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Concerns over neighbours lifestyle choices.

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HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 01:17

So my neighbours teenage son has been smoking doobies in the garden with his parents consent. His father is a policeman and actually a firearms officer. I'm concerned that he may be using Ur at least getting high from the passive smoking. I want to report him to his superiors but DH is adamantly against it and says I'm being dramatic. Really between a rock and a hard place. AIBU if I report him?

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HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 02:14

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 17/05/2026 02:11

The poll shows there is at least a decent portion of readers with a moral compass

Currently 88% think you’re being unreasonable.

12% agree and the sensible ones will be in bed now and the drunks and insomniacs skewing the results voting with a foggy head. By lunch tommorow igl be alot closer.

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Bake · 17/05/2026 02:12

My neighbours son used to smoke the strongest skunk and I couldn't open my windows as my entire flat would stink. Made my life hell for a couple of years. If they are renting then report it to the landlord. Hard to prove if they deny it. Police won't be interested unfortunately.

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 17/05/2026 02:11

The poll shows there is at least a decent portion of readers with a moral compass

Currently 88% think you’re being unreasonable.

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HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 02:08

Iyamnotayam · 17/05/2026 02:05

I can see that you don't understand that alcohol is a neurotoxin and Marijuana isn't.

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Give me strength. I just want advice on what to do not a crash course in drug use.

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HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 02:06

IsabellaVireauxLaurent · 17/05/2026 02:03

well i tryed, but why ask on mumsnet if you dont want an accurate analysis ? and i have dyslexia hence my words, grammer and spelling etc are omg

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Maybe posting late Saturday night was a mistake. Getting passive aggressive replies and nonsense. The poll shows there is at least a decent portion of readers with a moral compass. Fine he might not get high from passive smoke but he may be smoking it himself indoors. See my dilemma?

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Iyamnotayam · 17/05/2026 02:05

HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 02:00

Alcohol legal and wears off the next day.. marijuana illegal and warps the brain. See the difference?

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I can see that you don't understand that alcohol is a neurotoxin and Marijuana isn't.

IsabellaVireauxLaurent · 17/05/2026 02:03

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well i tryed, but why ask on mumsnet if you dont want an accurate analysis ? and i have dyslexia hence my words, grammer and spelling etc are omg

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HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 02:00

Iyamnotayam · 17/05/2026 01:50

Leave it, and he grateful he's not drinking in the garden with his friends. Drunk teenagers are far more annoying than high ones 😅

Alcohol legal and wears off the next day.. marijuana illegal and warps the brain. See the difference?

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Evaka · 17/05/2026 01:59

HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 01:55

I have hun. Live in a 4 bedroom detached, 2 children excelling at school and well respected in my neighborhood. Don't be bitter get better.

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😂

HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 01:57

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Rachie1973 · 17/05/2026 01:56

HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 01:50

Sat watching countdown smoking a doobie more like. It's a gateway drug FYI.

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I don’t touch the stuff, can’t stand the smell.

I still say ‘nose out’. It’s not your problem. My son smoked it with my knowledge. I didn’t like it, but sooner he was in my garden than out in a park with randoms.

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HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 01:55

Lifesd · 17/05/2026 01:53

Get a life.

I have hun. Live in a 4 bedroom detached, 2 children excelling at school and well respected in my neighborhood. Don't be bitter get better.

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IsabellaVireauxLaurent · 17/05/2026 01:53

HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 01:50

Sat watching countdown smoking a doobie more like. It's a gateway drug FYI.

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i based my analysis off of "at least getting high from the passive smoking."
so if you had new analysis then my analysis was correct on your original point

Lifesd · 17/05/2026 01:53

Get a life.

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HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 01:50

IsabellaVireauxLaurent · 17/05/2026 01:47

explain how my opinion is null when i know the science ? as for how i know i studyed forensic science and toxicology at uni

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Sat watching countdown smoking a doobie more like. It's a gateway drug FYI.

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Iyamnotayam · 17/05/2026 01:50

Leave it, and he grateful he's not drinking in the garden with his friends. Drunk teenagers are far more annoying than high ones 😅

IsabellaVireauxLaurent · 17/05/2026 01:50

CombatBarbie · 17/05/2026 01:47

Then google the confined area and how many joints would be needed to get high from passive smoking. 🤣

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they ask on mumsnet, and then dismiss the science.

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Then google the confined area and how many joints would be needed to get high from passive smoking. 🤣

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explain how my opinion is null when i know the science ? as for how i know i studyed forensic science and toxicology at uni

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HumbleHun · 17/05/2026 01:42

Evaka · 17/05/2026 01:34

There's no decision to make, other than to extract your beak. You're being bonkers.

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Ok.

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IsabellaVireauxLaurent · 17/05/2026 01:42

@HumbleHun unless he was hotboxing the concentration levels are virtually none

Shatandfattered · 17/05/2026 01:39

🙈😂 ok.... there's multiple prescription cannabis routes for all sorts of medical issues nowadays and if your neighbour is a firearms officer I'm pretty sure he'd be drug tested randomly and even so it's bloody weed

MyGammyEye · 17/05/2026 01:38

Nobody is getting high from passively inhaling spliff smoke in the garden.

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