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To want a refund from Etsy seller

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sapphicy · 16/05/2026 13:15

I ordered a piece of jewellery from Etsy for my niece which was due via Royal Mail special delivery on 8th May, unfortunately my DP missed the delivery so we asked for it to be delivered to local post office and it was due there on 9th May.

One week later no update at all on Royal Mail tracking and the occasion the item was ordered for has now been and gone, so I asked for a refund from the seller on Etsy.

At first he just said he won’t refund on the basis my DP missed the delivery. Then he said he will refund if he gets the item back but is refusing to look into it with Royal Mail and told me that’s my problem. I called the post office and they said they don’t have it. Seller has now also closed his Etsy shop until 24th May and put a message up saying messages will not be responded to during that time, he also explained that even if it does turn up I can’t return the item now as it needs a signature and he won’t be there to sign.

I have opened a case with Etsy and waiting to see if they will refund me, assume Royal Mail have cocked up here and lost the item. If they don’t refund me I will have to try a chargeback via Amex.

Any advice on what to do here? It wasn’t a custom item just off the shelf, value £200, and postage was free, AIBU to want a full refund at this point and seller can sort it out with Royal Mail? I feel like the seller is doing everything possible to keep my money regardless of what happens to the item and I’m starting to panic Etsy are going to side with the seller.

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CanOnlyBeMyself · 16/05/2026 13:53

How is the delivery being missed at your end any fault of the seller? This kind of behaviour is exactly why I’ve pretty much stopped selling handmade things online. There are too many people around these days who don’t know how life works.

Just resell it.

sesquipedalian · 16/05/2026 13:46

So you want a refund because your DNiece missed a delivery, and Royal Mail have lost it somewhere. How is any of this the seller’s fault?

CockerSpanielEarFlaps · 16/05/2026 13:43

If he had refunded you, and the item was lost in Royal Mail, he would have been massively out of pocket due to your error. Claiming from Royal Mail for lost items takes ages in situations like this as they do all they can to wiggle out of it - I'm still waiting for a refund from something lost over a month ago.

Going through Etsy is the right approach, and the one I always ask customers to use. This way, Etsy will refund them and the seller should still keep the money from their order - no one ends up out of pocket. This is why they have a purchase protection programme.

https://help.etsy.com/hc/en-gb/articles/7471925990807-Etsy-s-Purchase-Protection-Programme?segment=shopping

Please do bear this in mind in the future - the Purchase Protection Programme is there to protect sellers and buyers 😊

N.B - don't under-estimate how much time can go into creating jewellery. I have quite a few Etsy seller friends, and even their basic 'off-the-shelf' stuff can take easily 10+ hours to produce. Once you factor in their labour, and cost of materials...profits can be pretty small. Which is again why the Purchase Protection Programme exists.

PlutarchHeavensbee · 16/05/2026 13:28

If you have opened a case with Etsy due to non delivery then Etsy will refund you. The seller has no choice in the matter at all. He has all the responsibility of getting the item to you.

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