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To be sick of my hobbies being judged differently just because I’m fat?

281 replies

hobbiesevademe · 16/05/2026 19:53

Basically just the question in my title.

I run, but slowly. Of course the fact I’m slow in some moral failing and I must aim to lose as much weight as possible and get faster. But if a skinny person is a slow runner, it’s something that’s praised and respected.

I bake, really bloody good cakes. And it’s obviously because I like eating cake, right 🙄 but if someone skinny bakes an impressive cake, it’s a work of art.

I sew, and it’s grandma-ish and frumpy. But if a skinny person sews their own clothes it’s cool, sustainable and “cottage core”

I like sports and it must be to get guys, but when a skinny girl likes the same sports it’s cool and she’s accepted.

i read, and it’s “lonely” and a bit pathetic.

im a bit sick of being labelled negatively for everything I bloody do. I feel like I can’t win.

OP posts:
Makemeinvisible · 16/05/2026 20:00

It comes over as though you have a very negative view of yourself OP.

hobbiesevademe · 16/05/2026 20:00

Lunarlightning · 16/05/2026 19:58

I think you are projecting a lot. Also if you don't like being called fat then don't call others skinny. It's equally offensive!

I didn’t mention that being called fat is an issue - it’s a fact of who I am. Same as being skinny is a fact.

OP posts:
likelysuspect · 16/05/2026 20:00

I said YABU as your post has a paranoid flavour.

I cant imagine anyone, other than a few strange people, are thinking these things about you

OneDreamyGreenMentor · 16/05/2026 19:59

I do all the above except running, I’m what I’d class as average sized (12/14) and I’ve never heard any of the above comments, either positive or negative.

Are these comments coming from supposed friends, colleagues or strangers?

didntlikeanyofthesuggestions · 16/05/2026 19:59

Who is saying all this stuff? It's great to have hobbies, good luck to you.

Lunarlightning · 16/05/2026 19:58

I think you are projecting a lot. Also if you don't like being called fat then don't call others skinny. It's equally offensive!