What is wrong with me? Is anybody else like this?

Christ, I've had several times when I've gone to mush in a totally unneccesary way and feel embarrassed afterwards. It's worse if people usually perceive you as the calm and collected type as you get the "what's got into her?" side eye! A friend once said I was sentimental which I took to be a damning observation.

I went to see someone who was ill in hospital with my parents once and I hardly knew this person and they meant nothing to me but I sat there and blubbed as he looked so poorly. How to make someone feel even worse,eh? Mortified.

Another time a work colleague died unexpectedly and we were gathered together to be told what happened. Stunned silence from most, me sniffling and trying to hold back the wailing. Honestly, I hardly knew him and can't have said more than three words to him in the time he was there. Objectively sad but why am I getting so emotional about it? Aarrghh...

This is me too. I've never considered myself to be much of a blubber, never cried as a kid. I can hold my shit together for a funeral - was dry eyed at my own wedding, but tried to read Puff the Magic Dragon to my kids and couldn't keep it together. I was a mess. My kids and my mum were looking at me like, WTAF?

Other events I find triggering include marathons, school kids singing stuff, old people sitting on their own. Human kindness is a biggy. Can't bare it.

I used to think it was hormonal. Maybe it is? I'm menopausal now and I've gone back to being a normal person. Mostly.

You sound sweet. A lot of things make me feel emotional like art, music, scenery, cheesy scenes in films etc, some people just are more like that I think.
I am also neurodivergent so…
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Oh my goodness. Yes. Literally anything sets me off. Fireworks, bagpipes, music, movies, adverts, Britain's got bloody talent. My teenagers laugh at me, every time a movie is remotely sad, they're like are you crying yet?? I wasn't always like this either. In fact, I very rarely ever cried. It started after I had my kids. It's ridiculous. I just avoid funerals. Because guaranteed I'll be crying more than the person's immediate family and it's embarrassing, but if I try to hold it in I'll have snot bubbles bursting out of my nose. My friend is a drama teacher in a secondary school, we go and support their two big shows every year. Why am I crying watching kids I don't even know perform in a show? It's honestly ridiculous. And I physically cannot stop it from happening. I think I just have a leak. But glad to know it's not only me 😂

Reading this thread has made me feel a bit like an unemotional robot as I very rarely cry or get emotional. I don't think I have ever cried at a film or song. I think it comes from my upbringing, my parents were very unemotional too.

I'm like this too. How about Athletes and sports people winning tournaments? I'm like a fountain! The Olympics is just a sobfest. I don't even really love sports?!

This is totally me. I am too emotional at many things. I can't even sing at choir if the song is moving. I'd love to know how to stop it!

You are definitely not alone in this. I experience the same. It’s known as collective effervescence

I'm not a crier and am generally not sentimental or emotional. However if I'm in a big crowd I often feel like I could just randomly cry. It could be a concert or fun run or a busy train station. I don't know what it is but something about the presence of lots of people affects me.

Yes this happens to me too, much worse since I’ve had children so I assume it’s some sort of hormonal thing. Especially with rousing music or anything to do with children potentially being hurt, even if it’s just a story or tv show.

@DollopOfFun wet blanket? Wet fart conjured an interesting image! 🤣

This. Not Sistine Chapel crying 😢 but overwhelmed and emotional.

I was diagnosed as autistic post menopause and the menopause and HRT pushed me over the edge.

Today for example hugely stressful and I recognised it and left work (I can work from home) and even then I’m hugely stressed so it is microwave meal and Tv and bed for me.

I think this is the reason for me getting emotional..I didn't grieve properly for a close relative. I just pretended it wasn't happening and I'd see them again 😔

I think this is normal for women….

I sob reading books on the sungloungers on holiday 🤣

I cried at the Eiffel Tower lit up at night.

Picassos house in Malaga set me off.

seems I do a lot of crying on holiday 🤣

lost cat posters always get me too

I'm the same. Have got worse as I've got older. I even cried secretly watching Stitch. I can't go to the ballet.. last time I went I was a blubbering mess (no alcohol either)!!

I was watching our preschool nativity once and the little girl who was Gabriel was just so lovely the tears were pouring down my face. I felt a right wally when the woman next to me said aw, is she yours? and I had to say no 🤦‍♀️

It's definitely not you.

I've been known to cry at adverts...and key changes in certain songs physically affect me and set off. 'Perfect Gentleman' by Wyclef Jean always knocks me for six.

I can't get through a church service without welling up, even tho if h I'm fairly on the fence about religion these days.

The worst time it hit me was visiting the Parsonage in Haworth - home of the Brontë family. When we got to Bramwell's room I was just paralysed and couldn't stop crying. It was his bicentennial year and I keep meaning to go back and see if it happens again but it was very, very weird.

I cry at beautiful things that move me: particularly architecture and shows/performances where you see talent in the people doing the things. I can’t believe I’m such a lovvie. It came on after having kids; but am post menopausal now and I still do it. My kids really tease me about it (if we go to a show, before curtain up it’s “are you crying yet, mum?”). I actually don’t mind it: being moved by things is surely a good thing? I don’t tend to lose control/ do ugly snotty sobbing and no screaming or fainting in the Cistene chapel (but then I’ve never been so maybe …).

I too cried at Charles and Diana's wedding but it was because she looked like a lamb going to slaughter.

Musical performances by children. Even as a teen for my younger siblings, which I used to be so incredibly embarrassed about!

and loud noise. I recently walked through a Turkish food festival with a stage. it was just loud music (very very loud music, and I didn’t understand a single word. So that wasn’t the issue) but I realised how my eyes got a little wet.

This sometimes happen when I encounter very loud groups of people (such as demonstrations etc.) as well. Particular sympathies of mine are fairly irrelevant btw. It’s incredibly annoying because I don’t necessarily want people to assume that I’m agreeing with the protestors. It’s just my reaction to people being emotional and loud!

(I’m not bawling, hiccuping or anything. My eyes just start to water and overflow!)

I recently decided I was going to try to avoid funerals as the last two, where I was there for a family member of the bereaved, I made it all about me, as in I LEAKED tears like it was water from a tap and people were putting their arms around me. I was so annoyed at myself, especially one where the bereaved’s two very young adult children got more upset because of me. I think I should avoid wakes and funerals as a result. Op am interested to know is it new? Is it age? Hormones?

Yes to all those things too. Add in seeing funeral cars, school church service and when kids are lost in supermarkets. Yet I can do my job dealing with really vulnerable people in terrible situations and be absolutely fine. I cant even blame menopause and ive been like this my whole adult life

And I'll add that I'm also highly disciplined, organized and a very toughie cookie professionally. And I don't want this splendid contradiction in myself to be "resolved" as a PP put it!

Ugh me too and I hate it. If I try and tell a story that has any kind of feel good aspect, my voice breaks and my kids roll their eyes and ask if I’m crying. Pathetic