AIBU to question nursery refusing drop off before a planned outing?

That's a disgusting idea

I've not voted either way. On the one hand it would piss me off if you were late a lot, I take it it should be a 9am drop off? But on the other hand surely you've paid from 9am so what skin off their nose is it? And they rang to ask if you would be in, so surely they had the correct ratio then??

They would not be able to cancel her space, the only reason a child is not allowed in is if they are unwell, they ratios stay the same if you are going out so not sure why they

it's the OP's willingness to be on time at work or for drop off that is being discussed here, not the 2 year old. No one is talking about the timekeeping skills of a toddler 😂

@7238SM Did you really just compare a two year olds attendance at paid childcare with an adults attendance in a workplace? Do you not see how this is not the same at all?! 😂

Would it actually bother you that much? Surely nursery is fairly optional? They work for the parents, not the other way around!

I remember my dgd was physically sick if going to nursery and never settled. We found a lovely child minder at half the price and child loved it. Childminder focus was to get child ready for next step, which was school nursery at aged 3
Worked a treat and never had any further issues with nursery or school.
Might be worth a try, some children hate the nursery situation if sent at the wrong age and homely setting of childminder was much better.

I didn’t say they have no routines, I said most of the activities are play based. I agree a visual timetable of the plan for the day is helpful for lots of children but that’s completely unrelated to this discussion. For what it’s worth, it doesn’t seem like OPs nursery sticks to their timetable which is what this thread is meant to be about!

Most children spend most of their time at nursery engaged in activities and play. It would be a very strange nursery where all of the children are so disrupted by an adult dropping off a child. They are usually busy, playing.

Exactly! Some people really have no concept that not every child is the same. I have three DC and each of them have been completely different when it comes to heading to nursery/preschool.

They shouldn’t have done that but they’re clearly frustrated with you. It’s disruptive having children arrive at various times, especially if they’re a child who needs more attention at drop off. I think an honest conversation about how hard you’re finding it would help.

if you are happy for your child to be the only one not at the park, on a forest walk or in the pet shop - or whatever toddler outing they have that day, fair enough, and you don't expect everyone else to wait for him to arrive.

You're being unreasonable to suggest that a toddler should be made to sleep in the next days clothes to save time. Would you like to spend all day in the same clothes you've slept in the night before?

I pay for nursery from 8am each day but drop off any time between 9 and 10 usually, depending on how our morning has gone (you have my sympathies cos getting a toddler out the house can be VERY hard despite what some posters have said). I have never been told I'm late! It should not matter what time you drop off. This sounds crazy to me and you are not bring unreasonable OP, the nursery are being awful. You are paying them for a service and have no obligation to be there at a specific time as it should have no bearing at all.

No, it’s just the transition some children struggle with at times. Mine had a phase where he cried when I dropped him and then again when I picked him up, he found it equally as hard to say goodbye to me in the morning as to his key worker in the afternoon. Still he was happy at nursery as soon as he was in, and happy with me once we crossed the street and started walking home.

I’m not sure you can be “late” for nursery, unless it’s school nursery of course.

I’d be making a complaint and requesting a refund for the session they denied your child due to their own staffing issues.

If they said she needed to be there by whatever time, and you were, then it's not ok.
Maybe you can wfh, but a lot of people can't, and we would be sacked if we just didn't turn up for work.

I presume she was meant to be there at 9.00 so they could leave 9.30? In that case you were late - again - and expected them to make your lack of planning their stress to take on. But it isn't.

Sounds like it although maybe they did need child physically there earlier to do pre-trip checks such as paperwork etc.

That would be a fantastic theme for weddings 😂😂

funny how it's only challenging when convenient. It suddenly becomes a breathe when people have a plane to catch or parent have a beauty appointment 😂

absolute nonsense and you know it.

Of course, they PLAY, that's a nursery, not med school.
They still have routines with settling, breakfast, outings, and whatever else they're doing. It helps a lot of children to see the drawings with the outline of the day, how funny you don't know that despite your wide experience and knowledge?

The disrespectful parent who turn up when everybody is finally settled and start unsettling the other kids because it's not their own parent there should be banned when they are so casual about it.

it's part of nursery to go on "trips" from the park next door, to the pet shop, to retirement homes sometimes and tens of other different places.

The late arrival of one child because their parent is happy for everybody else to be ready for them is disruptive.

In secondary, it's the teacher who is inconvenienced (and that's not acceptable) but in nurseries it's the other children and that's just wrong.

You beat me to it! What even is this reply? Sleep in her clothes, what on earth?🤦🏻‍♀️

What is their drop off policy? Sins nursery’s have a specific time frame and if you’re trying to drop off outside of that they have the right to refuse.

Yanbu x

So they were leaving at 9.30. Should you have been at nursery for 9am, and the 10 past is late, or is your drop off time 9.15?
If drop off is 9am and you aren't there then they don't have to wait for you. However I'd be pissed if they said they would wait and didn't.