To be sick of my hobbies being judged differently just because I’m fat?

Yeah but do you have a slim colleague who sews that they find cool because of it?

Because I knit, I’m a size 4, and no one thinks it’s cool.

I mean, I’m not saying people don’t have negative views and prejudices towards overweight individuals! And I can definitely see how those views would colour how they view exercise or food based hobbies. But I think the sewing is a bit of a stretch.

I have literally never heard of even one of the examples you've listed. Who says they respect "skinny girls for running slowly"? The other examples are just as strange.

If people are actually saying these things to you then you really, really need better friends!

i am a fat slow runner. I do the jeffing technique and recently ran a half marathon - only started running a year ago. I run for 45 secs and walk for 30 for the whole distance. My experience is that posting ANYTHING about running on ANYTHING where people post their pace will have the pace police out! Forget strava and instagram - I have left both as both toxic and makes me feel bad. Running makes me feel
good - I do it for myself and I will not talk to anyone about it because it’s nothing to do with them and I don’t care what they think.

Particularly on this thread where people don’t believe OP.

Is this just your perception of what people say?
Because I never hear those sort of comments aimed at anyone.
I am slim and after the couch to 5k, did a park run. I am slow runner, got overtaken by a gentleman walking and a larger lady pushing a pram. In fact I came last and everyone was waiting and cheering me. I could have died, in my new Sweaty Betty gear, all lovely and slim and by the end I looked a wreck. That’s it, can’t face that again.
So you see it works both ways. I have large friends, I have skinny friends and I don’t judge a single one of them. Hold your head up high and keep being you.

I believe that there is a lot of negative prejudice and stereotyping of 'fat' people.

Latex shorts from Primark?? Honestly if such a monstrosity exists, and people wear them, fat or thin they do deserve a bit of opprobrium.

Well I think you sound fucking awesome!

Good question!. And, I LOVE sewing! Who are these people who say these things OP?

If you are short, 12st 10 is an obese weight. My BMI would be 34 at that weight.

OP, I have been a slim slow runner and am now a post-menopausal overweight slow runner, and at both weights I’ve been told by “helpful” men how to train to speed up. Even happened when I was six months pregnant. Some people just like to give unsolicited and unwanted advice, it makes them feel like an expert (even when the advice is totally wrong).

Stop being obsessed about fat and thin. If you think you're fat and aren't happy about it then go on a diet/join a slimming club.

But who's judging you?

I don't know anything about the culture of sport hobby groups, but for the other things, you definitely need to find 'your people' - people who are interested in sewing or reading and want to discuss them, not one another.

I've sewn throughout my life (middle aged now) and when I've been thin, fat and everything in between. I don't give a hoot whether it's cool or not.

Let's talk sewing - I've just finished altering a wonderful vintage silk dress to fit me and I can't wait to wear it when it's a bit warmer! What's your current or recent project @hobbiesevademe ?

You are being paranoid. I bet no one has said that to you. I'm a runner, there are larger runners that are faster than me. No one cares what your weight is or what your hobbies are only you.

Can I guess that all the "cool looking thin people" you see doing these hobbies are on social media?
I love watching cosy homely vlogs of people sewing and reading in a cottage and yes they are generally thin and make it look cool but.....social media is completely fake!

This sounds like you're either projecting a bit or need to cull a healthy proportion of your social circle. I've literally never heard anything other than positivity for fat people running and baking.

Is anyone actually saying this or is it all in your head?

Nah I’m a bit overweight and do these things and don’t get this. You’re projecting

It's really not.

Being completely objective, do you think all these comments are made because you are fat? I have received odd looks and 'get a lifr' comments from good friends, because knitting is seen as an elderly hobby. I brush it off. Speed is seen as a big thing even in social running, where people are trying to improve their personal best all the time. People commenting that your time is slow, and how to improve it, would likely say the same to anyone running that slow.

Of course fat people are treated badly in many walks of life, but it isn't the main reason people will be shitty to you in every situation.

These are all awful but who is saying this and that too consistently across different groups? That's very odd. I mean half the world reads, so why would anyone say it is pathetic? What has reading got to do with weight?

I've never heard of a 'well made' person.

Does it mean fat?

I would've thought it meant well groomed/well put together?

Nah fuck ‘em. Whoever is saying this to you needs to piss off. I’m ‘skinny’ (although prefer the term slim) and I bet you could run faster than me because I am shit at running. I do bake a mean cake though. Can’t sew for toffee.
Whenever I see anyone out running I always think fair play to them and that I am jealous, regardless of age, gender, shape etc

Hold up, I have questions.

How much of this, quite honestly, would you not be writing if not for the way you see Instagram readers/runners/bakers being congratulated? Because everyone is secretly jealous of them - even the instagrammers know they've put a filter on their photo and cropped it just so and made their life look golden. That's what people are loving - the way that showcasing your life can make everything look the way Christmas morning is supposed to feel.

Who in your real life is speaking to you like this? We need to unpack what twattery you are giving headspace to.

Is there any part of this that comes from actually wanting to be a different shape because that can be done.

Also, you're right to an extent. I agree. Aesthetically pleasing gets more praise. It's particularly noticeable with willowy mothers. All she has to do is float about in a flowing skirt and people get sentimental in a way they would not if she was stocky and wore latex shorts from Primark.