To think “you do you” can come across as passive aggressive?

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TheOpenGreenBird · 15/05/2026 17:07

Whenever someone says “you do you”, it often feels a bit passive aggressive to me, like they don’t really agree but don’t want to say it outright. I know it can also be meant genuinely but I’m not always convinced.

AIBU?

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Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 15/05/2026 17:16

You do you babe.

DdraigGoch · 15/05/2026 17:16

Surely it's the same as "on your head be it"

frozendaisy · 15/05/2026 17:15

Or it can just be
“we can never have a mutual open minded conversation so let us both move on to other people we can converse with more joyfully”

TheRealMagic · 15/05/2026 17:14

I think it does mean 'I don't agree with that choice', so I'm not sure what the 'genuine' meaning would be?

Flickitspinittwistitbopit · 15/05/2026 17:13

Well it's definitely the only way I use it 🙈🤣

I think it's a slightly less definitive way of saying, let's agree to disagree?

Merkins · 15/05/2026 17:13

Of course it’s passive aggressive - it’s intended to be. I’d be very surprised if anyone ever thought otherwise.

NovemberMorn · 15/05/2026 17:12

It's a really irritating 'modern' phrase, whichever way it's meant.

ByGraptharsHammer · 15/05/2026 17:11

It’s the definition of pass agg.

Fidgety31 · 15/05/2026 17:10

I see it as meaning along the lines of ‘go fuck your self’ but just in a more socially acceptable way .

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