To be sick of my hobbies being judged differently just because I’m fat?

I love this, think I will try it.

im also solid as my mum would have said, could certainly afford to loss a little. I also love to bake I’m told I’m good my bread is amazing and my cakes are to die for (can’t make cookies don’t know why) but it’s always implied that I must like them, people are surprised / disbelieving when I say I don’t really eat cake, I might just have a slice once a year maybe but I’m not bothered, I do like bread but don’t eat excessive amounts. I actually had someone say to me one time when I was complaining I couldn’t loose the baby fat, that maybe I shouldn’t bake cakes then !

Don't care if you're fat. I see "well made" people running and I think good on you because you're actually doing it.

Ignore the judgemental feckers and do what you enjoy.

Well that's just fucking rude. "Get a life" indeed. Who do they think they are. Bet their "life" consists of the pub, takeaways and hangovers 😅

I think you're discussing these things with the wrong people.

I like knitting and sewing and making weird scratch built models and painting and cake (not so much making, just the eating) and reading (and ideally reading whilst eating cake).

I have learned not to bother the people who don't 'get' my things with them, because its a waste of my time and theirs. They don't get it, they don't want to and if they are also arseholes, they'll just be horrible about it because they cannot possibly imagine someone enjoying something they don't like.

Who's saying all this stuff?

Yeah thin privilege is real. I speak after being significantly overweight since age 11 and lost 5 stone in Mounjaro. I’ve gone from 16 to 11 stone. It’s ironic the person above thought that 12st10 is a “fat” weight.

we are in an obesogenic society but most people are still fat phobic and there is a huge unconscious bias. I have seen this at work. How people treat me. It’s completely different.

I've never heard anyone say that I play sport to get guys. I play rugby which is extremely cool whatever size or shape you are.

I think it’s about the people you have around you.

Some people don’t have hobbies. I’m average sized, and do half of your hobbies (sew, run, bake) and people are either interested or they are not.

Some people don’t get it “why sew when you can buy your clothes”. “Isn’t it a waste of time” for running its “why not just go to the gym” “I don’t understand how people run in the cold”

People that don’t get it will always have a comment. People that have their own guilty pleasures and hobbies will understand you.

Also, you are probably also merging IRL and online opinions - as online definitely adores the skinny girl doing something on camera (usually) - unless too skinny of course, because I’ve seen comments go the other way.

Keep doing them. And find your club

Yanbu girl, but keep going - you deserve to be happy x

What kind of a running forum requires you to list your weight?

Fuck email all - you are doing a great job of living and doing what you love. Screw everyone else! You're a great role model of a person who is winning 👌

i think you’re overthinking this, or need new friends.

How do people online know you’re a plus size runner? They can’t see you. If I see a larger lady running, I think ‘go girl!’ And admire them for getting out there and running.

Regardimg cakes, has anyone said that your cakes are good because you’re fat? No one thinks that!

Also, the chances are your colleagues would say ‘get a life’ to other people sewing.

You’re on the wrong running forums if people are commenting on your weight or speed. Have you looked at the MN one? Nobody cares how fast you are.

Your colleagues sound like twats.

I’m not naive though. Being fat makes people act more negatively towards you. We are judged on our body shape more than most other things.

I think the issue is the people you associate with.

Just reply with "why do you think that?" to it all.

You need to go faster!
Why do you think that?
Because speed is the aim
Why do you think that?
Cos it's called running so it has to be fast
Why do you think that?

I made this skirt
You need to get a life
Why do you think that
Cos sewing is for losers
Why do you think that?
Cos I buy all my own clothes
But why do you think that?

They'll either get bored and shut up or gain some personal growth

I think this is either made up or inside your head and I doubt someone has made negative comments about every single hobby you have. This sounds more like you projecting.
Thing is realistically and unfortunately fat people are judged more.

Yes but if you're in this sort of mindset and you care far too much about what others think, it doesn't matter what your body looks like.

It's giving too much of a shit about what others think that's your main problem here.

I was coming on to say exactly this.

Word for word!

Sounds like a lot of this is inside your head op.

I read a lot. I talk about books often with others that enjoy reading, and in the earshot of those that don't. I've never had anywhere close to a negative comment or anyone saying it's lonely or pathetic. People join in saying they loved xyz book too or they don't get much time to read, or that they've never been a reader but wish they were. Basically, universally positive or neutral. You must be mixing with very odd people imo.

The only person labelling you all these negative things is you.

Who says any of this? I've never heard of cottage-core. I am a runner and it's a very supportive hobby for anyone.

I run, was quite fast (nothing amazing) but kept getting injuries so now I run 5ks only and slowly. Never had anything but encouragement whether I was 9st or 12st 10 (I’ve been both). I read, we talk about books, I bake, eat cake with friends. I do wonder if these perceptions are in your head or you’re hanging round with arseholes. Go to park run - everyone is encouraged and it’s not competitive (except the speedy ones).

It's really not

Fuck 'em. You sound cool. Just ignore them and keep doing you. The right people will think you are great.

Are you arguing with yourself because who's saying these things??

Are your colleagues 11 year olds?