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Would you be annoyed if your mil arranged a party for you one week after giving birth?

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Dramallama13 · 15/05/2026 08:36

Would you find it odd/unreasonable/annoying, if your mil arranged a party to show off the baby one week after giving birth?

Party consisting of all mils friends and family at her house in the evening. Without asking you if you actually wanted a party.

Yanbu - that’s ridiculous
Yabu - it’s kind and you should be grateful

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WhatAMarvelousTune · 15/05/2026 08:38

Are you saying it’s gone something essentially along the lines of “I’m having a party for all my friends to meet the week old baby. Please come to my house at 7pm”.

I’d laugh and not turn up. There is not a chance I would even consider going. And the same would apply if it was my mother.

ETA - and I am not someone who kept people away from my newborns. My in laws and parents met both my children the day after they were born, as soon as we were back from hospital.

DinosaurBlue · 15/05/2026 08:37

How would you feel if your own mum planned it for your family?

Personally I wouldn’t like it either way but wonder if because it’s your MIL that’s clouding your judgement.