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AIBU for staying in the UK this half term?

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hopingforsunshiiiiine · 18/05/2026 10:54

My parents live abroad (I'm originally from Europe, stayed after uni, have a husband and 1 DC). My parents and me are very close and I visit a lot- so much that lots of my friends say it's excessive (most of the summer holiday, most Christmases and the occasional half term). Recently my mother has been unwell so I have seen her every month since Christmas! This may half term, we've decided that for once we will stay in the UK, do a cheap staycation. I spoke to my mum this morning and she literally got a twitchy eyebrow me saying that I won't be coming home this May. I suggested them visiting instead (she's totally fine to visit now and much better health- wise) but she didn't want to. AIBU to make me feel bad for not going this one half term?? It's really expensive to fly over all the time and it would be much easier if they visited!

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hopingforsunshiiiiine · 18/05/2026 12:11

MrThorpeHazell · 18/05/2026 12:09

I wouldn't commit to that sort of regular visiting with my own DM and she's only 70-odd miles down the M4!

YANBU but your DM most certainly is!

Thank you for your reply. I think the problem is that I feel guilty for being far away and trying to make up for it. But it's just getting all too much and I can't believe she'd raise an eyebrow that one half term we're actually staying home!

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MrThorpeHazell · 18/05/2026 12:09

I wouldn't commit to that sort of regular visiting with my own DM and she's only 70-odd miles down the M4!

YANBU but your DM most certainly is!