To expect people to be upfront with any ‘kinks’

😂

Hi, I’m John,
I like movies, long country walks, and pegging.

So he said his ‘advice’ to me would be to be broader minded.

My advice to him is to tell women he likes it up the arse before the first date!

Tell all your friends the reason you dumped him… you could use a laugh.

it may not be to MN's taste but it remains true that some women whole heartedly enjoy pegging, some women whole heartedly enjoy anal sex, men do not need to be either gay or bi to enjoy anal, and not all kinky people are like this frankly astonishing individual OP has met.

Frankly a single life would be massively more appealing than putting up with shit like that.

Having read his response - you have absolutely dodged a bullet. What a loser! Hope you soon feel that way too.

given my age I am really going to be limiting my options of who would be in a relationship with me longer term

What a bitchy thing to say

Red flag reply !!
U have done the best thing and do not change your sexual tastes for others u will find a lovely like minded decent respectful partner big hugs 🤗

I have yet to see strap on boobs and vulvas that men wear to play out a fantasy for woman but I am sure more open minded posters on here will be aware of them

I do not think a man is necessarily gay or bi if he wants a strap on used on him i do believe he is playing out a fantasy that is not about woman, if his partner is fine with that then that's all ok but I suspect many are just told it just feels good

and so often woman are coerced into these fun games that far more often about males fantasies

This man isnt straight 😭

Theres nothing wrong with being gay, I dont know whats wrong with you, noone is eurghing

Theres everything wrong with a man being in the closet, trying to manipulate a kind woman into pegging him

Calling a straight man who's trying to coerce a woman into pegging a "closeted gay" is homophobic.

It isn't just gay people who are associated with anal, in fact many of them aren't interested in it for exactly the same reason as many women aren't..

So for women to automatically go EEERGH HES CLOSET GAY COS HE WANTS SOMETHING UP HIS ARSE is actually really fucking offensive.

Essentially he had a go at manipulating you into compliance and acceptance by telling you you’re old and that nobody will want a relationship with you and hence you will end up and die alone🙄🙄

And he is positioning himself as an authority qualified enough to give you unbiased (of course🙄) advice around broadening your mindset.

Because of course, there are plenty of women that want a manipulative patronising partner with a pegging fetish and a mistress to deliver that to him. They will be fighting each other over him. Riiiight🤣🤣

So now you know why all the exes are exes. If not for his concealed fetish, it will be because he is a patronising and trully an unpleasant specimen (when things don’t go his way).

If i were you i would tell my family the reason for the split. This is not your secret to carry, screw him.

Wow. What an utter pig. I have been with these boundary pushers , especially when younger, so glad he showed himself now.

I would add to that people should feel shamed about wanting to be chock a partner, it is a violent and dangerous act, it is never ever safe

but another kink woman have been coerced into thinking is just a bit of fun and now often called breath play

Sounds very familiar. Put me off for a long time.

I'd be very, very concerned if he'd struggle to go without it.

My ex preferred doggy style, then he wanted to try butt plugs, then he was into pegging. Turned out he was bi and had been using me to act out his gay fantasies for nearly 20 years.

People can say it's a straight man's kink and I can tell you that you have no idea if it is or not.

I never said she wasn't a woman

I said about the fantasy being played out

I'm not dragging gays into anything 😤

I said some closeted gays are misogynistic

Which this man is imo 🤷‍♀️

The main problem here isn't the kink itself.

HTH.

A very apt comment it transpires! 😄

Seriously though OP, this man was a bad one - I'm glad you threw him back.
I agree he wasted your time and it's appalling that he tried to make you feel bad about breaking it off with him. It sounds like he's paid for this act plenty of times and would attempt to manipulate you into it constantly.

A nasty man unfortunately.

Omg OP, that escalated. Well done for giving him the heave ho. He obviously thought that if he reeled you in long enough, you'd do anything.

You have done the right thing. My nasty ex started with asking if I'd go swinging. I said no. He said he respected my decision but still went on and on about it. Then there was a bit of tame S&M, which over time escalated to the extent I was covered in bruises. He told me his fantasy was to watch other men humiliate me. It was awful, his sexual behaviour got worse and worse. Now with a lovely man and it's an absolute relief to be in a normal, loving relationship.

You have dodged a bullet.

I used more generalised language because it isn’t just about penetration/ things being inserted, there’s all kinds of other enjoyment which you surely know about judging by your research

Can you not drag gays into this straight blokes kink?

Pegging is a heterosexual man kink - because the man likes to be pegged by A WOMAN, who is a member of the opposite sex, are you seeing how this works?

Good for him you. Keep screen shots of your messages and carry through your promise of any more messages to contact the police immediately.

I too like others like he has been indulging his ‘urge’ during your relationships, so you may want to consider an STD test if you have been using the pill for contraception. I always insisted on condoms and didn’t believe I’ve had vasectomy or I’m infertile or whatever - really ok but it’s my womb and I need it protected and you are paying the condoms. An ex of mine pulled a stunt not the same but he had met various important people and he then popped in to see them (!) to try to get them to ask me to reconsider dumping him and fortunately they sent him off with a flea in his ear. But if he knows your parents’ address it might be worth giving them a heads up

They’re always exes aren't they. 🤔