To be sick of my hobbies being judged differently just because I’m fat?

It is rude for sure. But no it's not as offensive or upsetting as being called fat because we live in a society where thinness is prized so being called skinny just isn't as loaded as being called fat is.

As someone who used to be described as skinny on a regular basis, I can tell you it definitely is offensive thanks

Isnt that just a jokey comment 🤔

I’m fat and literally have never experienced any of this. I’ve run 2 half marathons. I’ve done a 500 mile weeklong cycling holiday. I’ve walked a Camino. Literally no one made me feel like it was any less spectacular because I was fat.

Don’t listen to them.

You should be VERY proud of yourself 😊

That is just rude - whoever said it is either an arsehole or lacking basic social skills or both.

People often mention to me that they're doing something at the weekend that would be my personal idea of hell, but there's always something you can say in response that's pleasant, if you can't or don't want to feign enthusiasm you can always ask a polite question - such as 'what are you making?' if it's craft or sewing, or 'where do you run?' if it's running.

Are the comments on the running forum just generic motivators? If not then maybe close your account and set up a new one with a different username and this time don’t disclose your true weight. You will get the benefits of being on the site without the fat bias.

Your colleagues are narrow minded and rude. Stop telling them personal things. They aren’t friends and nor should you want them to be. Just quietly enjoy your varied and interesting hobbies. They make your life much richer and you a more interesting person

Can we be friends!? Honestly I love your hobbies, they're similar to mine, I am also "fat" but hell I'm happy, screw what anyone else thinks!

and as I said, the answer to that is "did you mean to be so rude?"

I agree Op.
I don't think people have to say anything directly - it's very obvious.
Social media, TV, books all use thin people to do cooking when it's considered a skill. I struggle to think of overweight cooks even.
I agree with the running one too. It's why rugby is so noticeably different.

Well I don’t think that

Well I've been fat and thin. I can tell you being called fat is far worse

If your colleagues are the sort to say “get a life” about sewing, I highly doubt they’d find anything cottagecore cool or quirky-in-a-good-way, regardless of weight.

I’m a yo yo dieter so I ran as a average sized woman and as a very overweight woman, arsehole guys made stupid comments whatever size I was but that’s on them, no one I actually cared about said anything negative.
I sew and cross stitch ( when I have time) as a fat woman not any comments except compliments.
I read loads and even run a book club again no negative comments.
I’m not a great baker but a decent cook again no negatives people were too busy enjoying the food.
I don’t do sports not because of my size ( although my huge boobs do get in the way a bit) they are just not my thing, but if I wanted to I wouldn’t give a fuck what other people thought.
You need new friends and to develop some self confidence. I was badly bullied in secondary school( I was very skinny then so nothing to do with my weight ) so once I went out into the world I resolved to not worry about what people say about me.
People saying nasty things to you are just adult bullies who are only happy when they are making other people miserable, they are to be pitied not believed.

Speaking as someone who used to be obese and has lost 5 stone over the past few years, unfortunately I'm cynical enough to think you're not just being paranoid, OP. Bigger people are still perceived entirely differently even in this day and age - I was definitely treated differently when I was bigger than I am now. Depressing.

Op, are you sure people say this to you in those words? I am finding it difficult to imagine a co-worker telling you to "get a life" in response to you saying you sow. It sounds so extreme. It sounds like the problem might be rejection sensitive dysphoria.

I think your problem is actually caring what other people might think of you, your hobbles or how well you perform. Surely the whole point is that YOU enjoy what you do.

The people saying being called skinny is as offensive as being called fat, yeah sure it is 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Hobbies are what you do for you, to make you happy, not for praise. Why do you want admiration for sewing, baking and running? Just concentrate on doing it for yourself. What has body shape got to do with it. Your colleagues are rude AF insulting your hobbies.

Fat to thin. People treat you differently. No question. YANBU

When I was losing weight I started an account to document my running progress. You would not believe the amount of comments along the lines of “if you are running this much why are you still fat” or “how can you still be this slow when you’ve been doing this for months” or even ones accusing me of lying about even doing the runs! I deleted it in the end.

Honestly anyone saying these things to you is just rude and there’s no need to care about the opinions of these idiots. Just keep doing what you enjoy and ignore them.

If someone has never been overweight/has always been conventionally attractive it can be really hard to understand the privilege that comes with that. So first I would give them a bit of benefit of the doubt. Just ignore the comments which are claiming that everyone is saintly, fair and it’s fat people that are just miserable with themselves.

Secondly - get off the internet. The forums, instagram etc. the only place I see the absolute dregs of the internet is fitness forums where people like to tear down each others progress for apparently no reason. Or comment on how people look or what they wear on any of that crap. Who cares if you are slow/what your pace is/what you do in your free time. Join a club or find a group that will bring you to like minded people irl and life will be so much nicer.

Speaking as someone who quit instagram/til tok etc… so worth it