Just had a friend hide from me!

I said ignore. I genuinely wouldn't give it another thought. Any well-balanced, non-paranoid person would just think 'Weird', ascribe it to a sudden phonecall/text, an attack of zits, just not being ready to see someone etc and not think any more about it.

But this is Mn, where people have 'friends' they've never much liked, and go on holiday bafflingly often with people who aren't particularly nice to them. And where someone not waving to you across a street is a valuable opportunity to cancel an upcoming holiday and 'go NC'.

Whaaaat? Why on earth would you want to see a friend squirm? Fhs 🤷‍♀️

As pp said to text..take a call.
Stressful day or many others
Perhaps kidnapped into the white van
Let it go...i will bypass people when i am inna stressed state or very tired..let it go or ask when you can

I'm sorry but I think most of the replies saying oh just ignore it are from people who wouldn't say that if it was them.
I would definitely ask her why she was hiding from you! And see her squirm. Then I would cancel the holiday for her.
She is totally taking the piss and there is no excuse for her behaviour. This is not a friend and dosnt deserve your kindness. CF indeed.

Maybe she's had a tough weekend and just didn't want to make small talk.

It’s a bit odd and I wouldn’t do it to a good friend, but very occasionally I’ve done something similar.

I went to the local petrol station shop on Saturday. As I pulled up I noticed a friend’s husband in the shop. He’s a nice guy, I get on with him, but for various reasons I just could
not be arsed with a conversation, so I sat in the car “faffing” until he’d left the shop and driven off.

I do this when I'm having a bad day and can't face talking to anyone.
I wouldn't take it personally.

I’d probably send her a quick text asking if she was ok. I agree with pp though, she and the other one aren’t really your friends but if you do go on holiday just enjoy yourself and distance yourself from them after it.

I apologise if I hurt your feelings but you were acting entitled.

No one owes you a conversation and no one owes you an explanation of why they didn’t have a conversation with you.

If you’re an over-thinker then in the gentlest way, it’s your problem and no one else’s.

OP has said this woman has a lot of things going on and as she’s normally chatty and friendly, something was obviously wrong that day and it’s not for you or OP to be prying or making it personal.

This definitely. I’ve pretended I haven’t seen people in the past, not because I didn’t want to talk to them, but that I haven’t wanted to talk to anyone. I’ve just seen them at a bad time.

Maybe she was pooing behind the van

I wouldn't judge it on this alone. Obviously if there are other things she starts doing it might mean something more. Maybe she had a medical issue. Sometimes I avoid people if it's some issue like that.

She probably didn’t have time or wasn’t dressed properly. Maybe the little chats hold her up in the morning, who knows? I wouldn’t be offended.

That hurts. No way around it. Whether she was avoiding a chat or avoiding you specifically, hiding behind a van is weird and childish.
A few possibilities. She was in a rush and didn't want to stop. She's stressed about something and avoiding people in general. Or she's avoiding you specifically.

Why are you paying for her holiday?

Sometimes in the mornings when I do the school run I can’t be bothered to speak to anyone. I look and feel like shit - young children, my dad is very poorly and I have a lot going on at work. I would avoid anyone. It’s nothing personal I just want to get home and have 5 mins peace and get myself together before I start my day.

Maybe she just didn't feel like chatting for whatever reason?

I know I've deliberately avoided people from time to time as I just couldn't be arsed, and it was no reflection on them.

@Sj07 This is the first thing that crossed my mind, OP. That the 'getting a lift to work' is not exactly what is going on here and she doesn't want you to find out.

I would put it down to her not wanting to face anyone and chat for what ever reason.
Maybe she was in a bad mood, felt unwell, was rushing etc and didn't even want to do the 'sorry, im in a rush, catch you later' speech.
I know there gave been days where I could hardly manage a smile, let alone a ' hi'!

It would be a cold day in hell before I went on holiday with somebody who blatantly hid from me rather than even wave and shout ”sorry can’t stop, running late!” never mind paying for it.
I would personally speak to cousin and discuss this holiday arrangements.
I would be of the opinion that the voucher has gone out of date so if you want to come you pay. I genuinely couldn’t enjoy myself with her there knowing l had paid for her to come on holiday and she so blatantly ignored me.

if she’s a good enough friend to go on holiday with she should be ok with a message saying hey why don’t you say hello today?!

She probably hasn't put her makeup on .... I can't face people without mine
Just drop her a text
"Really looking forward to next week ... I think I saw you this morning? Everything ok"?

I think your overthinking i avoid people when im in a rush to

What? 😂