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Hospital won’t rebook cancelled appointment, but I can’t complain

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whatareyouwaitingforr · 15/05/2026 07:23

I have been on a waiting list for an orthopaedic physiotherapy consultation for 5 months now. I had an appointment booked, but I got a voicemail to say it was cancelled last month and they said they’d “rebook by post”. The hospital uses an app that is instant. When something is booked, it goes straight through to the app.

I know this because I work there. I am in an adjacent department to this one. So I can’t complain.

I’ve called everyday, sent emails, tried everything to get in contact with them. They don’t answer their phones, nor do they answer emails. I’m at a loss, mainly because I know after this appointment it’ll be another 6 months before I can get a scan and I’m due to go on holiday in August. I don’t particularly want to cancel, but I’m worried that waiting for this will make my insurance unaffordable.

Is there anything I can do besides PALS?

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whatareyouwaitingforr · 15/05/2026 09:49

DrRylandGrace · 15/05/2026 09:48

So how is that whinging? Why would you be concerned your colleagues would perceive as “whinging” somebody following up an unacceptable delays and a department that has made itself uncontactable for information - a legitimate complaint by any standards - unless the prevalent view amongst your colleagues is that such sub-standard care is acceptable and patients should just shut up about it unless it’s something immediately life threatening?

I’m talking about me personally. You seem like a dog with a bone.

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Dancingsquirrels · 15/05/2026 09:49

godmum56 · 15/05/2026 09:46

From my experience, what actually happens here is an enquiry is made to the department concerned to ensure that the patient's case has not fallen through a gap in the system for whatever reason. If all the referrals are being delayed then if its possible that might be addressed by adding extra clinics or other actions (yes I know flying pigs at the moment) and the enquirer will be given information about waiting times, but it does happen that appointment making errors are made and people whose appointments are cancelled by the hospital will not be put back in the queue where they should have been,or even at all, and that will be rectified.

Ah, well that makes sense and a good use of PALS

DrRylandGrace · 15/05/2026 09:48

whatareyouwaitingforr · 15/05/2026 09:48

I DID NOT SAY THAT!!!

I wish I’d not mentioned i work here because then maybe I’d be getting actual advice instead of this pile on, picking apart every single thing I say

You did have advice: contact PALS and complain. As everybody should in such situations.

DrRylandGrace · 15/05/2026 09:48

whatareyouwaitingforr · 15/05/2026 09:44

That’s not what I said, is it? I said I feel like one, mainly because it’s not a serious health issue but I have been trying to contact them for so long

So how is that whinging? Why would you be concerned your colleagues would perceive as “whinging” somebody following up an unacceptable delays and a department that has made itself uncontactable for information - a legitimate complaint by any standards - unless the prevalent view amongst your colleagues is that such sub-standard care is acceptable and patients should just shut up about it unless it’s something immediately life threatening?

whatareyouwaitingforr · 15/05/2026 09:48

DrRylandGrace · 15/05/2026 09:45

I see. So again, it’s the patients’ fault is it? They are hateful, or something because they expect adequate and polite care in a timely manner.

I DID NOT SAY THAT!!!

I wish I’d not mentioned i work here because then maybe I’d be getting actual advice instead of this pile on, picking apart every single thing I say

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Kelvinator1 · 15/05/2026 09:47

I've had travel insurance before with investigations outstanding, and they just add an exclusion clause for anything related to that issue.

godmum56 · 15/05/2026 09:46

Dancingsquirrels · 15/05/2026 09:32

As I read OP's message, patient A complains about delay and gets prioritised, which pushes patient B further down the queue. That seems unfair

From my experience, what actually happens here is an enquiry is made to the department concerned to ensure that the patient's case has not fallen through a gap in the system for whatever reason. If all the referrals are being delayed then if its possible that might be addressed by adding extra clinics or other actions (yes I know flying pigs at the moment) and the enquirer will be given information about waiting times, but it does happen that appointment making errors are made and people whose appointments are cancelled by the hospital will not be put back in the queue where they should have been,or even at all, and that will be rectified.

DrRylandGrace · 15/05/2026 09:45

whatareyouwaitingforr · 15/05/2026 09:41

I’m not saying I judge patients ffs. But of course I forgot this is Mumsnet where everyone hates the nhs

I see. So again, it’s the patients’ fault is it? They are hateful, or something because they expect adequate and polite care in a timely manner.

whatareyouwaitingforr · 15/05/2026 09:45

ByWittyGoose · 15/05/2026 09:43

This comment actually confirmed one of my fears.
I don't complain because I'm terrified of being treated even worse than I already am. I had no idea that I was actually right.

You don’t get treated worse because of complaints.

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whatareyouwaitingforr · 15/05/2026 09:44

DrRylandGrace · 15/05/2026 09:44

You think this makes your comment ok? People who complain are “right whingers”?!

That’s not what I said, is it? I said I feel like one, mainly because it’s not a serious health issue but I have been trying to contact them for so long

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Happyjoe · 15/05/2026 09:44

whatareyouwaitingforr · 15/05/2026 09:41

I’m not saying I judge patients ffs. But of course I forgot this is Mumsnet where everyone hates the nhs

I love the NHS, it's a treasure but it's a little sick itself now.
But you have made some strange comments!

DrRylandGrace · 15/05/2026 09:44

whatareyouwaitingforr · 15/05/2026 09:01

Whinger, not winger!

You think this makes your comment ok? People who complain are “right whingers”?!

ByWittyGoose · 15/05/2026 09:43

whatareyouwaitingforr · 15/05/2026 07:31

Because it just makes me look difficult and I’m not really after that, I just want to know when I’ll be seen. I’ve emailed them and said I can take cancellations as the actual physio building is about a minute from where I work, but they say they don’t get cancellations.

This comment actually confirmed one of my fears.
I don't complain because I'm terrified of being treated even worse than I already am. I had no idea that I was actually right.

godmum56 · 15/05/2026 09:41

whatareyouwaitingforr · 15/05/2026 09:32

Okay? Why is it that whenever an NHS staff member starts a thread on here they get treated really rudely?

I am retired from the NHS. I am probably in a different geographical area from you but to my certain knowledge because I used to deal with them a lot, that is not how PAL's works here.

whatareyouwaitingforr · 15/05/2026 09:41

DrRylandGrace · 15/05/2026 09:40

Lucky him. Many are not because of precisely the behaviours I described from NHS staff.

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I’m not saying I judge patients ffs. But of course I forgot this is Mumsnet where everyone hates the nhs

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DrRylandGrace · 15/05/2026 09:40

whatareyouwaitingforr · 15/05/2026 09:38

Christ alive.

Lucky him. Many are not because of precisely the behaviours I described from NHS staff.

DrRylandGrace · 15/05/2026 09:39

whatareyouwaitingforr · 15/05/2026 09:29

Their email bounce back says there’s “no timeline” for them answering.

FUCK ME!! All I want is to know when this appointment will be

The majority of the NHS is now beyond a parody of itself.

whatareyouwaitingforr · 15/05/2026 09:38

DrRylandGrace · 15/05/2026 09:37

Exactly. The NHS is not only substandard but clearly toxic as well.

The staff have a culture of covering up mistakes and disrespecting patients but the OP’s posts are very revealing in that there’s clearly a culture of having convinced themselves that patients should think themselves lucky if they very belatedly receive the care they need.

It seems they pretend it is a problem with the patient if they expect to be provided with a treatment plan with appropriate timeframes, and for this to actually be delivered. This attitude is so apparent in many of the staff now in how they speak to patients, as though patients’ very existence is an inconvenience rather than the reason they are employed by us all!

Christ alive.

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DrRylandGrace · 15/05/2026 09:37

TheRealMagic · 15/05/2026 09:22

This thread makes me really sad. You say that you don't judge patients who you know have used PALS, but your language about it - 'right whinger', 'special treatment', something you couldn't have your colleagues know - makes it clear how strongly you do, subconsciously. I'm not blaming you as an individual, but what a toxic place you work at.

Exactly. The NHS is not only substandard but clearly toxic as well.

The staff have a culture of covering up mistakes and disrespecting patients but the OP’s posts are very revealing in that there’s clearly a culture of having convinced themselves that patients should think themselves lucky if they very belatedly receive the care they need.

It seems they pretend it is a problem with the patient if they expect to be provided with a treatment plan with appropriate timeframes, and for this to actually be delivered. This attitude is so apparent in many of the staff now in how they speak to patients, as though patients’ very existence is an inconvenience rather than the reason they are employed by us all!

DilemmaDelilah · 15/05/2026 09:35

I worked in hospital admin for 26 years. I didn't abuse the system, but I knew enough people to be able to ask a general query about waiting times without it coming across as asking for a favour. However - in your situation I think I would contact either the consultant's secretary, if you think you may have been forgotten (that has happened to me for a cancelled max fax procedure) or the central booking team, if you have one. An appointment cancelled by them should not send you back to the bottom of the list, when I rang up about mine I was seen within 2 weeks!

Happyjoe · 15/05/2026 09:35

whatareyouwaitingforr · 15/05/2026 09:30

I’ve never once said that, stop reading into what I’m saying. I’m saying I personally feel like it looks like I’m trying to get ahead of the queue, when I’m not.

Why would it look like that when you're just after your appointment replacement that was cancelled? I wouldn't think you were queue jumping.

Dancingsquirrels · 15/05/2026 09:32

Comtesse · 15/05/2026 09:03

It’s not “bad behaviour” to complain. PALS is there for a legitimate reason. Why shouldn’t people contact them?

As I read OP's message, patient A complains about delay and gets prioritised, which pushes patient B further down the queue. That seems unfair

whatareyouwaitingforr · 15/05/2026 09:32

godmum56 · 15/05/2026 09:31

well "you personally" are wrong.

Okay? Why is it that whenever an NHS staff member starts a thread on here they get treated really rudely?

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godmum56 · 15/05/2026 09:31

whatareyouwaitingforr · 15/05/2026 09:30

I’ve never once said that, stop reading into what I’m saying. I’m saying I personally feel like it looks like I’m trying to get ahead of the queue, when I’m not.

well "you personally" are wrong.

whatareyouwaitingforr · 15/05/2026 09:30

Happyjoe · 15/05/2026 09:29

So PAL's is doing the thing it's supposed to do? You've been let down, PAL's is supposed to be a middleman to help no? I am now concerned that you think PAL's patients are somehow bad and you don't want that on your record.

I just wrote a PALs last night. 14 months I've been waiting. This patients patience has run out.

I’ve never once said that, stop reading into what I’m saying. I’m saying I personally feel like it looks like I’m trying to get ahead of the queue, when I’m not.

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