To expect people to be upfront with any ‘kinks’

if this guy required pegging to orgasm then OP would have known about it much sooner...

He remained tight lipped for 8 months but after meeting your parents he says he would struggle to live without it? Nice try mate! Jog on.

I agree. I've always considered myself quite liberal and generally uninhibited but rimming and pegging, no thanks guys 😂

This sounds far more like a porn induced fetish than a kink. Kink to me is a preference in style that does exist independently but the way it’s expressed emerges from a relationship or at least a situation so is fairly mutual. A fetish is a specific thing that a person ‘requires’ to orgasm. IMO fetishes get more intrusive with time, are a total bore and are a lot more voluntary than most fetishists let on.

Sack him off. He's a twat

Get rid. He needs to get onto Grinder bless him.

I would want someone to tell me in the first 4-5 dates to be honest. Then I can tell them to fuck off.

YANBU @Laurennnworld Why are so many men such creepy pervs?! 😬

I think people should tell each other about any kinks before the relationship gets sexual.

Sorry but you need to end this relationship. No, you should discuss your kinks on a first date, but definitely something to bring up in first few times of sleeping together. If you’ve had sex more than 3 times, he should have said something already.

Your current partner has told you that he will "struggle" to be with you unless you start pegging him?

How he has survived the last 8 months then?

I don't think the kink is the issue, it's him suggesting he might leave you unless you do it after 8 months of never mentioning it before.

It's also odd that you've said you don't mind doing it once in a while but that's not good enough for him?

His wording also implies it's an addiction, which is a huge red flag.

Thank you.

Yes, I wonder if it did, I'm sure some thought it was a great opportunity!

This is irrelevant. It used to be a basic tenet of kink that there should be openness and no coercion/pressure to participate. That seems to have gone out of the window in recent years.

“My exes were ok with it” is manipulative as is waiting until so late in the growing relationship with a woman who feels she is short on time and wants children.

Oh, it just made me think of the Romanian Eurovision song entry, 'Choke Me', which I've seen mentioned on here lately. I wonder if any men have used it as an opportunity to bring up doing it to their wife/gf.

I think it is unfair he's left it until after meeting the parents. And mentioning exes is a huge 🚩as it is coercive.
Your consent is what is needed and has to be enthusiastic. Could I peg a bloke I liked with a strap-on? Dunno. Might have given it a go once in a while, g spot and all that. Birthdays, Xmas and in return for some DIY, not a euphemism, literal DIY. 😂
But I think 8 months is far along in that process. I guess he knows it's a deal-breaker and/or maybe embarrassed as you might see it as him being gay/bi (does not mean that he is, more likely he's realised himself g spot there, many men do).
If you have the ick, throw this one back.
And do not think of timelines having kids - better to be childless than have one with the wrong guy (I know it's easy saying that but you'll have to trust me. Co-parenting with someone who isn't who you thought they were, is challenging to say the least).
I do worry for my daughters though, in terms of fetishes in general. I do blame porn for normalising kinks and desensitising young men. We try to teach them against this but with Only Fans and the like, I'd baulk at the expectations these days and the social pressures and messages of don't kink-shame, let your freak flag fly etc Empowerment means choosing when, where and what and not being made to think "vanilla" is a bad flavour.

Because one of the entries was about precisely that and its become a normalised fetish due to its prevalence in porn.

Throw that one back !!
He should have given you the chance to see how u felt about his kinks before you introduced him to your parents !!
It's like he has embedded himself into your emotions it's quiet tactical and using language that is very manipulative!!
If previous girlfriends.were into then why isn't he still with them !
Sorry no chance the fact he has even done it in this way wud be a reason to dump him !

Gross! Leave him to his porn.

Why did watching Eurovision together make you think he wants to choke her?

If commenting on sex threads I always used to say "I'm not a prude but ..."

But reading threads about modern dating, I now think maybe I am massive prude and maybe I'm totally fine with that 😂

Edited because I RTFT

Pegging or rimming isn't something you can do if you don't want to op it's pretty messy potentially 😬😬

I have the conversation about kink early on, sometimes before we have sex for the first time, sometimes after the first time. Personally I prefer someone non-vanilla, but that's just my preference. Did you talk about likes/dislikes in general or is this the first time sexual preferences have come up?

Either way, I think it's bad both of these people left it months before revealing what they're into (and if it's something they can't/don't want to have a relationship without, that's more fetish territory). It's not fair on you, I'm sorry.

He should have told you much earlier rather than wait til you'd probably developed feelings for him so it's harder to back out.

It needs to be early on. Especially if it's something he doesn't want to go without long term. TBH, I think couples need to talk openly about sex and sexual preferences very early on, preferably before or shortly after having sex for the first time.
Eight months in when you're already talking about a serious relationship, potentially children and meeting parents is far too late to spring a surprise on someone.
FWIW, I am kinky and have elements of kink that are important to me. These discussions were initiated with my now partner in the first month of us dating. If nothing else, I wouldn't have wanted to waste either of our time if it was a dealbreaker on either side.
It's possible he was just nervous about raising it with you, but tbh it is a red flag. At best, he has communication issues. What else would he struggle to go without that he hasn't mentioned?

Yeah wouldnt be my thing. Sorry he wasted your time op