To expect people to be upfront with any ‘kinks’

Well tbh it is a legally murky thing to do. And morally it is also grubby. Strangulation is a mark of domestic violence. It’s now specifically criminalised for that reason.

It’s one of those conveniently unverifiable defences of “she was up for it m’lord” used by defence counsel all the time. With apparent consent being the reason.

I think it’s one area where the presumption of consent as a defence should not apply. The risk to life is innate. People who are responsible in BDSM have little to worry about in that case. A sadistic domestic abuser would.

Tbf, sexuality aside, it's not true that all men enjoy the sensation of prostate stimulation - just as not all women enjoy 'g spot' stimulation.

Sadly this has ended in death for some women and the defence is 'she wanted to do it'. It's pretty sick to cut off air and potentially cause brain damage or death. I'd find anyone suggesting it's ok to have a problem.

Urgh so sorry!!

💐wow!! Just read your update about the video link. What an absolute creep. I know it is an American saying, but no wonder women these days are choosing the bear

I would feel sorry for your friend, given the issues she clearly has around orgasm, but I would happily shame any man who is willing to repeatedly strangle a woman, cutting off the blood to her brain.

It appears to unavoidably cause brain damage, is more dangerous than waterboarding, and is the second most common cause of stroke in women under 40. A man should be ashamed of risking/causing that sort of harm.

I absolutely don't want to look at your posting history, self-named-Barbie-who-justifies-cutting-off-womens-air-during-sex. And what do you mean, just because I haven't come across it? I literally said I'd come across it and it's fucked up. That's what you're complaining about, remember?

It is fucked up. Stop justifying it.

Met men like me??

Look at my posting history, I am very much female. And I wasnt boasting or normalising anything, im just saying what my friend had shared with me. Just because you havent come across it, doesnt mean it doesnt exist and precisely why kink shouldnt be shamed.

Negging

Well then that's fucked up, isn't it?

I would say I can't believe you think this makes you right, but actually I can. I've met men like you, and the women for whom you think this is such a great favour and, yeah... fucked up. And yeah, I've done some pretty non vanilla stuff myself, let's say, but this, and you coming on here to justify and boast about it? Fucked up.

Off-topic, but considering that massive limitation, and the dangers inherent in even 'properly done' strangulation, it sounds as though she might benefit from therapy to try to overcome whatever issue it is that's preventing her from achieving orgasm without having the blood to her brain cut off.

not sure what the hth is about

it’s an extremely dangerous practice it stops oxygen reaching the brain and that can’t never be done safely

that she can’t have an orgasm with her partner without resorting to something so dangerous and her partner willing to do this is shameful on her partner to take that risk on her

but many men especially are very willing to do this and they are either extremely stupid or abusive or for many a bit of both

Erm she was never able to orgasm with a partner until it happened. HTH

I've read your replies wow ...there is nothing at all wrong with you in we all enjoy different things.. I couldn't put up with that in a relationship..
Good on you for walking away and blocking him he has hidden this from you in the hope that by meeting your parents he has found someone he cam do this with.
Not to be trusted this kind of man what else could he be hiding about himself ... keep going forward he isn't the one x

Think long term he is telling you his truths ... this will become an issue you need to be in sync.
The fact he met your parents first and then you find out I don't like its like he has a foot in so can now be his real self.
Draw a line under it I know its hard .. walk away tell your parents in a month or so it didn't work out after all they don't need ins and outs . X

I don't know if he's gay, but I do know he's a disgusting misogynistic tosspot. Not because he likes pegging but because of how he's treated OP.

The man that wants to be pegged by a rubber penis?

The man who thinks so little of women that he thinks its alright to manipulate them into giving him a family? (No doubt after which he'll suddenly realise his sexuality - we see it so much on mn!)

Closeted misogynist. End of for me.

I said why. There is nothing to suggest this man is sexually attracted to men. You are reducing same sex relationships to one sex act.

I doubt he's "done without it" for more than a day or two!

Priceless 😂

He might not have done it with his ex's. It might be a new idea and that's why he's waited until now. I assume it's anal. Saying he can't go without is weird as he has for several months quite happily

Yuk. Get rid sooner than later, I'd throw him back.

I think he very much kept his true nature hidden.
The timing is highly manipulative.
You are well out of it.

From your experience I think cards on the table much earlier on might be wise.

I certainly wouldn't believe that the majority of women would be enthusiastically keen, why else would he be so manipulative in the way he dropped this.

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