AIBU to expect my ex to tell me about overnight trips?

My kids been on holidays and weekends away from being 3 months old. He’s definitely old enough for a little holiday or weekend away. I mean this in the nicest way possible but is it more the issue you may struggle to afford something like this. Sometimes it’s hard to see the other parent do nice things.

I would also like to add that he sounds like the main parent. He has every weekend. He’s in school during the week which means you only see him before and after. His dad has him a lot more hours than you do.
Enjoy relaxing with your partner, whilst you don’t work!

You sound off your rocker, OP. Could you be peri?

So his Dad actually sees him more than you do if DS is at school the 3 days you actually have him.

I really hope this is a wind up.

If it’s real OP, can I suggest you get a job and allow your son fun times with his dad. When he gets older he is likely going to want to be with dad more if you don’t provide him stimulation.

what do you do with him in your time?

Is the new step mother the other woman? You scream jealous to me.

Could the days change once he’s at school so you get some weekend time too? I would hate to never spend weekends with my son.

You are being absolutely ridiculous. He can do what he wants on his own time. He does not need anyone’s permission, least of all yours, to take his own son away in the uk! And I don’t give a shit that you wont agree, it’s the truth though. You need to get a grip!

There’s no way this is genuine. Stop feeding it.

He sounds like a great dad. You are not the main parent.

You aren’t the main parent, you are parenting 50/50 if he has him from Thursday-Sunday. And 4 isn’t too young at all for an overnight trip. My DD had done plenty of holidays and trips by the time she was 4. It is cheaper to be able to go away in term time before they start school for a start.

You just sound jealous.

Relax from what? You don’t work? Most of us single parents work and care for our kids.

Maybe get a job and stay out of your ex’s parenting when he isn’t doing anything wrong.

A complete and unnecessary over reaction from you. Sound more upset that your ex took him away to have fun and you haven't!

4 is not too young for overnight trips. My dc went abroad at 4months.

Do you ask for your ex’s permission if you take your son away?

You are not the main parent and he doesn't need to tell you.
HOWEVER, I'd prefer to know and I'd tell ex if I was taking dc away overnight.

This is another windup.

Too young for overnight trips? What? You sound a bit nuts. No wonder your ex doesn’t tell you if they’re going for a fun trip.

He needs your permission to leave the country, but not for a few nights away in the UK. I’d usually say it’s good for parents to communicate stuff like that, just for the sake of a good relationship but given that you seem to be really controlling and have a very odd view of things, it’s better he doesn’t tell you. It’s a shame they have to deal with this as he sounds like a very involved dad and is doing things which are great for your son.

You pretending to be worried is actually you being controlling and wanting to micro manage.

She got her meal ticket so doesn't want to

I'm sorry but you sound unhinged. Your ex has been very generous towards you and this was bound to cause friction with his current partner. You seem to have a very controlling nature.

Not RTFT yet but sounds like there’s more of a back story. When my son was small
my ex simply would have mentioned a trip and I’d say ‘ok I’ll pack him some extra stuff’ and it would be no big deal.
You sound angry, OP and I sympathise because you are probably upset at other stuff that’s bubbling under the surface.

Bloody hell, my parents took my son to Cornwall for the week when he was 3 without me. He had a fantastic time, he’s just turned 5 and going again next week.

Unless there’s a massive drip feed, too young for overnight trips at 4 years old is ridiculous 😂😂

This!! Poor little fella. How completely ridiculous and unreasonable you’re being op, controlling to boot. I feel very sorry for your ex for having to deal with you and for your poor son, having you ruin a lovely time with his dad that he was clearly very excited to tell you about.

I agree with pps that it would have been polite to let you know, but he certainly doesn't need to ask your permission.

You can't expect him to just sit at home messing about on his phone and YouTube when he has your son, and you'd be the first to complain if he did - you should be absolutely delighted that he's taking him to such lovely places.

Maybe he didn't tell you as he knows you wouldn't be happy for your son as you are jealous and controlling.

Maybe if you spent some of your childfree days working instead of relaxing with your partner, you could contribute towards his upbringing and afford to fake him nice places too.

It suits op though as she has said she gets weekends to relax with her partner

Op, you are wrong to class yourself as the main parent, and it actually sounds like your son has a lovely time with his dad, stepmum and sibling.

You are equal parents and you sound jealous and controlling