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AIBU to think a junior probationer’s month abroad request is unreasonable?

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estrogone · 16/05/2026 12:43

We have a junior in our office who’s only been with us about three months and is still on probation, where the expectation is mostly office-based work. They briefly mentioned in passing at one point that they might travel overseas, but there was never any proper discussion or approval before the trip was booked.

They’ve now come back and advised the trip is already booked and confirmed for nearly a month overseas, in a time zone 10 hours away. They proposed a range of adjusted working arrangements, including shortened hours and overnight work, so they can continue working remotely while away.

I haven’t approved the shortened hours or alternative arrangements and have asked them to demonstrate how they realistically intend to maintain service levels and cope with working nights while effectively on holiday overseas.

I am a lot WTAF Confused to four weeks of leave for someone who has only been with the business a matter of months and is still in probation.

AIBU to think this is request is out of order?

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ClimbEveryLadder · 17/05/2026 12:13

I haven’t rtft so this may have already been mentioned but in the UK there are tax implications for the company if any employee is working remotely overseas in a country where the company does not have an office and is not paying tax in that country (short periods of time are ok but this employees proposal would be over).

Suggest you check what the tax authority rules are for your country as you want to ensure any future policy you put in is compliant and maybe point that out to the employee as part of letting them go.

Toomanyweekstogo · 17/05/2026 12:08

estrogone · 16/05/2026 12:43

We have a junior in our office who’s only been with us about three months and is still on probation, where the expectation is mostly office-based work. They briefly mentioned in passing at one point that they might travel overseas, but there was never any proper discussion or approval before the trip was booked.

They’ve now come back and advised the trip is already booked and confirmed for nearly a month overseas, in a time zone 10 hours away. They proposed a range of adjusted working arrangements, including shortened hours and overnight work, so they can continue working remotely while away.

I haven’t approved the shortened hours or alternative arrangements and have asked them to demonstrate how they realistically intend to maintain service levels and cope with working nights while effectively on holiday overseas.

I am a lot WTAF Confused to four weeks of leave for someone who has only been with the business a matter of months and is still in probation.

AIBU to think this is request is out of order?

Unless their need to go home is urgent because a family member has been told they have weeks to live, or something similar, then they need to be sacked! If this is their level of entitlement already then they’ll always be a CF!

Switcher · 17/05/2026 12:07

"Since you cannot perform your duties while not present , and it is inconsistent with company policy that applies to everyone else, it is unpaid leave and your probation will be extended".

hotsoap · 17/05/2026 12:06

If they are nice worker, let them go, and re-employ them once they come back or put them on a waiting list to be re-employed

Lm2 · 17/05/2026 12:06

I would say this is completely unacceptable and probably unachievable to work your full time hours whilst on “holiday” I think this is taking advantage of a system that promotes flexibility with wfh ….. there not at home there in another country!
and another thing I would be concerned about as a manager is how my team would react to this , if you allow one person you would have to allow everyone the opportunity. It’s unfair as I imagine they wouldn’t be contactable with the difference in time zones . It would be a flat out no to working and if still on probation you could either terminate contract or allow unpaid leave . But either way this is a very cheeky brazen request that I wouldn’t even consider

Daisymail · 17/05/2026 12:03

She hasn't even completed her probationary period and is already taking the piss - four weeks! Let her go.

TFImBackIn · 17/05/2026 12:02

Honestly, I would let her go altogether. You'll have to train a temp, so you might as well train someone who is serious about having a job. This person isn't taking her work or your business seriously. That's extra important given you are a small business. She had no reservations about landing you in the shit. She thought you'd sigh and say "OK dear, you can work all night in a foreign country with a completely different time zone when there'll be no supervision - even though you're on probation - and you can go out on trips with your family and friends in your spare time. No worries, enjoy yourself!" No bloody way. She hasn't got the right attitude. Having the right skills is one thing, but you can teach someone that. You can't teach them to have a good attitude to your business.

MinnieMountain · 17/05/2026 12:01

Hmm. I don't think you've decided the right thing OP. I saw that you think your employee messed up, but imagine the resentment it will cause amongst your other employees. Aside from risking CF behaviour from that person in the future.

We had a new starter (Muslim) in my previous job who asked for 2 weeks off over Ramadan. He was told that the maximum number of people were already off because of that, so no. He called in sick, then didn't last long after that.

HelenaWilson · 17/05/2026 12:00

This kind of privelige is earned after putting in the hard yards and showing they are good and reliable.

And even then, there may be legal/security/tax reasons why it can never be permitted, and which an employee may not be aware of.

Working while on holiday in the same country is one thing. Working while on holiday in a different country is a different matter.

TheFlyingPenguin · 17/05/2026 11:57

Rule of thumb, don't book holidays until it has been approved. Unless this is a standout employee who will go far I think you will be taking on a liability.

If you are feeling generous say they can take it unpaid leave, explain the holiday approval process point forward and extend the probation. This covers your back, should not wind up your current employees too much (don't want to set a precedence here) and see what happens.

SockPlant · 17/05/2026 11:54

had only read OP (my bad)

Having seen your update, @estrogone , i think you are probably taking best route.

(disclaimer: i started a new job at the beginning of the month, i made it clear from the start that i would not accept the role if my week's pre-booked holiday - also in May - would not be approved. Or i could start on 1st June. Luckily for me, they really want me so accepted my vacation and all is good)

This is a young person, so you need to be very clear that their behaviour is not acceptable, and that they must not lie (or must be upfront) about pre-booked things during any future interview processes. Point out the additional costs of finding a temp replacement and ask them if they think that is acceptable. Ask them also how they had planned to work their hours in their time-zone while being with family. That is not realistic and you need to let them know that it was never ever going to work out like that and they need to focus on their job before anything like this. This kind of privelige is earned after putting in the hard yards and showing they are good and reliable.

The very cheek of it!

vsosi · 17/05/2026 11:48

estrogone · 16/05/2026 23:25

Lots of posts and good points to consider. Having slept on it, I think what has happened is, is that this leave was booked prior to joining and they were too scared to say so.

Looking back on the interview notes, I can see I did actually ask if they had plans to go back home any time soon and they said no.

Our policy relating to wfh is firm - no working from home during training/probation (6 months) but doesn't reference overseas travel (this will be fixed asap).

Our leave policy is clear x number of days notice required for leave of up to x days with longer notice for longer leave periods.

I think this person has massively fucked up, but that is not my problem.

I am going to say they can go on unpaid leave - with their probation period to restart from when they return for another 6 months. I am going recruit a temp with a handover for cover and if this person works out, well....

I agree this is the right thing to do. It’s an absolutely wild pisstake and if they are going to pisstake this early on, they are going to continue pisstaking.

I would also record that insufficient notice was given for this absence, whether it was to be paid or unpaid or whatever.

what a fucking nightmare employee

and definitely restart probation.

SockPlant · 17/05/2026 11:48

estrogone · 16/05/2026 12:52

I am keen for a range of opinions, hence the AIBU.

It is a client facing role, assigned to one client so I leaves the business exposed. I am considering getting in a temp but the.person only has a few days leave accrued. Perhaps 5 working days of the 17 working days requested. So I am thinking to say take the balance unpaid. They just won't be able to work full nights on holiday, will they?

i would tell them to take one month's unpaid leave which will add one month to their probation.

If you are inclined to agree to this:
there is no shortened working agreement, they work exactly the hours in the UK time zone that they are expected to work. As on probation they will be required to check in and check out with you regularly: on starting, on going and returning to lunch and in the evening.

Aditionally you will be checking in with them, video on and no blurred background, randomly.

Or fire them, and rehire when they come back?

Boromirsgreyhound · 17/05/2026 11:46

That’s a hard no.
They’re on probation and this is how they behave? Seems an easy decision to make really doesn’t it? Doesn’t matter that they’re saying they’ll work when they’re away - they’re expecting people to change procedures and systems around them and they’re on probation??? Nope. No.
Even if they cancel their plans if you request it they’ve shown what they’re like. ‘Not a good fit for the company’.

PurpleNightingale · 17/05/2026 11:45

estrogone · 16/05/2026 13:00

We are in Australia they are going to their country of origin (not the UK).

Them working for you in a different country creates tax implications for the business. It is absolutely not allowed in my company.

I thought it might be possible for me to work from a family members house in the US, has my company already has offices there, but there were concerns about tax implications from it being in a different state.

You need to say no to the working and the lack of sign off before booking I think the employee might need to give their notice in now. Are you really sure they are worth keeping if their judgement is so off?

ChillWith · 17/05/2026 11:42

Whyherewego · 16/05/2026 12:47

Well if it doesn't work it doesn't work. In this circumstance I'd tell them to take leave for the 4 weeks (either paid or unpaid) and then extend probation by a month to cover the absence

Best advice in the circumstances

MummyWillow1 · 17/05/2026 11:42

InLoveWithAI · 17/05/2026 11:37

This is how I feel too. I'm quite surprised by this thread.

But then, as a manager I really don't care where they are as long as the job is done.

We have somebody about to go abroad and work, because leave overlapped and she offered this as a solution.

I imagine they were a long term employee and also discussed it with you before booking!

Someone not in probation and who confirms the arrangements BEFORE booking is a different story.

Whyarentyoureadyyet · 17/05/2026 11:41

InLoveWithAI · 17/05/2026 11:37

This is how I feel too. I'm quite surprised by this thread.

But then, as a manager I really don't care where they are as long as the job is done.

We have somebody about to go abroad and work, because leave overlapped and she offered this as a solution.

it's quite different with established members of staff. And of course theres a huge difference if asking first rather than presenting the trip as a fait accompli

rookiemere · 17/05/2026 11:39

Offering flexibility to a long standing member of staff with a good track record is hugely different from being railroaded into a situation by someone on the team for less than 6 months. Lots of evidence of not following procedures and trying to force OP into a corner.

MummyWillow1 · 17/05/2026 11:39

It sounds like you haven’t been clear in your expectations from the start but also they haven’t been up front.

At the end of the day how much do you want to keep them as an employee? Have they demonstrated any other red flag behaviour so far or are they otherwise an exemplary employee?

If you really want to keep them then advise they will need to take the leave as unpaid and their probation will resume when they return, I wouldn’t allow them to take company IT abroad for security reasons and they won’t be able to concentrate on work when their travel companions will be out having fun/sleeping.

If you don’t want to keep them advise the leave is denied and they will need to be in the office for most of the time to prove they haven’t taken company IT abroad. They will probably resign rather than lose the money for the trip - and you will have to go through the recruitment process again (unless you have reserve candidates from the previous trawl).

Thechaseison71 · 17/05/2026 11:38

I can't see when the trip is actually booked for That would make a difference

InLoveWithAI · 17/05/2026 11:37

scoopsahoooy · 17/05/2026 08:48

@BillieWiper I have a member of staff currently working from Crete - found herself a last minute break, needed some time off, asked if she could work mornings and have the afternoons off so she didn't have to use all her AL. I said yes: I know my staff and she's a hard worker and it'll get done. It'd also be very obvious if it didn't. Not every workplace is that restrictive - obviously there are lots of roles where the security of your connection or having a private place to work or whatever would be required but for us, I'm happy for her to be working from the hotel veranda in the sunshine as long as the work gets done!

This is how I feel too. I'm quite surprised by this thread.

But then, as a manager I really don't care where they are as long as the job is done.

We have somebody about to go abroad and work, because leave overlapped and she offered this as a solution.

LIZS · 17/05/2026 11:36

SoScarletItWas · 16/05/2026 12:52

The first response is ‘You should ensure all leave requests are approved before you book anything.’

The second response is: ‘A destination 10 hours away isn’t compatible with our service hours. And we wouldn’t approve working overseas except in exceptional circumstances and if it met the needs of the business.’ Quote relevant IT security policy as needed.

Their options are:
Cancel the trip
Take the trip either as paid or unpaid leave.

And absolutely extend their probation by the month. They don’t seem to understand how work ‘works’ yet!

Agree with this. A client facing role is not compatible with overseas remote working in a different time zone, even assuming your systems allow it. Stop trying to facilitate their oversight. Four weeks is over and above the norm of a single period of annual leave and the request usually needs more than a month’s notice regardless of how long an employee has been there. Do you have a leave policy? Their options are to cancel, reschedule or resign, failure to do so is misconduct.

whyohwhyisitalwayswet · 17/05/2026 11:36

estrogone · 16/05/2026 12:56

I am tempted to hard arse it, but they are 25 and would lose thousands.

Absolutely agree with you though about the entitlement. To be honest I feel quite bloody minded a out it, but keeping to myself as it won't be professional to go postal about it.

Do you actually want this person working for you long term? I certainly wouldn't. I would hire someone else to do their job, and thank them for their service.

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 17/05/2026 11:34

Netty13 · 17/05/2026 11:32

Is this their first job in the big wide world?!

As a pp said she showed this to her 18 year old who told her they were massively taking the piss so it seems first job they’d know what’s acceptable and not.