To be sick of my hobbies being judged differently just because I’m fat?

I think it may be general self esteem issues. You don’t like the way you look and this can make a person lack overall confidence and believe everyone is judging them or staring at them. I’ve felt this way too in the past when overweight, I remember actually crying once after taking DC swimming because I was utterly convinced I was being laughed at. In hindsight, I think they were laughing at something totally different and I also wasn’t the only overweight person there by any means. It’s in your head, basically.

Who are these people that are judging you this way? You need to get them out of your life and appreciate yourself for you! People who look down on other people will find any reason. If not weight, then hair colour, partner choice, accent, car etc. That's a them problem! Also, if you need appreciation for baking, feel free to bring me all of your cakes!! 💓

I am fat and I bake, sew, crochet, knit, read.

I have never felt judged and think you are projecting.

Sorry but as someone who has always been slim (except for pregnancy & medication related weight gain) I do find the term "skinny" offensive. It is rarely meant as a compliment. Skinny is not "a fact". It is both a subjective and judgmental term. I wouldn't call someone "fat" but I would say that they were overweight. There's a difference. And I agree with other posters: who are these people who are judging you? Have you actually had this said to your face? Or are you simply projecting?

Just to clarify, you think someone told your to get a life as you were sewing (something I’d also assume as jokey) is because your fat?

That's not what the phrase means. Hth.

I don't consider it a compliment 😆

I run, but slowly. Of course the fact I’m slow in some moral failing and I must aim to lose as much weight as possible and get faster. But if a skinny person is a slow runner, it’s something that’s praised and respected.

When are skinny slow runners respected? I didn't even know that was a thing. I was always booed for running slowly in 5k runs when I was thin.

Don't flatter yourself.

Because its the narrative social media has taught her to play in her head

I don’t get that either?

Ive personally not heard any of these and ive never thought this myself either. Is it possible this is insecurities speaking?

Well your certainly hanging round my neck, so both work for me 🤣

Well it's either a crap attempt at humour or a snidey comment from the office mean girl/bloke. Surely you just respond with an eye roll or a "get fucked" and crack on?
And honestly, anyone who thinks reading is lonely and pathetic is too thick to give a shit about.
I don't get why you think these comments are because you're fat?

Right, so they didn't say "get a life fatty" and then turn to a skinny woman who said she was doing the same thing, and praised her for it? You're just projecting all of that onto the situation? Feeding yourself a made up narrative that makes you a victim? Maybe stop living in your own head. No one is that interested in you and no one is out to get you.

I think people can lose sight of the fact that people are individuals and how someone can look at a certain weight can depend on their training.

I am just under five foot two. I have been 11 stones 7 and a size 16 and 11 stones 11 and a size 12-14. The difference is in the training

The tipping point for my weight is if I go over 12 stones 10 (when I'm still training a lot) . I start to feel uncomfortable

Even at my very fittest I struggle to get my body fat percentage below around 27.

My brother is a personal trainer and he's got a body fat percentage of around 20. It's been lower but his BMI is just over 25 and that puts him into the obese category - he's not obese

If I don't train I look a lot bigger even if I'm the same weight - however that might not be the same for everyone

People can be the same height and feel ok at much different weights

My mum is around an inch taller than me and very slim and if she is over 10 stones she starts to feel uncomfortable (which she has only been once in her life), whereas I'm quite comfortable at that weight. People don't all have the same body types or frames either.

I wasn't being pedantic. I politely said that you were wrong. You're the person who then started name calling me and calling me stupid.

For context regarding my stupidity, I have two post grads and I'm just about to finish my third BA degree, I don't really need to be sitting worrying because some random person on mumsnet who is name calling me is questioning my intelligence.

pedant, not pendant .

Being called skinny is definitely not equally offensive.

People make swype errors all the time. They aren't connected with intelligence. Again you knew exactly what it meant.

Nobody who says that muscle weighs more that fat means anything other than that a litre of muscle will weigh more than a litre of fat.

You're quite the pendant, constantly picking on things that in context are self evident, aren't you?

No I'm not stupid. I'm a personal trainer who sees a lot of urban myths around fitness being repeated on social media. Once more if you read back your own post you posted in black and white that muscle weighs more than fat.

Ps. Maybe you want to check the huge typo you've just made before you continue to name call me as stupid for no reason.

Are you really so stupid that in the context of this whioe discussion about body size you couldn't work out that I couldn't be bothered to type the words "for the same size” because absolutely everyone but you knew exactly what I meant?

You really thought it clarified things for people to point out that a kilo weighs a kilo?

I'm quite aware of that - but you said muscle weighs more than fat. It doesn't - your exact words were "which of course weighs more". I was simply saying that's not the case

Oh for goodness sake. We're talking about muscle and fat in the context of body size.

Of course a kilo of feathers weighs the same as a kilo of lead!

Muscle actually does not weigh more than fat. 1kg of muscle and a kg of fat weigh the same. The issue is density which is why someone who strength trains can look slimmer than someone of the same weight that doesn't

You do sound like you’re either projecting or you’re surrounded by some very judgmental awful people.
I can’t run at all not even for the bus ( I can walk quite quickly when necessary) I’d miss the last bus and need to get a taxi .
I don’t really sew other than mending something or sewing buttons back on .
I can bake but it’s really not that impressive , only basic bakes .
I don’t like sports really .
I’m not skinny , I’m middle of the BMI chart for my height .