Just had a friend hide from me!

I’m quite chatty but if I’m on my way somewhere or doing food shop I don’t really like to see people as I end up wasting time.

Where is the holiday? Have you spent a lot on the booking? You sound very generous & it’s a bit thoughtless of them to not even acknowledge your birthday.

Maybe she is feeling a bit uncomfortable about the Generous ‘free’ trip.

I hate this for her! I have some times where I'm stressed or overwhelmed from a crazy morning and I cant talk to anyone.
You say she's normally chatty and that's all good and well but we all have off days.
I really wouldn't take it personally at this point and not make her feel embarrassed by bringing it up!
Of course there could be another reason like she's changed her mind about the holiday but that will come to light soon enough.
Life is hard enough...dont make it worse for her if she's already having a bad day by making an issue out of it

Do they really need to go away with you and your other friend? Couldn’t just the 2 of you go?

If she was trying to hide from you and she, and the other girl haven’t been in touch that is really rotten for them to be acting that way especially as you have offered them a space on this holiday. WAs it these 2 girls that didn’t get you a birthday card?

What are they like with your other friend? Have they been in contact with her, or avoiding her too?

Most of the comments are making an excuse for the friend, actually.
I think this is just a sign of how individualistic and selfish our society is becoming.

You owe your friends a little nod or wave, at the very least. Put a bit of effort for your friend, if it’s hard at that moment. Hiding from them is ridiculous and rude.

It’s a Monday morning, it’s freezing and pissing down and she just couldn’t be arsed to chat. I get it.

Surely you have seen someone you know well, and swerved them because you didn’t want to chat?

A friend of mine did the same thing. Parked outside my work place. As I was leaving I seen her car. She seen me. She leant over into the passenger seat, opened the glove compartment and basically stuck her head fully inside it as if she was frantically looking for something. Her window was down slightly, so I just said hi, what you doing here? She acted very surprised that I would be here, at my work place, despite the fact she was parked right behind my car, that she is very familiar with... Turns out she was shagging my colleague behind her husband's back and was there to pick him up. I just happened to be working later than usual. Caused untold dramas, the husband believed I had introduced the two of them, because I work there. No longer a friend, unfortunately 😂

If she's one of the people having a holiday paid for by you and one other, she was massively rude.

@Nefrititi Did she wish you on your birthday?

Look these are odd dynamics. You have 2 friends being subsidised on a holiday by two others. That's a very awkward dynamic no matter how you dress it up.

Then on the basis of her not saying hi one morning, you have jumped to huge conclusions and decided to step back from an entire friendship. Are you prone to overthinking/catastrophising?

All of this is a LOT over one person's desire one morning to avoid a chat.

Don’t worry-she’s obviously a Mumsnetter. NFM. (normal for Mumsnet)

This was my first thought!

Be prepared op just in case.

Either way, it’s slightly alarming to read how many people would crassly pursue this. Life is complicated sometimes. If they are a friend, trust them that now is not a good time for whatever private reason they have and exercise a bit of discretion and move on.

She may be upset, feeling unwell, about to make a difficult phone call, just received some awful news, meeting someone in secret, have unexpectedly bled through her trousers (the latter happened to me once during perimenopause and I had to wave and run from someone I knew), be having a difficult morning for a thousand reasons that is completely unrelated to you op!

Let her be. She’ll have had a good reason. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t like you. She may have had a bad night’s sleep, just got home from a night of romance, felt poorly, just had an argument with someone, or just plain didn’t feel like it.

Perhaps she didn't fancy a chat, even a 2 min one this morning?
Sometimes I don't...things on my mind, a rough start to the day.
I would hope/assume that good friends would get that, and not get upset about something this trivial.

Nowtso queer as folk. Your gut instinct is probably right. Sounds like she didn't want to engage.

You know you don't need to say FFS? Unnecessarily rude.

I recognise a fellow overthinker in the OP and I suspect that if she doesn't get it out in the open it'll fester and likely turn into something else that it never was. You're perfectly entitled to disagree of course but you don't have to be so arsing rude about it.

I would let it go, otherwise will overshadow enjoyment of your holiday

I wouldn’t take this personally. As many people have said, she could be in a rush/unwell/looks a state/late for something/just not feeling sociable.

I generally love to bump into people and have a chat, but I’ve done the same thing as your friend twice in the last couple of months. A few weeks ago I was running late to the dentist and was trotting down the Main Street, and I saw a friend on the other side of the road. I quickly put my head right down and chatted away to my baby in his pram, hoping she wouldn’t notice me. Not because I didn’t want a chat, I was just so late. Another time recently I was in Sainsbury’s, having a really bad day and had recently been crying, I saw a colleague who I get in really well with, we’re good friends outside of work. I normally love to see her but knew I looked a mess and would burst into tears if she asked if I was okay. So I ducked down the veg aisle and avoided her. It’s nothing personal.

I'm having a horrific couple of years (!?) and often cry in my car on the way to work. I then get out and the short walk clears my head and lets my face settle down.

I would hazard a guess very few people would guess that was a near-daily occurrence for me. It easily could be for her too.