AIBU to tell DH to split his inheritance with his half siblings?

He won’t. My child is the executor of his will. And his children wouldn’t stand for it.

He absolutely will cut your child out. It's a certainty. Give your kid the money now instead.

Did his mum's estate just pass to his dad? Was that just half of their joint money or was she independently wealthy? If it was all just the accumulated wealth from his mum and dad's life together, not sure the half siblings are entitled to any of it really. How much was her estate at the time of her death rather than the total estate now? What has happened to inheritances from the half siblings dad and possible step mum? I guess he either honours his mother's wishes or his dad's. If he chooses to do what his mother wanted I assume it could be £500k/3 each although his dad may have accumulated wealth after his wife's death as well which would be purely his dad's to give to his son.

As the OP has steadfastly not returned to answer the questions of who and how mother's wishes were known I don't think anyone can say with certainty what her wishes were.

My wishes are very clear in my mirror will but if I die first there’s nothing to stop my bloke rewriting his to cut my child out.

Then you should see a solicitor about writing a new will that ensures that that can't happen. You say he would never do it, but circumstances might arise that mean there is nothing left to pass on to your child by the time he dies.

I would encourage your husband to keep it all. His dad wanted him to have it.

It is still a revolting take to call an adopted child a cuckoo.
Some Muslim countries that follow Sharia law do not allow for full adoption, which creates a different set of legislation.
Meanwhile, in countries that do allow it, a child is equal once adopted.

If people keep their will with a solicitor it cannot just be ripped up. You are suggesting this man has done because for whatever reason you are opposed to adoption.

Adopted kids were excluded from inheritance BY LAW until recently. And in many countries adopted kids are STILL EXCLUDED from inheritance

Do you know how many wills get ripped up when someone dies? A huge percentage.

nice to think you think life is all goody-2 shoes, sadly it isnt

We don’t know that she didn’t since OP hasn’t come back. My wishes are very clear in my mirror will but if I die first there’s nothing to stop my bloke rewriting his to cut my child out. Fortunately I know he’d never contemplate it.

His mum clearly didn’t feel very strongly about it as she would have ensured it happened.

Now his dad’s wishes are the ones that matter. He obviously wanted his son to have everything.

You can’t tell him what to do.

His dad was the one who should have followed his wife’s wishes if anyone and he chose not to. Your husband doesn’t want to give them money and I agree with him. It was on his dad, not him. If he had a close relationship with them, I’d think differently, but he doesn’t.

If she really had those wishes she’d have made a will.

What a revolting take. To call an adopted child a cuckoo and suggest they deserve less than biological children. In the eyes of the law, adoption makes you a child of the family, an equal to any biological children. And the implication that someone has ripped up the mum's will is completely unfounded.

I don't disagree that something should have gone to the mum's first two children, but it needed to be based on the valuation of her estate when she died, not the final combined value.

It’s nothing to do with the relationship. He knows what his mum’s wishes were and is going against them. It’s disrespectful to her memory and completely lacking a moral compass.

His mum is dead. If his mum wanted things done differently that was for her to sort out when she was alive or for her to ensure her husband honoured. Her husband chose not to. As OPs husband doesn’t have much of a relationship with them, he owes them nothing.

Way to miss the point - they’re his mum’s children as much as he is and he’s going against her wishes. It wouldn’t matter if he’d never met them.

Nope. I’d be supporting him to keep it. He hardly knows them.

Cuckoos. Push out from the nest biological kids to their deaths and steal all the food.

I misread the post, forgot he was adopted. Blood is thicker than water, so he should give money to his mum’s biological kids.

biological kids rank above stepkids, half kids, step kids in my book.

also, the OP, like all OPs, frame their post to make them look the best and to illicit validation from mumsnetters.

when I read he said the Kensington property was £1m I thought “and the rest”. He’s been left a sizeable chunk of cash, so leaving his mum’s biological kids money would be the right thing to do.

in the animal kingdom when kids from another male turn up, they are murdered, so that explains why the father who inherited the wife’s estate ignored some other man’s kids.

because there are so many blended families now, parents really need to make a will and give copies to potential beneficiaries to make sure on their death, the surviving spouse doesn’t rip up their will leaving potential beneficiaries with nothing.

If your DH thought anything of his Mum he'd do as above. I'd be put off of a dh who kept it all to himself.

Why has this only come up now, it must be years since his dad died.

When my DM made her will she wanted to leave her estate to me, her only child. But she also wanted to leave my DH enough to buy a nice car, because she said he'd always been good to her.

My DM's solicitor advised against specifying an amount but rather told her to tell me what I should do when I inherited her estate. I told him to buy a new car, and he bought a totally impractical Morgan kit car.

I think the idea was if DM had spent all her money on care home fees I would still inherit something and wouldn't have to give DH money to spend on a car.

But if you inherit over £1m it seems very sh*tty not to give your half siblings the money they'd been promised.

So maybe shouldnt have been so high and mighty in your final line?

I do hate how so many judgements on here are "very unattractive" or "gives me the ick." Such a weird way to think about moral quandries.

If his half siblings are retired, and lost his mother in his 20s, its likely that his mother was of the generation where many women left all financial matters in the hands of their husband.