To expect people to be upfront with any ‘kinks’

Okay head of mumsnet, boss of aibu, my post will remain, thanks entirely to you

Not me, who posted it. And not the guidelines which you seem to think ive broken.

He has been very manipulative all through your relationship, he hid that he likes to be pegged until he had hooked you in and then told you after you had introduced him to your parents. Then he revealed his true self with the texts and url, you have dodged a bullet there!

You were the one that said I wasn’t clear. Then I expanded to you I won’t report your comments and you seemed to understand.

Not sure why you are now acting like you don’t understand?

Really sorry OP. There is a pattern in some of these things where people get you hooked (in this case meeting the parents) and then reveal their real selves.
I am a bit kinky and I think this is bullshit abusive behaviour! And sending someone a hidden link to force your kink on them is non-consensual so makes me think is he kinky or is he just a complete dick dressing his dick-ish-ness up in kink clothing.
So sorry this has happened to you!!

Clear what up? That you want my posts to remain? They can only be removed if they break talk guidelines. Which they dont. But cheers, boss of mumsnet 😭

They will remain up. Thats why I haven’t reported them.

Glad I could clear that up for you 😘

No you weren't.

But thats fine, my view will remain. Which is why i posted it 😬

I was clear when I said I won’t report your comments that I wanted your view to remain on the thread x

You didn't say you want my posts to remain up, you said you wouldnt report, but i'm happy with this.

I have nothing to hide, and embrace men and gay men who like and respect women 🥰

I already told you I want your posts to remain up so I’m not going to report x

Report if you want, I dont care, I've not said anything at all that I dont stand by and I haven't changed what i'm saying.

The man in the op is gay. I wish him well and encourage him to be open about who he is, rather than trying to force the poor op, and doubtless other women into a relationship. He's prayed on the op being an adult and wanting children. Thats what men like him do. Disgusting.

A man who does that = oppressive and misogynistic. And not at all bisexual. To be bi, you have to actually like women 😭

The only person mentioning oppression is you.

I know you want to change the subject after being caught out but if you want to answer any of my previous points feel free.

No?

Though not.

I won’t report 😘

I'm a woman who is oppressed by men - and women are super oppressed by men as described in the OP

Who are lesbians oppressing?!?!

Are you a gay man?

Dunno ask a lesbian x

Does a woman wanting a rubber penis in her make her straight? If she is a lesbian would that make her ‘at least bi.’ ?

What kind of fetish is non negotiable? I always understood people have fetishes in addition to their normal sexual appetite, not as something that replaces it entirely.

That a man has a kink that involves being buggered by his partner with a strap on dildo is not a deal breaker in itself for some.

The way this piece of work has approached it is a deal breaker and he couldn't be waving a bigger red flag if he was leading a parade in Beijing.

' Struggle to go without it' ..I wonder if he has already been seeing someone for this kink?. 8 months is going without it. Makes you wonder.

As for the other nonsense, age shaming and sending dodgy links..yeah get in the sea pal.

I've had to report your bizarre aggressive personal attack on me

This is a forum for primarily for women - your posts come across as aggressive and misogynistic

Imo - a man wanting a rubber penis makes him attracted to men. If the op's ex was saying he's bi, i'd be calling him bi

But since he isnt and is trying to force her into a relationship before announcing his true sexual preferences - i'm saying he's a closeted gay man

This doesnt make someone homophobic sorry, its common sense

I didnt actually say all men were aroused by it, i said all men had them.

However, I do note it could've been phrased better so as not to imply that all men also enjoyed prostate stimulation.

Was there anything else youd like to discuss now I've clarified?

Well, if not all men who enjoy prostate stimulation are gay, as you so vigorously pointed out, it only makes sense for me to point out that not all men are aroused by prostate stimulation, as you stated they were. Just as not all women like g spot stimulation.

It is about the risk to life. You can kill someone. No one can consent to that. This defence should not be permitted, or the test of its validity needs to be far greater. Choking is legally indistinguishable from strangulation, except for intent.

Someone saying they will do this is imo dangerous, as is a person who asks for such. That isn’t legal, just common sense.

All men have a prostate gland.
Stimulation arouses some.

That sould cover the NAM bit adequately.

Sorry but I couldn’t seriously look in the face of a man and love him if he ever told me he would struggle to live without being pegged.

Fair enough like what you like but I can easily live without many of my favourite things. Because they’re not water and shelter etc. But even then… pegging 😂 I’d need him to leave.

It's extremely dangerous, not just for the obvious reason that if you get it wrong she could die or suffer brain damage, but also because if you're going to engage in kink, it's massively important to have a safe word or some kind of sign that you can easily give (for example if you're gagged). A person who's having their air restricted might very well not be able to do that.

There's kink and then there's this sort of shit. So what if some women get off on it? Like the world is full of people clamouring to get men to do other stuff that far more women would find pleasing, that isn't dangerous? It's dangerous and fucked up.