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Concerns over neighbours lifestyle choices.

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HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 01:17

So my neighbours teenage son has been smoking doobies in the garden with his parents consent. His father is a policeman and actually a firearms officer. I'm concerned that he may be using Ur at least getting high from the passive smoking. I want to report him to his superiors but DH is adamantly against it and says I'm being dramatic. Really between a rock and a hard place. AIBU if I report him?

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Witchonenowbob · 17/05/2026 04:43

HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 01:55

I have hun. Live in a 4 bedroom detached, 2 children excelling at school and well respected in my neighborhood. Don't be bitter get better.

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They might start smoking doobies with the neighbour soon, don’t be so sanctimonious!

I don’t live in a 4 bedroom detached, not next to “junkies” as you call them 🤷‍♀️

pepperminticecream · 17/05/2026 04:16

Jaxcocker · 17/05/2026 03:52

What an absolute prat you have just made yourself look 🤦‍♀️ my house is bigger than yours 😂

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That is embarssing! In the inspiring words of the OP, I’ll try to get better and not be bitter!

AlwaysLookOnTheBrightSideOfLife · 17/05/2026 04:15

Teetotal insomniac about to hit the booze, anything to get out of the ironing on Monday...

okayIwont · 17/05/2026 04:14

You were pretty bloody rude from beginning OP, so maybe you 'be better' next time. Also YABU.

Jaxcocker · 17/05/2026 04:02

FiveShelties · 17/05/2026 04:00

At last, an excuse not to iron.

Sorry DH I am over the drink ironing limit, so creased shirts today😂

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I think I will use this excuse too 😂

FiveShelties · 17/05/2026 04:00

HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 02:24

I like a glass of wine and the occasional g and t on celebratory nights. I'm not denying my use of alcohol buts it's all.above board and I always wait 48 hours to drive or use the iron or lawn mower etc.

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At last, an excuse not to iron.

Sorry DH I am over the drink ironing limit, so creased shirts today😂

MyTrivia · 17/05/2026 03:55

I hate the smell of weed. YANBU

Jaxcocker · 17/05/2026 03:55

thestudio · 17/05/2026 03:51

This is hilarious.

I hope you wait to use the electric toothbrush, you can get a very nasty sore patch if used under the influence.

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I bet he has turkey teeth

Jaxcocker · 17/05/2026 03:52

pepperminticecream · 17/05/2026 03:09

WOW! Four whole bedrooms to yourself! Never heard of such luxury!!

(I say as I sit in my FIVE bedroom, FOUR bathroom, DETACHED house).

Focus on yourself and not your neighbours.

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What an absolute prat you have just made yourself look 🤦‍♀️ my house is bigger than yours 😂

thestudio · 17/05/2026 03:51

HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 02:24

I like a glass of wine and the occasional g and t on celebratory nights. I'm not denying my use of alcohol buts it's all.above board and I always wait 48 hours to drive or use the iron or lawn mower etc.

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This is hilarious.

I hope you wait to use the electric toothbrush, you can get a very nasty sore patch if used under the influence.

KateCrusader · 17/05/2026 03:50

BrokenWingsCantFly · 17/05/2026 03:37

😂 I hope you are not OPs neighbour or you will be reported for drunk kettle boiling

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Is this what’s commonly known as a “DU Chai”? Sorry

MarchionessVonSausage · 17/05/2026 03:40

I have to lock up my dyson air wrap after a glass of wine, I fear facial mutilation.

BrokenWingsCantFly · 17/05/2026 03:37

KateCrusader · 17/05/2026 02:46

This. I’ve certainly mowed the lawn hungover. I might even risk boiling the kettle tomorrow morning. Living life on the edge, me!

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😂 I hope you are not OPs neighbour or you will be reported for drunk kettle boiling

MarchionessVonSausage · 17/05/2026 03:34

Of course there's no dilemma. I'd be making friends with the cop next door, they make very handy neighbors IME. Not thinking about reporting them for passive weed smoking - that is bonkerdoodles batshit.

FantasyFoodhall · 17/05/2026 03:33

Well this has cheered me up. Thanks OP:) Off to get some wine so I don’t have to mow the lawn tomorrow. (Fwiw I am not drunk yet or an insomniac)

clipettyclop · 17/05/2026 03:30

HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 02:06

Maybe posting late Saturday night was a mistake. Getting passive aggressive replies and nonsense. The poll shows there is at least a decent portion of readers with a moral compass. Fine he might not get high from passive smoke but he may be smoking it himself indoors. See my dilemma?

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No, you don’t have a dilemma. It’s still none of your business.

IsabellaVireauxLaurent · 17/05/2026 03:29

Shatandfattered · 17/05/2026 03:28

Clearly just wants a drama, I've went to bed after being in the first page of responses which I provided a rational legal explanation to not jump to conclusions but the pearl clutching is too strong I fear 😂 woke up to pee to all of this lol

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its very strong with this one, yoda thinks

Shatandfattered · 17/05/2026 03:28

Clearly just wants a drama, I've went to bed after being in the first page of responses which I provided a rational legal explanation to not jump to conclusions but the pearl clutching is too strong I fear 😂 woke up to pee to all of this lol

IsabellaVireauxLaurent · 17/05/2026 03:28

cookie

Hungry Cookie Monster GIF by Sesame Street
BrokenWingsCantFly · 17/05/2026 03:27

HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 02:14

12% agree and the sensible ones will be in bed now and the drunks and insomniacs skewing the results voting with a foggy head. By lunch tommorow igl be alot closer.

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Why are people with insomnia views less valid than those without?

Plus what's your excuse to be up in the early hours?

IsabellaVireauxLaurent · 17/05/2026 03:27

Galaxylights · 17/05/2026 03:26

Whats going on with the weird threads tonight?

I really think you should mind your own business.

its mumsnet, strange is our normal night

Galaxylights · 17/05/2026 03:26

Whats going on with the weird threads tonight?

I really think you should mind your own business.

pepperminticecream · 17/05/2026 03:25

IsabellaVireauxLaurent · 17/05/2026 03:16

the op could offer cookies, and shout heres the cookie monster

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🤣

pepperminticecream · 17/05/2026 03:23

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 17/05/2026 03:10

Only four bathrooms?

You’re obviously also a drunkard 🤣

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I’m probably just brain dead from inhaling too much smoke from the neighbour smoking a “doobie” a few weeks ago. Thankfully, I’m not a firearm officer.

This thread is giving so much joy tonight!

KateCrusader · 17/05/2026 03:23

@Givememynameback
”OP
this is becoming a classic and bravo to @MarchionessVonSausage for that username”

Plus OP, I know you are panicking - this will blow over. Your thread was a little naive but I know you meant well. I got in from work late, had a glass of wine and then a good giggle at the thought of me being unfit to mow the lawn tomorrow. In fact, that might be the excuse I use for not doing it…”Yesh Ossifer, I’m under the influence” 😂

I’m not a weed smoker myself but often joke that the whole of my town must be high from passive smoking as you can smell it everywhere. But honestly, I’d take the stoners over the drunkards any day!