

The whole fucking thing is nuts. Rape is absolutely abhorrent but given the nuttiness of the whole thing, why is anybody surprised.

None of these shows should be done at all. They're all gross and exploitative and the people taking part are nearly all either profoundly vulnerable or malignant narcissists. Reality tv is the modern-day equivalent of going to the amphitheatre in Rome to watch people rip each other apart. Essentially you're watching people be destroyed for your entertainment.

Amen. Who came up with this crap? I am a bit surprised that they found women to agree to it.

You don't think the next series will be cancelled! Well many hope it will, enabling abuse and rape isn't a great look, even if some think it's 'great tv'.

Wow.

Are you sad for the raped women, because you appear more sad about the end of a programme you loved, more than the traumatised women! 😮

I have never seen the programme,
i never understood the format
so grim

This.

Appalling, rapes, poor treatment, probably vulnerable people involved, but who cares eh, if it makes some great TV. Maybe they will bring out a reality hunger games to help viewers 'entertained'.

You're right, there was a definite shift a few years back and suddenly they started asking about intimacy which was entirely new.

So option 1 is going to to be raped, option 2 which you consider to be good is an acid attack.

How are any of those options a good thing?

Past Mortem about the early days of social media bullying is great too,

It’s the problem with that type of reality TV it is first and foremost a TV show not the thing it says it is e.g. an experiment or a talent competition or a competitive game. It’s why celebrity version of things are better because they are people in the industry already.

The Drag Race will be next… there is no way that Ru Paul isn’t fucking every single one of them over in some way.

It’s grim.

Once again, men demonstrating that they cannot be trusted not to rape, control and abuse women. Even on telly.

I think we need an immediate end to this kind of show.

Is anyone suprised? Really?

The speculation’s already started.

It’s just another example of how men think they own women once they are married.

My ex husband is an Asian muslin and as soon as we got married in his eyes I became his property, this was mostly influenced by his family.

I feel it’s the same with a lot of men though regardless of the culture or race (although it was the expectation in the country I lived with my ex).

With the growing popularity of the manosphere crap we are going backwards and I would never consider getting married again.

Even without marriage we see it on mumsnet constantly where women are breadwinners, pay for everything and do the majority of housework and childcare but their priority is still keeping men happy, they get away with cock lodging because they find women with low self esteem who have internalised misogyny and think it’s their job to keep a man happy.

I’ve been in that situation myself, I was working 60 hours a week with an ex who worked part time and I still felt it was my job to do the housework and put the tea on the table every night.
I have a lot of friends who won’t leave their children with their own fathers who “don’t want to babysit” or “won’t be able to cope”.

I’ve never watched MAFS but I think it’s a dangerous premise to offer marriage like it’s a prize to women who must be vulnerable and feel like they are inferior for not being married and settled and see this as an opportunity to secure marriage.
Unless it’s someone desperate to be on tv I find it worrying that someone would be happy to marry a stranger when it’s had such a low success rate. The men who take part obviously feel that they can’t meet a woman in a conventional way which would be a red flag to me.

I could have this wrong (It’s hard to give an informed opinion without watching) but the producers won’t have the contestants best interests at heart, they will just want to make good tv and have good ratings.

The women who took part have been failed and this shouldn’t have been able to happen once - never mind multiple times.

The whole thing makes a joke of marriage but does also highlight the mindset of the men who think once the papers are signed that they “own a wife”.

I watched the Panorama show tonight. Those poor women. Sex should never have been a part of this show in any way shape or form. The contestants should have had their own bedrooms/apartments from the start. The blame lies with ch4, production and cpl? And the experts. It was them and all of them alone who constantly pushed the sex.

Ive never watched this show because its not my thing Same with Love Island but i did watch the series of Celebs Go Dating that had Vanessa Feltz on there. Is Paul Brunson the same bloke that was on there?

Awful and not surprising. Blindingly obvious, amongst everything else horrendous - the fact they couldn't leave when they wanted to, because the other wanted to keep them there (?????!!!!!) was always Totally wrong.

Example of change. When Blind. Date started they couldn’t get anyone to go on it. Friend worked for Thames and was told she was appearing next episode.