Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To think that "97% of women can breastfeed" is a load of crap

562 replies

elliejjtiny · 16/05/2026 12:53

I've been seeing this phrase a lot over the years, about how 97% of women can breastfeed and all the rest of the people who say they can't just need support.

I would guess that 97% of women can probably produce milk (although I wouldn't be surprised if it was lower) but there is so much more to breastfeeding than the mum producing milk which never seem to be mentioned. Mums with disabilities/medical conditions, babies with disabilities/medical conditions, babies who are born prematurely, mums separated from their babies and mums on medication that means they can't breastfeed.

When people gaily spout that 97% of women can breastfeed I find is so annoying and inaccurate. It's usually the same people who want the number of c-sections reduced as well and think that everyone can give birth with no interventions, they just need to stay mobile and ignore the nasty doctors.

OP posts:
Thread gallery
5
Jasminealive · 16/05/2026 22:33

Teresa7 · 16/05/2026 22:10

I must read this

Autoimmune disease was the main contributor to my low supply. I had no idea it would affect my supply.

On the note of the ED studies comparison, I found it so frustrating when researching supply and milk quality issues that I found studies regarding lactation in farm animals for agriculture purposes much easier to find, and they explored areas that I’d never found human studies on.

And finally one similar point, I only recently learnt that iron deficiency affects supply. A frustrating rabbit hole to go down is what the nhs will say normal ferritin levels are compared to what specialists say is ideal for health.

But this all just goes to show that with support - and knowledgeable experts who work with new mothers - that BF could significantly increase. Which in turn benefits the children and society as a whole

Jasminealive · 16/05/2026 22:31

Floppyearedlab · 16/05/2026 22:23

@JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn

a woman on the till at Sainsbury’s thought it was a good idea to tell me how bad formula is for a baby and how she was pleased that I wouldn’t get any Nectar points for the formula I was buying

what a disgusting thing to say.

FWIW I don’t agree with not giving points for that. It’s an item of shopping like any other. Some need it, some don’t. Like tampons. Shall we take the points off those too because it isn’t fair that male customers won’t get them?

I adore that your whole disagreement and debate on the issue of breastfeeding kids is based around whether you get supermarket points…..ffs

Jasminealive · 16/05/2026 22:29

chisanunian · 16/05/2026 22:00

Considering that around 18% of women don't have children at all, I don't see how they can arrive at those figures.

Bloody hell. Use your brain.

Jasminealive · 16/05/2026 22:27

RapunzelHadExtensions · 16/05/2026 21:41

Last week my Mil called breastfeeding 'trendy' and that's why I'm still doing it with 8 mth old DD 😂

At least you’re cool eh

Floppyearedlab · 16/05/2026 22:23

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 16/05/2026 13:18

I don’t know what percentage of women can breastfeed, but I know that I didn’t because I had no milk. I was devastated. It was a very difficult thing to accept. The support was non existent and the criticism was everywhere. The worst was when a woman on the till at Sainsbury’s thought it was a good idea to tell me how bad formula is for a baby and how she was pleased that I wouldn’t get any Nectar points for the formula I was buying.

So I can understand why the OP is cross about the ‘97%’ report but it’s really just the same as everything else with women and childbirth. It’s all underfunded, unsupported and we’re left to get on with it. My baby is now a strapping 18 year old, so the formula didn’t do any harm.

Edited

@JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn

a woman on the till at Sainsbury’s thought it was a good idea to tell me how bad formula is for a baby and how she was pleased that I wouldn’t get any Nectar points for the formula I was buying

what a disgusting thing to say.

FWIW I don’t agree with not giving points for that. It’s an item of shopping like any other. Some need it, some don’t. Like tampons. Shall we take the points off those too because it isn’t fair that male customers won’t get them?

Teresa7 · 16/05/2026 22:10

MojoMoon · 16/05/2026 21:47

the Economist magazine has a leader and podcast on this topic this week.

The title is: "Mothers who cannot breastfeed have been given terrible advice"
From that article:
A search for “low milk supply” or “low milk production” returns a meagre 14,000 academic papers on PubMed, a database of 40m medical-research papers. “Erectile dysfunction”, which afflicts perhaps 300m men (mostly minimally), elicits 32,000 studies. This neglect matters.

And:
For years doctors assumed this problem was rare: that no more than 5% of mothers suffered from inadequate milk supply.Recent research, by scientists who have bothered to look, suggests that the true figure is closer to 10% or even 20%. The causes of low milk supply are often linked to complicated biological pathways beyond a new mother’s control, as we explore in our “Weekend Intelligence” podcast. Some are genetic. Others may involve conditions like obesity, diabetes or autoimmune disorders, which expectant women cannot just wish away by willpower alone.

I must read this

Autoimmune disease was the main contributor to my low supply. I had no idea it would affect my supply.

On the note of the ED studies comparison, I found it so frustrating when researching supply and milk quality issues that I found studies regarding lactation in farm animals for agriculture purposes much easier to find, and they explored areas that I’d never found human studies on.

And finally one similar point, I only recently learnt that iron deficiency affects supply. A frustrating rabbit hole to go down is what the nhs will say normal ferritin levels are compared to what specialists say is ideal for health.

PancakeCloud · 16/05/2026 22:02

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 16/05/2026 21:56

Why can’t it be true? I can assure you my milk didn’t come in. I tried so hard to feed my baby. But there was just no milk. No engorgement. Nothing when I pumped. I was devastated. Women should be supporting women not kicking them when they’re down.

Edited

Agree. Why can’t it be true?

I think the problem is people assume everyone’s experience is similar to their own, and so if they found BF hard at first but it worked out for them, they think those who didn’t manage to BF just didn’t try hard enough or did it wrong.

chisanunian · 16/05/2026 22:00

PancakeCloud · 16/05/2026 17:45

97% can lactate. That isn’t the same as having enough milk to feed their baby. My understanding is 80-90% of women can produce enough milk to sustain their child(ren) fully, which is still most but given 10-20% of women can’t exclusively breastfeed due to supply issues it is hardly rare.

Considering that around 18% of women don't have children at all, I don't see how they can arrive at those figures.

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 16/05/2026 21:56

yoshigizzit · 16/05/2026 13:31

This is what I struggle with, I hear “my milk didn’t come in” SO often and it simply can’t be true in all the cases I hear it, also, I remember what those early days felt like. When it felt like your baby was getting nothing, I suspect a lot of the women who think their milk didn’t come in actually did it just wasn’t how they were expecting, and that comes down to lack of support (and less community knowledge I guess, I was lucky to be surrounded by BFers who put my mind at rest).

Why can’t it be true? I can assure you my milk didn’t come in. I tried so hard to feed my baby. But there was just no milk. No engorgement. Nothing when I pumped. I was devastated. Women should be supporting women not kicking them when they’re down.

MojoMoon · 16/05/2026 21:47

the Economist magazine has a leader and podcast on this topic this week.

The title is: "Mothers who cannot breastfeed have been given terrible advice"
From that article:
A search for “low milk supply” or “low milk production” returns a meagre 14,000 academic papers on PubMed, a database of 40m medical-research papers. “Erectile dysfunction”, which afflicts perhaps 300m men (mostly minimally), elicits 32,000 studies. This neglect matters.

And:
For years doctors assumed this problem was rare: that no more than 5% of mothers suffered from inadequate milk supply.Recent research, by scientists who have bothered to look, suggests that the true figure is closer to 10% or even 20%. The causes of low milk supply are often linked to complicated biological pathways beyond a new mother’s control, as we explore in our “Weekend Intelligence” podcast. Some are genetic. Others may involve conditions like obesity, diabetes or autoimmune disorders, which expectant women cannot just wish away by willpower alone.

RapunzelHadExtensions · 16/05/2026 21:41

Walkyrie · 16/05/2026 15:40

Agree re the pressures not to breastfeed. MIL was very sniffy about it and constantly asked me when I was stopping. She would ask if I was ‘still breastfeeding him’ in hushed tones, when he was 6 months old.

Last week my Mil called breastfeeding 'trendy' and that's why I'm still doing it with 8 mth old DD 😂

RapunzelHadExtensions · 16/05/2026 21:31

MrsAvocet · 16/05/2026 19:37

Well of course both things can be true.
Even if we assume that the oft quoted 97-98% is accurate, that means 2-3% or about 1:50 to 1:30 are not physically able to breastfeed exclusively. That may be a minority but it is a lot of women over all. It seems probable that most of us would know at least one or two people possibly more in that group when you consider how many other Mums you meet over a lifetime. It's not that rare.
Equally there are lots and lots of Mums who are led to believe that they don't make enough milk because their babies feed fequently, cluster feed or are deemed to be "unsettled". I was born in the 60s, my siblings in the late 50s, and my Mum was very much of the "give a bottle every 4 hours and leave the pram in the garden" school of baby rearing that was prevalant at the time. Formula was promoted as "modern" and "scientific" and babies needed to be fed by the clock and keep in a strict routine. She was convinced that there was something badly wrong when I had a newborn who was latched on pretty much 24/7. Those beliefs and habits still hang over even now. A "good" baby feeds regularly, not too often, and sleeps all night. That's not biologically normal but it has become the social norm and lots of new mums get their confidence knocked when their babies behave, well, like babies.
So women with genuine supply problems most certainly do exist, but they are outnumbered by women who are made to believe they do. Plus of course that not infrequently becomes a self fulfilling prophecy as the suggested "solutions" do then lead to a drop in supply.

Great post.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 16/05/2026 21:31

BrownBookshelf · 16/05/2026 19:53

It isn't, or at least if it does we don't have sufficient evidence to be able to prove it. Because that would require us to be reliably identifying autism across the population, which we haven't got remotely close to doing. Reading down the article, they're citing studies as far back as the 80s and 90s, when the diagnostic landscape was so utterly different.

I don't get why some people are so attached to the dafter and more spurious claims about the benefits of breastfeeding, when there are some absolutely irrefutable pros they could focus on like fewer gastro problems.

Only on a population level though.

DefiantRabbit9 · 16/05/2026 21:29

As a medicated mum it's doubly important for me to breastfeed. My girlie has been swimming in amniotic fluid peppered with anti-seizure medication. Breastfeeding is going to help wean her off that.

Honestly I don't know the stats on milk production but I can't understand why you wouldn't use it if you make it. That said I am unusually in love with every aspect of pregnancy and motherhood.

ARunByFruiting · 16/05/2026 21:27

Jasminealive · 16/05/2026 21:02

Most allergies you are born with though. I don’t understand what you’re saying? People develop allergies because they’re exposed to foods from other cultures? Is there a source for this?

No, you can "grow into" and "grow out of" allergies throughout life. You aren't born with allergies.

Kayleighfish · 16/05/2026 21:24

Interesting to think about.

I wasn't able to fully breastfeed, and it absolutely broke my heart. I had a lot of help it just wasn't meant to. I'll always feel a great sadness about it.

BrownBookshelf · 16/05/2026 21:22

BertieBotts · 16/05/2026 20:59

Anecdotally, a lot of children later identified as autistic were extremely unsettled as babies or have difficulty in breastfeeding, so the causation could also be the other way around - autistic children have more trouble breastfeeding perhaps due to gastric distress, muscle tone issues (esp if we are thinking it applies to the children more likely to have been identified as autistic in the 80s/90s) or connective tissue disorders e.g. EDS, all of which are highly correlated with autism. Or sensory issues/oversensitive nervous system, again correlated with autism, causing high amounts of crying/distress which is interpreted as difficulty feeding or could lead to difficulty feeding (baby in distress/survival mode is more likely to land on a shallow latch causing poor milk transfer) plus the huge one that premature babies are far more likely to (independently) be formula fed, and autistic - there are so many reasons that autism could be correlated with formula feeding which don't come down to "formula causes autism" or "breastfeeding prevents it".

Or perhaps they just prefer the bottle feeding routine Grin (that one is a joke, don't come at me!)

In fact some of the longest term cases of breastfeeding I've heard of where DC are still feeding at 7, 8 years the children have been autistic. So it doesn't seem to have been especially preventative in those cases.

Excellent points.

I do have to wonder whether the people who believe the poorly evidenced claims about breastfeeding and autism would be quite so willing to overlook the obvious weaknesses if they said formula was protective.

Slimtoddy · 16/05/2026 21:21

Jasminealive · 16/05/2026 18:51

Because overall non breastfed kids are more likely to suffer from a number of conditions including leukaemia, asthma, allergies and autism. All of which are on the rise. Of course most who are formula fed don’t suffer from these but overall ff babies are more likely to than BF.

So it does affect society as a whole.

That’s why it matters.

My 3 DC all breastfed for long periods have - Autism, Asthma and Allergies. As I said earlier they have incredibly straight teeth but other than that I not sure they benefited hugely. There could be hidden positives I guess.

Anyway I still think BF is difficult and can be very painful (I found childbirth without pain relief easier in some ways) so I think it's understandable not everyone does it.

Meadowfinch · 16/05/2026 21:19

As you say, it probably means the % who can produce milk.

I was one of them, but I also had bleeding nappies, thrush in my breast that required an unlicensed drug to resolve, and ds struggled to feed for the first week.

We got there eventually, but it was not easy. It was very painful. 🙁

Back20 · 16/05/2026 21:19

I was able to breastfeed. Baby fed well and thrived. Then I had to stop to go back to work. To pay taxes. Taxes which then push the “breast is best agenda”. Pissed me right off. Maybe give working mums an actual choice to breastfeed rather than spend taxes promoting something that I couldn’t actually afford to do 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬💰💰

Jasminealive · 16/05/2026 21:06

Motheranddaughter · 16/05/2026 20:50

Honestly ,20+ years down the line I really am not sure it matters
I was very,very keen to Breastfeed
3 DC
First BF was a disaster
Second was okayish BF for 6 months
Third BF for 14 months
I can’t see any difference in their health or anything else

of course you can’t. You have 3 kids. Population level differences don’t tend to occur over such a tiny sample.

however, if there were 3000 kids, 1000 of which had been breastfed and the others not, you’d be able to see a statistically significant difference in the health of those who had been.

I couldn’t care less if people BF or FF but I can’t stand this disingenuous ‘it makes no difference’ stance. It makes a difference over a population cohort as a whole. BF gives a huge amount of benefits. From less occurrence of leukaemia to asthma to autism to allergies to maternal cancers. Anecdotal evidence doesn’t negate this

Jasminealive · 16/05/2026 21:02

ARunByFruiting · 16/05/2026 19:45

Bf might offer some protection to start with but makes no difference in the long run because a person's living, eating and general health habits end up having the biggest impact throughout their life.

Foods from all around the world weren't available like they are today, so it's natural that allergies could be more common to foods less familiar. Celery for example is one of the 14 major allergies (within the EU) but in the UK it is not very common as it's been grown here forever and is in so many things our immune systems are used to it.

Most allergies you are born with though. I don’t understand what you’re saying? People develop allergies because they’re exposed to foods from other cultures? Is there a source for this?

Slimtoddy · 16/05/2026 21:01

ImImmortalNowBabyDoll · 16/05/2026 17:19

They recommend that you eat all allergens- including nuts- whilst breastfeeding as it reduces the risk of allergies, so you can let that guilt go.

Thanks. Back then the advice was different and the thing he is highly allergic to I ate a huge amount of. Back then they thought early exposure could somehow trigger an allergic response in babies. I now understand there is a different view and early exposure is recommended.

BertieBotts · 16/05/2026 20:59

BrownBookshelf · 16/05/2026 19:53

It isn't, or at least if it does we don't have sufficient evidence to be able to prove it. Because that would require us to be reliably identifying autism across the population, which we haven't got remotely close to doing. Reading down the article, they're citing studies as far back as the 80s and 90s, when the diagnostic landscape was so utterly different.

I don't get why some people are so attached to the dafter and more spurious claims about the benefits of breastfeeding, when there are some absolutely irrefutable pros they could focus on like fewer gastro problems.

Anecdotally, a lot of children later identified as autistic were extremely unsettled as babies or have difficulty in breastfeeding, so the causation could also be the other way around - autistic children have more trouble breastfeeding perhaps due to gastric distress, muscle tone issues (esp if we are thinking it applies to the children more likely to have been identified as autistic in the 80s/90s) or connective tissue disorders e.g. EDS, all of which are highly correlated with autism. Or sensory issues/oversensitive nervous system, again correlated with autism, causing high amounts of crying/distress which is interpreted as difficulty feeding or could lead to difficulty feeding (baby in distress/survival mode is more likely to land on a shallow latch causing poor milk transfer) plus the huge one that premature babies are far more likely to (independently) be formula fed, and autistic - there are so many reasons that autism could be correlated with formula feeding which don't come down to "formula causes autism" or "breastfeeding prevents it".

Or perhaps they just prefer the bottle feeding routine Grin (that one is a joke, don't come at me!)

In fact some of the longest term cases of breastfeeding I've heard of where DC are still feeding at 7, 8 years the children have been autistic. So it doesn't seem to have been especially preventative in those cases.

Motheranddaughter · 16/05/2026 20:50

Honestly ,20+ years down the line I really am not sure it matters
I was very,very keen to Breastfeed
3 DC
First BF was a disaster
Second was okayish BF for 6 months
Third BF for 14 months
I can’t see any difference in their health or anything else