Page 3 | Concerns over neighbours lifestyle choices.

HumbleHun · 2026-05-17T00:17:34+00:00

So my neighbours teenage son has been smoking doobies in the garden with his parents consent. His father is a policeman and actually a firearms officer. I'm concerned that he may be using Ur at least getting high from the passive smoking. I want to report him to his superiors but DH is adamantly against it and says I'm being dramatic. Really between a rock and a hard place. AIBU if I report him?

MarchionessVonSausage · 17/05/2026 23:21

Don't stress about the thread OP, you gave lots of randoms on the internet a great laugh.

People have done FAR worse things online after a few drinks, look up drunk ebay if you need a laugh today 😀

Laura95167 · 17/05/2026 21:12

HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 02:06

Maybe posting late Saturday night was a mistake. Getting passive aggressive replies and nonsense. The poll shows there is at least a decent portion of readers with a moral compass. Fine he might not get high from passive smoke but he may be smoking it himself indoors. See my dilemma?

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No. Thats not a dilemma, its reporting a crime youve imagined.

If its a legal concern, the son is perhaps liable for a fine should the police catch him smoking

If its a moral concern why are you their morals monitor?

"Fine he might not get high from passive smoke but he may be smoking it himself indoors" is bonkers. You have no reason to suspect the parents are also smoking. I mean why stop there.. he may be drinking indoors then driving, or he my be beating his wife in doors.. or he may be commiting Internet fraud indoors etc etc

It isnt a dilemma to debate reporting a crime that possibly could be happening. Its wasting police time.

At very best you could report the smoking you saw in the garden, and at very best an officer may come out and have a word.

Laura95167 · 17/05/2026 21:04

Ok. Id ask why you care?

But you can report it, BUT you only know the son smokes. You cannot prove the parents support or the father passively or actively inhaling any weed.

And unless you are alleging growing or dealing the police wont care. They'd have to catch him actively smoking to even fine him

Id listen to your DH but do report back how it goes if you proceed

cucumber4745 · 17/05/2026 18:35

You are being dramatic. Kids will be kids. The son will do it if he wants to do it and the parents are having him do it at home, when he is safe and supervised. I will rather have that, that my child getting drunk, drugged and high god knows where!

Bristolandlazy · 17/05/2026 18:28

It's not a gateway drug. It's not a big deal he's smoking weed. A lot more people than you probably realise smoke weed and they have jobs, children etc, they don't all turn to crack addicts. You're massively over reacting. The police aren't going to give a shite about someone smoking weed in their own garden.

CombatBarbie · 17/05/2026 18:23

Oh OP you made me giggle into my insomniac hours with the

Delete thread
Stop notifications
Report thread

We've all been there in one way or another. Hopefully you read your posts back when you dont have hangxiety and manage to giggle.

Hernameisdeborah · 17/05/2026 15:51

HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 12:50

Hi, apologies for last nights emotional rudeness to folks replying with opinions I didn't like. I got myself into quite a state about what I now realise is a situation I should keep out of. Family and pet problems plus a few bottles of wine equals extremely embarrassed HH. Will be a silent reader for now until I learn how to engage properly on these threads. Thankyou also to the few helpful souls last night that reached out when in my drunken and anxious state I couldn't silence the notifications. 2 of them of them I had been rude to and upset but they still offered instructions. Take care and enjoy rest of the weekend.

God knows there have some times when I’ve had a few too many and said/ posted some things I’ve regretted in the morning! Hope you’re having a better day today OP x

EvieBB · 17/05/2026 15:48

Happyhappyday · 17/05/2026 02:15

@HumbleHun I have never used an illegal drug (didn’t even drink underage!) and I know what hotboxing is… Unless you live under a rock, you can be aware of drug related terminology and not use it… YABVU to worry about your neighbor smoking weed on their own time. It is legal in lots of countries and really not a big deal. It’s hardly like he’s dealing crack on the job…

If he’s smoking on the job, they’ll figure it out. YANBU to not enjoy weed smell in the garden. It’s legal where I live and not a fan of the smell!

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Sorry, I posted too soon....What I meant to say what that I did drink underage (probably around 14)....never drugs (far too straight laced) although ate some cannabis cakes once and hubby has smoked a few "doobies" or whatever they're called in his time but neither of us has heard of hotboxing??? We must be living under a rock.....! Is it a new term for youngsters?? We are deffo in the middle age bracket

EvieBB · 17/05/2026 15:44

Happyhappyday · 17/05/2026 02:15

@HumbleHun I have never used an illegal drug (didn’t even drink underage!) and I know what hotboxing is… Unless you live under a rock, you can be aware of drug related terminology and not use it… YABVU to worry about your neighbor smoking weed on their own time. It is legal in lots of countries and really not a big deal. It’s hardly like he’s dealing crack on the job…

If he’s smoking on the job, they’ll figure it out. YANBU to not enjoy weed smell in the garden. It’s legal where I live and not a fan of the smell!

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I must be living under a rock then...lol....a neither does hubby and he's smoked a few "doobies" in his time!!

TheBeaTgoeson1 · 17/05/2026 15:08

Obvious troll is obvious.

MyGammyEye · 17/05/2026 14:45

Givememynameback · 17/05/2026 14:36

and Thankyou OP for leaving the thread up
It went quite wild but kept us laughing
i was really hoping it wouldn’t be gone this morning

Dont take anything to heart.

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Indeed.

I've PM'd @HumbleHun to say no need to feel bad or hide away. It was very brave to come back and apologise. I'm hoping she's got her head down and getting some kip.

I couldn't stop laughing last night (this morning) at the written instructions. Absolutely brilliant.

I'm the first one to call myself a dickhead and fair play.
Absolutely accidental comedy genius 🤣
I'm jealous!

Confusional · 17/05/2026 14:38

HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 01:55

I have hun. Live in a 4 bedroom detached, 2 children excelling at school and well respected in my neighborhood. Don't be bitter get better.

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Amanda..? Is that you?

Givememynameback · 17/05/2026 14:36

Andepeda · 17/05/2026 13:43

Good on you for not just disappearing OP. You're a star.

Agree

Givememynameback · 17/05/2026 14:36

HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 12:50

Hi, apologies for last nights emotional rudeness to folks replying with opinions I didn't like. I got myself into quite a state about what I now realise is a situation I should keep out of. Family and pet problems plus a few bottles of wine equals extremely embarrassed HH. Will be a silent reader for now until I learn how to engage properly on these threads. Thankyou also to the few helpful souls last night that reached out when in my drunken and anxious state I couldn't silence the notifications. 2 of them of them I had been rude to and upset but they still offered instructions. Take care and enjoy rest of the weekend.

and Thankyou OP for leaving the thread up
It went quite wild but kept us laughing
i was really hoping it wouldn’t be gone this morning

Dont take anything to heart.

Andepeda · 17/05/2026 13:43

Good on you for not just disappearing OP. You're a star.

VivX · 17/05/2026 13:29

HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 12:59

I agree with you wholeheartedly, last night was a huge wake up call. I'm cringing at most of what I wrote.

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Well, on the bright side, at least it is an anonymous forum.

MyGammyEye · 17/05/2026 13:22

HornyHornersPinger · 17/05/2026 13:19

Op, if you're feeling a little 'delicate' today after a few drinks last night - I believe you can say "Hangover go!!!" and you'll suddenly feel ok.

You can't just say it, it needs typing.

🤣

Just brilliant.

There should be a new thread where we just type what we want to happen!

Roast beef!

HornyHornersPinger · 17/05/2026 13:19

Op, if you're feeling a little 'delicate' today after a few drinks last night - I believe you can say "Hangover go!!!" and you'll suddenly feel ok.

UniquePinkSwan · 17/05/2026 13:17

It’s only weed that should be legalised anyway. The police would do nothing anyway and rightly so

MyGammyEye · 17/05/2026 13:16

Lunarlightning · 17/05/2026 12:57

You clearly can't handle your drink OP. Sort your own shitty life choices out before starting on your neighbours.
People in glass houses....

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No need.

MyGammyEye · 17/05/2026 13:15

HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 12:50

Hi, apologies for last nights emotional rudeness to folks replying with opinions I didn't like. I got myself into quite a state about what I now realise is a situation I should keep out of. Family and pet problems plus a few bottles of wine equals extremely embarrassed HH. Will be a silent reader for now until I learn how to engage properly on these threads. Thankyou also to the few helpful souls last night that reached out when in my drunken and anxious state I couldn't silence the notifications. 2 of them of them I had been rude to and upset but they still offered instructions. Take care and enjoy rest of the weekend.

@HumbleHun

Morning! Well, afternoon!

You apologised last night, so no need for any more.

You turned in to comedy gold, so for that, I thank you 😂

No need to stay silent. Don't feel bad. I've done worse and had threads deleted and warnings from those upstairs.

You're here, you've explained... It's all cool. It's all good. I saw that people had logged on earlier to bring you up on some things, but they couldn't have read the full thread.

How is your dog today? (and dare I ask how the hangover is?!!)

Don't hide.

HornyHornersPinger · 17/05/2026 13:15

WirralWool · 17/05/2026 06:18

This thread is a treat to wake up to. I don’t think I’ve laughed so much at 6am on a Sunday since my clubbing days many moons ago.

Stand down! Abort thread! Abort!! Abort!! ALEXA, STOP PEOPLE REPLYING!

😂😂😂

mumofoneAloneandwell · 17/05/2026 13:13

HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 12:50

Hi, apologies for last nights emotional rudeness to folks replying with opinions I didn't like. I got myself into quite a state about what I now realise is a situation I should keep out of. Family and pet problems plus a few bottles of wine equals extremely embarrassed HH. Will be a silent reader for now until I learn how to engage properly on these threads. Thankyou also to the few helpful souls last night that reached out when in my drunken and anxious state I couldn't silence the notifications. 2 of them of them I had been rude to and upset but they still offered instructions. Take care and enjoy rest of the weekend.

Youre hilarious sorry

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Threeslothsontheshirt · 17/05/2026 13:01

HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 12:55

😳😩 yes poor choice of vernacular to use. Was in the heat if the moment when I wanted to lash out at anyone and chose my neighbours. Iv never actually used that term IRL.

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Our outside areas usually smell of weed. Think it’s only me and dh and the couple next door who don’t love it off. I don’t get it and I never have x

Witchonenowbob · 17/05/2026 13:00

HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 12:59

I agree with you wholeheartedly, last night was a huge wake up call. I'm cringing at most of what I wrote.

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At least you admit it, something I suppose!

What job do you do? I mean let’s call into question your integrity.