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AIBU to spend £200 to £250 sizing up toddler clothes?

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wrinklycactus · 16/05/2026 08:51

Just that really. How much do you spend when baby/ toddler goes up a size?

Going up to 12-18 months size and we haven't had any hand-me-downs this time (I got lots for younger baby but people seem to have stopped now!)

I reckon I've spent somewhere between £200-£250 on the lot including coats, shoes etc.

50% Vinted/ supermarket stuff,
30% mid range like Next and H&M,
20% more pricey brands like a couple of nice tops/ dungarees from JoJo (still mostly in the sale though!)

Is that about normal? Or do you tend to get all your stuff secondhand/ from supermarkets at this age?

I know they grow so fast and make a mess at nursery etc, but still want to have a few nice things.

We earn OK and can afford it (and £100 was gifted from family), but DH thinks I've spent a lot given they grow so fast.

Just wondered what others tend to do and AIBU to think this is not too extravagent?

YABU - it's a lot to spend
YANBU - it's fine

OP posts:
allthingsinmoderation · 16/05/2026 10:00

if its within your means and you choose to spend that its your choice.
The issue seems to be your DH doesnt agree the amount is reasonable .
It seems reasonable to me but its a personal decision.

wrinklycactus · 16/05/2026 09:59

Sounds like quite mixed views!

I agree with landfill/ fast fashion being an issue. That is why I do buy quite a bit on Vinted and I actively avoid cheaper quality brands like Primark and Shein that will need to be thrown away after a few uses.

The things I do buy new are good quality and then they go on Vinted or to friends/ family when we're done with them, so they are reused even if I bought them new.

It's true that £250 actually doesn't go as far as it used to! A pack of 5 bodysuits on Next is £18, for example - he needs 2 or 3 packs so that's around £50 already if I get them there.

I find the Vinted postage costs sometimes don't even make it that much cheaper, and I've had things arrive already too small from being overly laundered etc. I still persist with it but I've realised sometimes it's not as cost efficient as it seems.

Anyway sounds like I'm on the higher end but maybe not crazy unreasonable.

Good tips about buying ahead in sales too, thanks all :)

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PoliteSquid · 16/05/2026 09:52

By the time they’re 2ish clothes wear out before they grow out.. or maybe that was just my two 🤣 I found hand me downs stopped around then. You’ve done well to refresh a toddler wardrobe for £200!

Flamingojune · 16/05/2026 09:51

fashion fashion is terrible

Clogblog · 16/05/2026 09:50

It sounded like a lot to me initially but if it includes things like coats and shoes, I think it's pretty reasonable.

I did buy a lot secondhand at that age - you can get a lot of premium brands very cheaply on vinted, it doesn't mean buying tatty clothes

ThejoyofNC · 16/05/2026 09:49

I don't think that's a lot at all to be honest. I've spent that on a single item when it's luxury branded. 2 packs of good quality vests will easily take at least 10% of your budget before you've even started.

KeeleyJ · 16/05/2026 09:45

That isn't a lot money nowadays and the clothes start lasting a few months longer once they're in to the 18 month range.

Flamingojune · 16/05/2026 09:45

Quitelikeit · 16/05/2026 09:06

I wouldn’t buy second hand if I didn’t need to -

£250 is not a lot! 18-24 months it’s only £25 a month in n clothes until he goes up to age 2

2nd hand stops masses of clothes going to landfill

anxiouslywaiting8 · 16/05/2026 09:43

If you can afford it and it makes you happy then do it. I've went a bit mad buying stuff for my son in the past and have come to the realisation that it's not worth it since he manages to stain most things and I'm sick of him ruining all his lovely stuff. Also I bought too much so some things barely got worn and then I really felt like it was a huge waste of money. Now I'm much more careful, I only buy stuff hes grown out of or needs right now. A mixture of second hand on Vinted if I can or brand new from Next/supermarkets.

Caspianberg · 16/05/2026 09:43

I easily do.

i mean at 1 year they had less clothing types and shoes. But now if he outgrows shoes for example that’s at least several pairs I need to replace at once ie trainers, wellingtons, slippers, then either sandals or winter boots. Those alone aren’t cheap, without clothing.

Things like coats usually try and get to last 2 years. And jumpers also. But bottom half has to fit properly or they fall down.

Icantbebothered · 16/05/2026 09:43

Sounds fine to me - kids are expensive, and only get more expensive as they get older!

MrsF111 · 16/05/2026 09:42

No I tend to buy everything on vinted as they grow so quickly it’s not worn for long or 80% of it anyway, if I’m out and I see something cute I might grab it but not for the bulk of next size up buying. Probably spend between £50 - £100 depending on time of year ie if I need coats. Much better for the environment that way, usually a mix of John Lewis, jojo maman, Ralph Lauren, Joules, M&S and next. I do spend a lot on shoes though as I think they are important to buy new and have fitted. Bobux generally whenever they grow out of them which are between £50-£70 a pair.

TallSturdyGirl · 16/05/2026 09:41

I can afford new but only buy second hand. We as a world are drowning in clothes.

elQuintoConyo · 16/05/2026 09:39

I'd buy in the sales, so August it was summer clothes for the following year. Then Primark, Zara and H&M for the other bits. I'm not in the UK, supermarket clothes are dreadful, no family to buy and send clothes to us, not much of a second hand culture so no exchanges between friends.

If you can afford 250 then spend it 🤷

TeaAndStrumpets · 16/05/2026 09:34

eatreadsleeprepeat · 16/05/2026 09:21

Tell grandmother, I enjoy buying for my grandkids so if my daughter says they need a particular thing I will get it, within reason obviously.

Second this! I love buying baby/toddler clothes, and I have the time to search for them unlike DD. Best buys tend to be eBay NWT, either factory overstocks or things people have bought in the wrong size etc. I wouldn't buy second hand because of my fragrance allergy..fabric conditioner etc. I buy summer things for the older boys every school holiday.

anon2022anon · 16/05/2026 09:23

I often spent more than that, but would buy scandi brands and resell them on afterwards. I would buy supermarket sale stuff for nursery/ messy wear.

eatreadsleeprepeat · 16/05/2026 09:21

Tell grandmother, I enjoy buying for my grandkids so if my daughter says they need a particular thing I will get it, within reason obviously.

SilverBirch4 · 16/05/2026 09:21

I think it’s totally normal, and I easily spent £250 at 18months and then probably about £300-£400 at 2-3 and 3-4 when they weren’t in school uniform.
I mostly bought from supermarkets or next but a couple of pairs of shoes, wellies, swimming costume and puddle suit or proper coat was over £100 before you got into any other clothes!

monkeysox · 16/05/2026 09:17

wrinklycactus · 16/05/2026 08:51

Just that really. How much do you spend when baby/ toddler goes up a size?

Going up to 12-18 months size and we haven't had any hand-me-downs this time (I got lots for younger baby but people seem to have stopped now!)

I reckon I've spent somewhere between £200-£250 on the lot including coats, shoes etc.

50% Vinted/ supermarket stuff,
30% mid range like Next and H&M,
20% more pricey brands like a couple of nice tops/ dungarees from JoJo (still mostly in the sale though!)

Is that about normal? Or do you tend to get all your stuff secondhand/ from supermarkets at this age?

I know they grow so fast and make a mess at nursery etc, but still want to have a few nice things.

We earn OK and can afford it (and £100 was gifted from family), but DH thinks I've spent a lot given they grow so fast.

Just wondered what others tend to do and AIBU to think this is not too extravagent?

YABU - it's a lot to spend
YANBU - it's fine

Keep an eye out in sales and buy bigger sizes to put away. Works really well if you have storage space

Sprogonthetyne · 16/05/2026 09:15

Quitelikeit · 16/05/2026 09:06

I wouldn’t buy second hand if I didn’t need to -

£250 is not a lot! 18-24 months it’s only £25 a month in n clothes until he goes up to age 2

Not sure I'm understanding your maths. 18-24 is 6 months, 250/6 = £41 a month.

When mine were that size I only spent around £50 on general size up stuff, especially in summer, when you won't need thick coats or boots. They had the odd nicer bits, but that would be something like a nicer jumper over basic top & bottoms, to make up the outfit. I'd also be tempted to get the nicer bits in age 2-3, and have them be a little baggy for a few months, but my kids did grow fast, so usually only got a few months out of a size.

theresbeautyinwindysun · 16/05/2026 09:13

I took great joy in choosing clothes for my kids when they were wee, I didn’t overbuy and I think back so fondly of what they wore. If you take pleasure in their clothes, don’t overbuy and feel happy with what you’ve got, don’t feel guilty. It’s what each person can afford and what they choose to spend their money on. Enjoy it.

TeenToTwenties · 16/05/2026 09:11

It seems a lot to me but prices have moved on, and a pair of shoes new would eat in to the budget.
50% on mid-high end seems unnecessary.
They are in these for such a short time, it seems a waste. Do NCT nearly new sales still exist?

hahabahbag · 16/05/2026 09:09

Surely they grow gradually and clothes do fit differently, I just replaced as and when, especially shoes which don’t align with clothes exactly. Never did I spend a big chunk at once

Quitelikeit · 16/05/2026 09:06

I wouldn’t buy second hand if I didn’t need to -

£250 is not a lot! 18-24 months it’s only £25 a month in n clothes until he goes up to age 2

parietal · 16/05/2026 09:04

I rarely spent lots in one go on toddler clothes but just gradually get a few things in a bigger size and give away the smallest of the old things. It was a continuous process rather than a one-off resize.

but if you can afford it, go ahead