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AIBU to think my husband's cricket takes up too much time?

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cricketwidow12 · 18/05/2026 11:19

Is this too much cricket? My husband absolutely adores playing cricket. He goes to train once a week (and pub afterwards), and one day at the weekend (could be Saturday or Sunday). As the Sunday games are a full day, he's usually gone by 11am and not back till 8pm, or later. We have a lovely 6 year old son and whilst I want my DH to be happy, I do think it's a bit much sometimes. This Saturday e.g. he only came home shortly before midnight because they went for dinner afterwards. I know the season is short, but am I BU for finding this excessive?

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Loopylalalou · 18/05/2026 11:31

I share your pain but DH plays a different seasonal sport, sometimes 6/7 days a week.
Im a fairly self contained person so generally I’m not bothered as I do my own ‘stuff’ (and don’t have to tolerate his crap on TV), but he knows that every so often, not to schedule a game, but have ‘us’ time instead. We generally don’t do anything exciting - go to ikea, lunch out was last done - but it’s time together.
I’ve been married for 35 years. Believe me that give and take is at the heart of all long relationships.

DappledThings · 18/05/2026 11:29

It isn't the cricket, it's the rest of it.

DH plays one day a weekend and yes, it's often the whole day once you factor in travel. He also does a nets session once a week usually. But he's completely present the rest of the time.

I don't resent the cricket season because he doesn't always stay for a drink afterwards to lengthen the day and he does entirely his fair share in the off-season and the rest of the weekend.

It's the other stuff he's not doing that you resent, not the cricket time itself.

Afirat · 18/05/2026 11:26

How long is the season?

FoxandDuck · 18/05/2026 11:24

I know it might sound like forever at the moment, but you’re only 7 yrs away from your DS being able to play in the men’s teams and be in matches together. I love watching the fathers & sons play at DS’ club. It is so heartwarming.

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cricketwidow12 · 18/05/2026 11:23

WheretheFishesareFrightening · 18/05/2026 11:20

It’s very normal for cricket season from what I can tell with friends - but my friends all take their kids with them and the kids play cricket too, so I think it’s out of order you’re left to pick up the parenting slack.

I don't mind to pop down to the cricket ground (when they play at home, that is) for an hour or so, but both my son and me find it incredibly boring.

I think I'm also peed off because I do most of the active parenting in terms of running after my son and go to the forest etc. Might have to have a talk to my husband about doing more "active" parenting when he is home.

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youalright · 18/05/2026 11:21

Yabu everyone is allowed a life outside kids and work. Like you say it seasonal twice a week.

WheretheFishesareFrightening · 18/05/2026 11:20

It’s very normal for cricket season from what I can tell with friends - but my friends all take their kids with them and the kids play cricket too, so I think it’s out of order you’re left to pick up the parenting slack.

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