DH wont leave

Why do you keep going on about this? Men on averega earn more than women, that's a fact. No one cares about the women you know.This situation isn't anything to do with him being a low earner and everythign to do with him working for his dad for a token wage

If it’s only your name on the tenancy then he really has no rights.

Only temporarily though I believe.

He’s already left, so adding drama with changing the locks probably isn’t necessary.

@Rainymay12

The fact that it is in your name AND was your home prior to him moving in is in your favour, however the fact that you are legally married may have a bearing on whether or not you can simply change the locks. Also, since he is not on the tenancy would that mean that your dad could evict him as he is not 'technically' his tenant?

I'm not in the UK, but maybe someone here knows of an organization who may be able to advise the OP on the above?

ETA: Oh, I see the poster above me has cited a couple of organizations to check with.

I'm inclined to agree with Op just throwing him out after giving him about two weeks notice in writing to leave with a few other people present to support her, and call the police if he is threatening, on the basis that he's not got any legal right to live in the property as he's not on the tenancy agreement, (OP has stated this) and that OP wants to legally separate and divorce him.
I think the fact that OP's father is the landlord in this situation is a bit of a red herring and is confusing matters. If OP was unrelated to her landlord, and the tenancy was in her name only, I'm pretty sure that her husband would have no legal right at all to reside in the property. It would be easy to clarify this with CAB or shelter or some other free legal advice giving organisation, or a Paid solicitor, to double check she's within her rights to throw him out. It would also be useful if she needed police assistance at the time, to prove to them that she is legally allowed to do so (the police can get things wrong in this sort of situation)

Op you should not have to move out he brings nothing to the relationship or the kids or your house he’s not on paperwork so he can’t refuse he sounds horrible tbh.

Not necessarily. It does put OP in a strong position to have him removed though.

Are you going to take legal advice about legally evicting him from the property?

Great, so he can't just refuse to leave. Well, he can, but you just change the locks when he's out.

Are you going to answer any of the questions about the tenancy situation OP?

Agree, there are things to think about, like answering the question of who's name is on the tenancy. I hope he does change his ways but it sounds like he is just buying some time and going off on the drink.

Your anecdata doesn’t negate the actual statistical evidence to the contrary.

The OP's father owns the house, do you honestly think for one second he's going to see his DD and grandchildren being financially abused, let down repeatedly, left without any form of transport and do absolutely nothing about it?

OP, I hope by now that you've talked to your father about this.

In that case you are not going to get him. Talk to a solicitor about divorce, Then take the kids the car and leave.

I wouldn’t move out without the kids, it would be like abandoning them, especially when their father doesn’t do anything for them. Could you take the kids when he is at work and move in with your parents, tell them everything. Your dad can then make plans to evict him, once he is gone you can move back with the kids x

Im guessing you probably don't have a formal contract with your dad?

Start divorce proceedings. Oh and get your dad to change the locks when he's out if you want him gone immediately.

I would just start by not letting him use your card. If you think he will just take it then cancel it or change the PIN. Don't cook for him. Don't do his laundry. Don't make plans with or for him and don't include him in yours. Act like a single person with children. And don't share a bed with him.

If you can pack up his stuff and change the locks while he's out fair enough - I would probably take his things round to his mother, but if he has the car you may not be able to do that and you will probably have to resign yourself to bring carless. If you are still paying for the car and it is in your name you could report it stolen perhaps, provided you can prove that he has taken it without permission so you would need to send him messages to say you want the car back and he does not have permission to use it. Send more than one, and tell him that if he does not return it you will report it stolen. I

It's very easy for other people to tell you what you can do and only you can know what his reaction would be. I had it easy. I told my ex I wanted him to leave and gave him a reasonable time to find somewhere to live, washed and packed his clothes, sorted out bedding and towels, was as nice as can be whilst still being implacable about it, and he left. We sorted out access to the children during this period, and we have remained on polite terms even now they are adults. I hope you can do the same.

Get your father to evict. And instigate divorce proceedings asap. You can do this and you will be so much happier.

He clearly despises you. 💐

Get your father round to throw him out and call 101 for advice. He doesn't get a choice. Change the locks whilst he is out and call the police at any hint of aggression. Who's car is it? If yours, remove him from the insurance and call the police if he attempts to take it and drive. Report it stolen. Get tough.

This is horrible advice and if there are custody issues in future doing this will look bad, not to mention putting the kids through unnecessary stress.

Your father can tell him to leave his house then

Clearly there is a lot of double think in what you are saying, which shows that you don't have consistent or rational perspectives. You should take a step back and reflect on that.

Btw this is projection. You failed to clearly state your position when I asked you repeatedly to clarify if you’re saying women should just get used to men like OPs partner who brings nothing

Your “arguments” seems to focus on just picking at something in my post, misrepresenting it and then going off on a new tangent. You initially made some false claim about mens earning in comparison to women. That didn’t hold up to scrutiny, and I posted the stats to disprove it, so you then moved onto something else - all the while avoiding my questions above.

It’s absolutely bonkers if you are seriously suggesting women should get used to settling down , marrying and having kids with men like OPs husband who contribute nothing. And leave it all to their wives to do everything. If they want to live like a solo man wanting only to earn money for themselves and not cooking/cleaning for others and looking after kids they should stay single and childfree.

Again, my position on this thread has always been women don’t need to accept useless men like OPs husband who bring nothing to the family table except another mouth to feed. It’s better to be single than to accept bottom barrel men.

No right thinking or rational decent man (or woman) would argue against this.

I’d really question your motivations for opposing this common sense stance and ask yourself why the idea of women choosing a man who can consistently contribute in some way (beyond providing the sperm for a child) bothers you.