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Just had a friend hide from me!

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Nefrititi · 18/05/2026 09:10

I was just on the way back from the school run, I live on a main road so people can park all along it.
A good friend of mine parks there as she gets a lift into work from someone who lives up the road from me.
As I’m pulling up on my drive I see her getting out of her car but I’m already passed her to beep to acknowledge her (she defo sees me at this point)
So as I’m reversing on my drive I see her cross over the road (she normally walks my side and we’ll wave or a quick chat)
Then as I’m reversing she hides behind a large van opposite so that I can’t see her as I’m parked facing the road!
So I waited in my car to see if she would emerge the other side of the van but she didn’t. It was so obvious!
The thing is I’m the last person to hold someone up or chat for ages (massive introvert) and she’s the opposite and absolutely loves a chat.
We are actually going on holiday together next Monday with 2 other girls (me and one of the girls are paying for it as a treat as the other 2 are financially struggling).
I know I can be really sensitive but that just really hurt this morning. Also was my birthday in March and I didn’t even get a card from the 2 girls.

OP posts:
Chapbook · 18/05/2026 09:17

Poppingby · 18/05/2026 09:15

You need to text her right now and ask her why she was hiding behind a van this morning. You can do it jokily but it needs to come out into the sunlight asap. It is probably something like she was in a rush or some other reason and if she is going on holiday with you next week it is really unlikely she hates you or whatever your mind is saying right now.

Or she could just dismiss it as the utterly unimportant thing it was and leave it.

Laiste · 18/05/2026 09:17

As for the holiday - you and 3 others. But only you and one other are paying? Is it this friend who's one of the freebie ones? Did she get you a birthday card?

sorry for all the questions!

Chapbook · 18/05/2026 09:16

For heaven's sake, OP, are you normally this paranoid? She stopped to answer her phone or send a text. Or she has broken out in spots or not combed her hair and didn't want to be seen close up. Or something upsetting has happened since you last saw her and she's not up for chatting?

OvernightBloats · 18/05/2026 09:16

Probably nothing to do with you at all. Just a bad time for her for some reason. You may find out what the reason is, you may not.

Try not to take it personally. If you are going on holiday together, you must be good friends.

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 18/05/2026 09:15

Do you ever play hide and seek with her? Maybe she was trying to start a game?

Poppingby · 18/05/2026 09:15

You need to text her right now and ask her why she was hiding behind a van this morning. You can do it jokily but it needs to come out into the sunlight asap. It is probably something like she was in a rush or some other reason and if she is going on holiday with you next week it is really unlikely she hates you or whatever your mind is saying right now.

Laiste · 18/05/2026 09:14

Are you sure she hadn't just stopped to take a call or text?

BashfulClam · 18/05/2026 09:12

i’d have to mention it!