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Concerns over neighbours lifestyle choices.

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HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 01:17

So my neighbours teenage son has been smoking doobies in the garden with his parents consent. His father is a policeman and actually a firearms officer. I'm concerned that he may be using Ur at least getting high from the passive smoking. I want to report him to his superiors but DH is adamantly against it and says I'm being dramatic. Really between a rock and a hard place. AIBU if I report him?

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pinkyredrose · 17/05/2026 13:00

HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 01:24

Doubt you be laughing if you had this decision to make.

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You don't have a decision to make. Just keep your nose out.

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HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 12:59

Lunarlightning · 17/05/2026 12:57

You clearly can't handle your drink OP. Sort your own shitty life choices out before starting on your neighbours.
People in glass houses....

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I agree with you wholeheartedly, last night was a huge wake up call. I'm cringing at most of what I wrote.

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Lunarlightning · 17/05/2026 12:57

You clearly can't handle your drink OP. Sort your own shitty life choices out before starting on your neighbours.
People in glass houses....

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HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 12:55

Threeslothsontheshirt · 17/05/2026 12:51

Doobie? Are you David Brent?

😳😩 yes poor choice of vernacular to use. Was in the heat if the moment when I wanted to lash out at anyone and chose my neighbours. Iv never actually used that term IRL.

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Threeslothsontheshirt · 17/05/2026 12:51

Doobie? Are you David Brent?

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HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 12:50

Hi, apologies for last nights emotional rudeness to folks replying with opinions I didn't like. I got myself into quite a state about what I now realise is a situation I should keep out of. Family and pet problems plus a few bottles of wine equals extremely embarrassed HH. Will be a silent reader for now until I learn how to engage properly on these threads. Thankyou also to the few helpful souls last night that reached out when in my drunken and anxious state I couldn't silence the notifications. 2 of them of them I had been rude to and upset but they still offered instructions. Take care and enjoy rest of the weekend.

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Frazzledmummy123 · 17/05/2026 11:54

HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 01:55

I have hun. Live in a 4 bedroom detached, 2 children excelling at school and well respected in my neighborhood. Don't be bitter get better.

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So your meaning of having a life is living in a 4 bedroom detached house with kids excelling at school? That kind of says it all doesn't it.

GinaandGin · 17/05/2026 11:43

Keep your snout out
Interfering busy body

JLou08 · 17/05/2026 11:33

I agree with your DH, you are being dramatic. People smoke cannabis out in the open, the police don't care. I don't even think it's an arrestable offence to smoke it (unless driving). There is no way his dad is getting high from his son smoking it in the garden.

BauhausOfEliott · 17/05/2026 11:12

HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 01:24

Doubt you be laughing if you had this decision to make.

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Why? It’s hardly Sophie’s Choice ffs

thestudio · 17/05/2026 11:04

I honestly didn't know people like this really existed outside a sitcom.

BillieWiper · 17/05/2026 11:00

Stop being so nosy. You do realise that other people's life choices are absolutely none of your business. You sound like a neighbour from hell!

Lovestospotabullfinch · 17/05/2026 10:56

MarchionessVonSausage · 17/05/2026 03:40

I have to lock up my dyson air wrap after a glass of wine, I fear facial mutilation.

😂 thanks so much for making me howl 😂

Laurmolonlabe · 17/05/2026 09:55

You would be making your life unreasonable if you report it- the Police will take a stance that bit's a very serious allegation and things will excalte from there- do you really want to be living next door to a firearms officer you got suspended?-and that is best case scenario.

Owly11 · 17/05/2026 07:14

I have always wondered what kind of person does this!!! Can you tell us more about yourself because seriously I am fascinated by what kind of life would bring a nosy neighbour to the point of trying to report their neighbour to their boss for a problem existing only in the mind of the nosy beak.

speckledpinkhen · 17/05/2026 07:14

I’d suggest you get a hobby. Sounds like you don’t have much else going on in your life.

Solobanana · 17/05/2026 07:12

This made me chuckle. Needed a good laugh. In a side note- replies are ‘mean’ as your comments were also ‘mean’. You get the same energy back that you give. So look in the mirror and reflect- I’m sure you’ve got one in your 4 bed detached home, or ask your community for their true feelings. 🤣🤣🤣🤪🤣🤪

TorroFerney · 17/05/2026 07:11

HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 01:50

Sat watching countdown smoking a doobie more like. It's a gateway drug FYI.

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For the child though not for the dad? I wouldn’t like it and yes I’d be even more irritated that it was a bobbys child but you don’t know the family circumstances, smoking cannabis supervised may be better than what he may be doing otherwise .

Damaticcus · 17/05/2026 07:08

user1492757084 · 17/05/2026 07:06

If you are friendly with your neighbours you could, in a private conversation, tell the Dad that he might like to know that his son is smoking weed in the garden because you can smell it. Pretend that he doesn't know and that you think he would want to know.

Then just leave it.

Or ask for a hit.
Trust me, I think this unhinged individual needs it.

user1492757084 · 17/05/2026 07:06

If you are friendly with your neighbours you could, in a private conversation, tell the Dad that he might like to know that his son is smoking weed in the garden because you can smell it. Pretend that he doesn't know and that you think he would want to know.

Then just leave it.

Sofiacalling · 17/05/2026 07:06

Win lottery

Damaticcus · 17/05/2026 07:06

HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 02:00

Alcohol legal and wears off the next day.. marijuana illegal and warps the brain. See the difference?

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Oh yes alcohol has absolutely no bad effects on the body at all including the brain. 🙄

But the other I can, and do, get on a prescription. Medicated. Legal.
It's still weed.
Your alcohol (which you desparately need to lay off) is way more damaging and was also illegal once.

Weed is way better than alcohol and does have benefits unlike alcohol.

Mind your business, get off the crack and leave the bad analogies in the gutter, they made zero sense and don't back up your claim.

The neighbour is not your concern. What affect it has on them is not your concern.

Tooobvious · 17/05/2026 07:02

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So you don’t want people who actually know something about the subject to reply to you? Just those who know nothing about it? How odd.

Witchonenowbob · 17/05/2026 07:02

Witchonenowbob · 17/05/2026 07:00

coffee

My coffee hasn’t arrived, what am I doing wrong?

Candy24 · 17/05/2026 07:01

HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 02:00

Alcohol legal and wears off the next day.. marijuana illegal and warps the brain. See the difference?

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hahahahha you could use some. Your aweful and honestly a true nasty person. You obviously love to cause problems. I own a massive 6 bedroom home with a pool in a very nice area outright no mortgage. (not bragging just proving the point) Neighbours two doors up are selling drugs. I live and let live. My motto is to do something when I'm directly involved other than that I am nice smile and wave.

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