To be sick of my hobbies being judged differently just because I’m fat?

If your not that weight now I'm not sure why you're telling me your current fat %.

I'm 9st 12lbs and 5ft 8. I am not thin. I am slim. I have plenty of body fat. I do have thin bones and I'm not bulky with muscle, which of course weighs more, but my BMI is not anywhere near the low weight zone, it's half way up the healthy between thin and overweight.

We have simply lost sight of what a normal weight looks like.

Who is actually saying all this to you?

Yes agree, it’s to do with body fat level. Maybe you have a higher level of body fat @Imdunfer .

I never said I weighed that now, I did in the past so I’m not sure if you’re 9 or 10 stone but you 100% must be thin at that weight and height. I’m now 10 stone 6 and I am extremely slim. I’m a long distance runner so very toned and slim which may make me slimmer too. I couldn’t physically weigh any less than this without being sick. My fat level is 21%.

That comment has got nothing to do with your weight though. Maybe they think your hobbies are boring, or maybe they're trying to be humorous but obviously to the wrong audience.

I agree that if possible, surround yourself with better people. I’m impressed by your variety of interests and skills. The negative Nellie’s sound like the sort of people, who, when Jesus turned water into wine would say snidely, “It’s because he’s an alcoholic, you know.” Maybe you could shift the conversation to them. “Tell me, does it ever bother you to think that the outfit you’re trying on has been worn by a lot of strangers before you? You don’t wonder if they may have not bathed in weeks or had body lice? Well, I enjoy the creativity of sewing something beautiful just for me instead of grabbing something mass produced and shopworn.”
That’s a lot of words, but you know what I mean. The short version might be “You’re wrong. And anyway, why do you care? Is your life so empty you have to criticize the lives of others?”
I think you’re amazing. You could huddle in your house all day just playing video games for hours. Which is okay, but your life seems so much richer than that. Finally, feel sorry for these ignorant, mean-spirited fools. Aren’t you glad that you’re not like them?

You sound like a real person to me. And you can sew as well..l am also quite fat due to mobility problems and older age group.

As long as your lovely fatness doesn't affect your health .Just enjoy your life.

To quote the old song . Anything enjoyable was "iIlegal or immoral or it makes you fast.

Get some tight tee shirts made with old take on the Black Peer Movement.
"Say it loud. I'm Fat and l'm Proud"

Go for it!

It's largely considered a derogatory term.
Yes, it is offensive.

I agree. And I don't call people skinny

Sorry, posted too soon.

I am obviously not saying that nobody has ever, in the history of the world, been offended by being called skinny. And I am sorry if this has happened to you. But it's simply not true to pretend it's as offensive as calling someone fat.

No it isn't. That's like hearing about Pride celebrations and asking "Why isn't their international straight week?"

Being called skinny is just objectively not offensive in the same was as being called fat is.

And I say this as someone who was dangerously skinny in the past. When people commented on it, I fucking loved it!

Our modern society tells us that skinny= good. Unless you have been raised in a vacuum, you know this.

I'm obviously not saying

And Fatties are always trying to be offended because they hate themselves.

See how offensive it is when it is reversed? So stop fucking saying it.

One thing I am very proud of is that when I taught fitness classes is that all shapes and sizes took my classes and felt comfortable doing so. There is nothing wrong with being a PT who absolutely looks the part.

My brother is one. He's very modest and he would never shame anyone. But I think that a lot of people liked my classes because I was in my 40s and because I maybe didn't look like what people thought a PT should look like.

I can relate to people who feel too scared to go to a gym because of their size and I've been that person even though I'm a fitness instructor myself

I can assure you that not everyone who has had unwanted comments about their size or weight is imagining it. I have had it most of my life.

I actually suffered from really low self esteem in my teens and unfortunately that led to me having a really unhealthy relationship with food. I've never had an eating disorder but there have been times in my life that I have put on weight when I've been suffering from depression or when I have had injuries. I broke my leg in three places two years ago. And people do comment. One day in lockdown I was walking to the supermarket and someone shouted out his car "haw fatty". Prior to lockdown I was training five days a week but when the gym closed I put on weight. I also remember one Saturday night when I was coming home from the gym. I was maybe around a size 14 then - same "fatty" shouted from a car

But as I said before I was getting all the jibes when I wasn't fat at all. I just wasn't a size ten like some of my friends.

I'm sorry to say too and I am completely aware that not all men are like this but it's always mostly been men who have fat shamed me. Mostly ones I don't know

My mum has the opposite issue. She's tiny and she has struggled to put weight on all her life. I've never shamed her. There have been times where she's been very underweight due to being bullied at work. I never shamed her. I just took her out for lunches to make sure she was eating

Thank you

I’m an overweight runner. I have run 3 half marathons. I’m quite slow but I don’t care. No one tells me I should get faster as I never tell them my time lol! I love running. Can’t wait to retire to do more!
I think you’re imagining a lot of it tbh.

Being negative about fat people is one of the few prejudices left that people feel ok about. It colours everything they think about you.

I've had people calling me fat all my life. My primary school nickname was "doughnut". And when I look back I wasn't fat at all. I was just slightly bigger than my friends. I remember saying to a teacher one day they call me doughnut because I'm fat and she said. You're not fat at all.

I've had people shouting out their cars at me. The last time was during lockdown. I remember seeing someone who was two years above me at school in the street when I was in my mid 20s and he shouted at me (see you're still a fat cunt then). I was probably a size 16 then but was a 12 when I was at high school.

Listen. I became a personal trainer at 46. I was a size 12-14. I had lost four stones in the 18 months before the course and when my body fat percentage was measured the tutor said - well that will need to come down

He didn't have much to say when I did the fitness tests because I was fit

I'm an absolute crap runner so hats off to you. I have done one half marathon. Several ten ks. Several fives and three triathlons but apart from that - I don't run

I don't even go on the treadmill at the gym. Who cares! I have been called fat all my life mostly by complete strangers because I'm pear shaped and I have been very over weight more than once but I used to get the fat jibes when I was around 9 stones 4.

Please ignore. Some people just love putting other people down. I wish I could sew.

People who sew and read are never ever boring OP

OP I will do a very unmumsnetty thing and assume you more know about your own situation than I do. So taking your word that you are fat, and that people do make comments about your hobbies, it is completely reasonable to be annoyed and to push back.

I would also point out that people absolutely do judge hobbies differently depending who does them. Look at all the attention Tom Daley got for the radical act of...knitting

But have people actually said things like that to you? I used to be a UK size 16 at my largest and can't say I have noticed any difference in how I am treated doing my hobbies then compared to now when I am a size 10.

Once in my life, a snooty old cow I was chatting too when doing a long circular walk around Holy Island felt the need to point out it was a long way, and seemed surprised when I said I knew and do lots of long walks. She made some vague comment about not knowing if people walk or not. I asked her why she thought I looked like I didn't walk when I had proper walking clothes and grubby well used hiking boots on, in addition to two very svelte golden retrievers tied to my waist on a running belt (which skinny goldies are a rare sight to see). I knew her prejudice was due to my weight, and she did apologise and said she made assumptions. However, that was just one judgemental women, who I think wouldn't make that mistake again. I don't think that reflects society as a whole and I have never ever had people make comments such as you describe, even when I was fat!

To me you seem motivated, you get there, you’re crafty and creative, you bake good cakes, you’re a super star. ❤️

Who’s saying you’re fat at a 12-14? Lmao I’m sorry but this post is absolutely ridiculous I do all the same hobby’s as you, am a size 14/16,and nobody has ever said anything negative about it