I’m destroying my perfect life

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Worriedmummy1244 · 17/05/2026 04:42

I’ve got the most amazing life, we’ve had our difficulties but overall I’m extremely lucky and I have an amazing husband and 2 beautiful kids 2 and 6.

Every month 4-5 days before my period I get so so angry, I feel horrific, tired, angry, irritable and very depressed

i really struggle with the kids, I don’t tolerate my husband at all. Yesterday I was trying to do some chores and the kids were arguing, my husband was in the garden and I flew into a rage with him. I can shout and cry and it’s like something overtakes my body and I can’t fix it. I am not this person at any other time. I never shout.

I don’t know what to do, it feels like it’s getting worse and my husband is getting really frustrated as it feels like he has to put up with a lot every month. I don’t know how to fix it, sometimes in these days I feel they’d be better off without me.

I feel like a huge failure, how can I stop doing this?

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Worriedmummy1244 · 17/05/2026 05:01

I had never heard of PMDD that sounds like exactly what it is

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CrikeyMajikey · 17/05/2026 04:59

It sounds like you may have PMDD, Google it. Thankfully I’m now menopausal, but I was a slave to my hormones since my first period. Go and see your GP, 10 years ago most were completely in the dark about the condition, hopefully if it’s better these days. Facebook had quite a good support group, join and read about current medications.

Galaxylights · 17/05/2026 04:58

Aww love, it might be that pre menstrual tension syndrome. You can get help with it I believe.

My mum had that, I remember her going to a specialist for treatment when I was younger.

Please try not to beat yourself up. You recognise it's an issue and it's a big step. I'd probably not cope with all arguing around me either so that definitely won't help.

Maybe see your gp and ask them if it could be that potentially?

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