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Stacey Soloman rant that actually just shows what's wrong with the world

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Shell204 · 15/05/2026 01:55

So I've just watched a video where shes addressing someone writing an article about her sister and how she used to work as a peads nurse but now makes money online like Stacey because shes better off and get more time with her family.

How is this the way the world works?
Im not disregarding why influencers do it becaise I would if I could being a nurse myself but this is so wrong that this is the best way of getting money these days.

Its the same with ladbaby etc why the hell are all these people getting crazy money for all this stuff.

Sorry just had to rant whilst on my break on night shift on my extra shift that ive taken 🙃

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IsabellaVireauxLaurent · 15/05/2026 17:33

Badbadbunny · 15/05/2026 15:47

But the revenue generated by the entire sport/entertaining industries IS essential for the tax it generates, employment generated, money it brings into the economy, tourist industry, etc.

It's like the financial services industry, in theory not essential, but we'd be a bankrupt country without it.

but now based on your point you could then make the case that influencers are the new marketers and the new version of edward berneys and that some people would then be influenced depending on what the influencer was promoting eg food, restrauants, holidays etc

Thiswaythatwayforwardandbackway · 15/05/2026 17:20

QuintadosMalvados · 15/05/2026 13:59

What's your problem with this?
Do you think that he can unlearn his autism? He can't.
Well done to him for finding a way around his issues and earning fairly good money out of it.

Oh and BTW, just because people are autistic it does not mean that they are stupid. Apologies if you don't mean that but that's how it comes across to me.
He may be exceptionally good at a particular subject and he shares his knowledge with others.

The Internet has been a godsend for some autistic people.

No i absolutely do not think people with autism are stupid, nor do I think it's something people can overcome. However, does it mean his opportunities in life have to be so restricted? It's unrealistic to expect this young man will be able to spend the rest of his life avoiding anyone he doesn't know or situations that cause him any kind of distress. I hope he receives the support he needs to put some coping strategies in place.

Shell204 · 15/05/2026 17:04

SecretSweetStash · 15/05/2026 06:47

I thought she had a label business The Label Lady so it wasn't just nursing as well as juggling 3 children.

I actually saw Jemma's Instagram post and she said it was female journalists continuously going after both her and her sister to tear them down and women should really support other women. I think this thread shows how right she is.

The career path you choose when you are 20 doesn't have to be the one you stick with until you retire. Nursing is brutal and definitely a vocation because no one goes into it for the pay and the working hours.

@StillAGoth yes, the shift in attitude to work, that life outside of work is actually more important than a job. My friend is shocked that young people are leaving when their contracted day ends. Their hours and 9-5 and that is pretty much what they work. She puts at least 2 hours in every day over what she should and not only is that unpaid but she isn't even on a salary that warrants that, nor are there bonuses to reflect her commitment.

Jemma can earn more money by doing the things she wants to do, good on her. Do what makes you happy.

Its nit abiut tearing woman down my main gripe is that people feel more valued and get paid more for being an influencer than other jobs. As Stavey said her sister was an amazing nurse but felt undervalued and now there is one less good nurse in society because she herself obviously felt undervalued and over worked

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Badbadbunny · 15/05/2026 16:51

C8H10N4O2 · 15/05/2026 16:03

Indeed perhaps everyone should do only “worthwhile” jobs in the public sector. Paid for by...

Exactly, the public sector doesn't create wealth. There has to be a balance between the wealth creating business/private sector and the public services provided by the public sector. Too far one way or the other and you have big problems.

radioX · 15/05/2026 16:42

Whilst I think this influencer stuff has maybe got a bit crazy, I kind of don’t blame people for not wanting to live to work, there is way too much pressure in this country

Fizbosshoes · 15/05/2026 16:28

Crushed23 · 15/05/2026 16:14

You said it is “soul destroying”, now you’re saying it’s a hobby? The fact people still do it even when not earning much money or do it as a hobby proves that it’s not soul destroying. If it were truly soul destroying, people would just… not do it? And they would get a job in a supermarket or a call centre or whatever.

Maybe that's the wrong expression i guess if hoped, or expected to make a decent living out of it and i was getting up every day spending a lot of time and effort, and not getting any new followers or earning any money then I'd find it quite demoralising....but maybe youre saying thats how people feel in conventional jobs (although they are getting paid)

But i guess a lot of people do have a job in a supermarket etc as well and just keep doing it in the hope theyre going to make it big

I suppose like with anything where someone is high profile or successful (acting, music, sport etc) we dont see or know all the people who started in the same way but didnt get there

Crushed23 · 15/05/2026 16:14

Fizbosshoes · 15/05/2026 13:52

They aren't either or though?
Not everyone works 40-60 hours a week, or has a long commute.
My point was that you might be spending a lot of time and effort making content...for not many followers or no money . Not everyone who wants that lifestyle or income will be either good or successful. Thats a hobby and its fine but you'd still need to do something potentially boring to pay your bills!

You said it is “soul destroying”, now you’re saying it’s a hobby? The fact people still do it even when not earning much money or do it as a hobby proves that it’s not soul destroying. If it were truly soul destroying, people would just… not do it? And they would get a job in a supermarket or a call centre or whatever.

C8H10N4O2 · 15/05/2026 16:03

Badbadbunny · 15/05/2026 15:47

But the revenue generated by the entire sport/entertaining industries IS essential for the tax it generates, employment generated, money it brings into the economy, tourist industry, etc.

It's like the financial services industry, in theory not essential, but we'd be a bankrupt country without it.

Indeed perhaps everyone should do only “worthwhile” jobs in the public sector. Paid for by...

C8H10N4O2 · 15/05/2026 16:02

ThatPeachQuail · 15/05/2026 14:50

And as i've just replied to another poster.

That could be said for makers of CSAM or animal torture or whatever else we know makes huge amounts of money online.

The makers are putting in the hours. recognising what people want and successfully producing that content. Also a very competitive market.

Doesn't make it okay though does it? or make the makers skilled or talented at all or in identifying that want online?

It's not my thing as you say, and hopefully not yours but you seem to think identifying a want in the online market and producing content to feed that, is evidence of talent and skill?

If you don't think it applies to those creators then why not?

That could be said for makers of CSAM or animal torture or whatever else we know makes huge amounts of money online

Yeah, equating domestic content creation to torture and abuse videos - now I know you are just being a GF as well as totally ignorant about the industry and the work which goes into content.

The content creation industry brings a sizeable tax take into the public purse for all those “essential” jobs. I find it interesting that its the women centred part of that industry that you are so keen to rubbish - perhaps you just have a problem with women starting their own businesses and earning their own money.

Badbadbunny · 15/05/2026 15:47

IsabellaVireauxLaurent · 15/05/2026 15:04

but you could then say that about footballers, the whole tv and entertainment industry all of it is not essential for soceity

But the revenue generated by the entire sport/entertaining industries IS essential for the tax it generates, employment generated, money it brings into the economy, tourist industry, etc.

It's like the financial services industry, in theory not essential, but we'd be a bankrupt country without it.

Badbadbunny · 15/05/2026 15:43

QuintadosMalvados · 15/05/2026 13:59

What's your problem with this?
Do you think that he can unlearn his autism? He can't.
Well done to him for finding a way around his issues and earning fairly good money out of it.

Oh and BTW, just because people are autistic it does not mean that they are stupid. Apologies if you don't mean that but that's how it comes across to me.
He may be exceptionally good at a particular subject and he shares his knowledge with others.

The Internet has been a godsend for some autistic people.

Nail on the head. That person is far better being active and making money online rather than sitting in his room gaming all day and doing nothing productive. Not everyone has to be "social" and in a traditional workplace. As you rightly say, the internet has been a Godsend for those who aren't "typical" as they can do what they're comfortable with rather than being a square peg in a round hole otherwise.

And yes, those with autism (and other forms of ND) are often highly intelligent. I recall in a previous workplace we had an absolute genius of an in-house tax specialist who we literally never saw. He "hid" away in an attic office, never attended meetings, etc. The partners and managers would leave files/notes in his pigeon hole and he'd "do his stuff" and put the file back in the partner's/manager's pigeon hole a day or two later, with a highly technical report answering the question and a "crib sheet" for the partner/manager to hold the meeting with the client. He was definitely NT and probably autistic, and had "found his niche" within the firm who accommodated him to his preference as he was so good at his job. Today he'd probably be the kind who'd work from home in a garden office with work "Pinged" to/from him by email/online portal never seeing the light of day and never meeting clients nor staff.

Nothing wrong with it if that's what someone prefers and means they can have a fruitful working life. Far better than the NT types who try to force the ND and "introverted" people to be like them, causing lots of stress and anxiety.

PeachOctopus · 15/05/2026 15:43

First of all she is contributing more to society now because she is self employed and so collecting 20% of her earnings and giving it to HMRC, rather than taking money from the public purse.
I’m not saying that nurses do not work hard and it is a difficult job but as a society both are needed.
It is also a very precarious job as you can fall out of favour and it can be pretty sort lived.

IsabellaVireauxLaurent · 15/05/2026 15:10

ThisHeartyQuoter · 15/05/2026 15:08

Professional footballers playing at the top level have talent. They train five days a week if their club is full time. It's their job. I don't think that's the same as people choosing to monetise everything they do

my point was football is not essential for society even if they train etc as the post i was responding to is this

"Being an influencer is not really a job that is helping our society function the way we need it too. We need doctors, nurses, nursery workers, carers, bin men, teachers, etc"

so i added that footballers are also not necessary but yet people still aspire to them

ThisHeartyQuoter · 15/05/2026 15:08

IsabellaVireauxLaurent · 15/05/2026 15:04

but you could then say that about footballers, the whole tv and entertainment industry all of it is not essential for soceity

Professional footballers playing at the top level have talent. They train five days a week if their club is full time. It's their job. I don't think that's the same as people choosing to monetise everything they do

IsabellaVireauxLaurent · 15/05/2026 15:04

Permenatlyworried · 15/05/2026 06:08

Being an influencer is not really a job that is helping our society function the way we need it too. We need doctors, nurses, nursery workers, carers, bin men, teachers, etc or we are fucked for the future if every teen only wants to make TikTok videos.

but you could then say that about footballers, the whole tv and entertainment industry all of it is not essential for soceity

ThatPeachQuail · 15/05/2026 14:50

C8H10N4O2 · 15/05/2026 13:55

Ok, so you plainly know nothing about the industry.

However talentless you perceive the person on screen to be, if they are making money out of it they are putting in the hours, recognising what people want and successfully producing that content whilst running a business.

Don’t confuse “crap which doesn’t interest me” with “talentless” because none of them would last five minutes in such a competitive market, where yesterday’s big thing is today’s chip paper unless they had staying power and the talents needed by the industry.

I find most reality shows tedious and unentertaining despite their audiences of millions. I don’t assume they are talentless programme makers I just accept its not my thing.

And as i've just replied to another poster.

That could be said for makers of CSAM or animal torture or whatever else we know makes huge amounts of money online.

The makers are putting in the hours. recognising what people want and successfully producing that content. Also a very competitive market.

Doesn't make it okay though does it? or make the makers skilled or talented at all or in identifying that want online?

It's not my thing as you say, and hopefully not yours but you seem to think identifying a want in the online market and producing content to feed that, is evidence of talent and skill?

If you don't think it applies to those creators then why not?

ThatPeachQuail · 15/05/2026 14:33

Cheese55 · 15/05/2026 14:12

This is what i was trying to say earlier but you said it much better. This talentless thing annoys because most can't succeed so those that do have worked out what to provide so that is skilled in itself

How is having multiple children and exploiting them online a talent or a skill?

People being willing to consume the content and the creators being able to make money from it isn't evidence of talent or skill. Otherwise we'd say CSAM makers are talented and skilled?

Threeslothsontheshirt · 15/05/2026 14:27

Shallow shit spouted by vacuous, talentless morons.

Cheese55 · 15/05/2026 14:12

C8H10N4O2 · 15/05/2026 13:55

Ok, so you plainly know nothing about the industry.

However talentless you perceive the person on screen to be, if they are making money out of it they are putting in the hours, recognising what people want and successfully producing that content whilst running a business.

Don’t confuse “crap which doesn’t interest me” with “talentless” because none of them would last five minutes in such a competitive market, where yesterday’s big thing is today’s chip paper unless they had staying power and the talents needed by the industry.

I find most reality shows tedious and unentertaining despite their audiences of millions. I don’t assume they are talentless programme makers I just accept its not my thing.

This is what i was trying to say earlier but you said it much better. This talentless thing annoys because most can't succeed so those that do have worked out what to provide so that is skilled in itself

ThatPeachQuail · 15/05/2026 14:12

C8H10N4O2 · 15/05/2026 13:55

Ok, so you plainly know nothing about the industry.

However talentless you perceive the person on screen to be, if they are making money out of it they are putting in the hours, recognising what people want and successfully producing that content whilst running a business.

Don’t confuse “crap which doesn’t interest me” with “talentless” because none of them would last five minutes in such a competitive market, where yesterday’s big thing is today’s chip paper unless they had staying power and the talents needed by the industry.

I find most reality shows tedious and unentertaining despite their audiences of millions. I don’t assume they are talentless programme makers I just accept its not my thing.

Can you explain to me what talent for e.g the Radfords have?

Other than having numerous children and making money from it?

What talent are we talking about?

C8H10N4O2 · 15/05/2026 14:01

Thiswaythatwayforwardandbackway · 15/05/2026 13:52

How will he ever learn to overcome these issues if he's spending all his time tucked away in his bedrooom alone? Is that really what you want for him for the rest of his life?

As the PP said in their post - confidence is boosted by the success. If he is running a YouTube channel there is likely to be a lot of interacting with followers, understanding what they want to see then creating that content and then marketing it to wider audiences (often by building relationships with other creators). If he does sponsorships that also requires interacting with other people and businesses.

Its an area which people like this 18 yr old often find can give them an outlet and a place to try out their business ideas. It may work, many don’t but if he is netting 3K per month he is running a successful business in this sector and the confidence built will help wider relationships, the track record of running a business will make him more employable elsewhere.

QuintadosMalvados · 15/05/2026 13:59

Thiswaythatwayforwardandbackway · 15/05/2026 13:52

How will he ever learn to overcome these issues if he's spending all his time tucked away in his bedrooom alone? Is that really what you want for him for the rest of his life?

What's your problem with this?
Do you think that he can unlearn his autism? He can't.
Well done to him for finding a way around his issues and earning fairly good money out of it.

Oh and BTW, just because people are autistic it does not mean that they are stupid. Apologies if you don't mean that but that's how it comes across to me.
He may be exceptionally good at a particular subject and he shares his knowledge with others.

The Internet has been a godsend for some autistic people.

BurnoutBee · 15/05/2026 13:58

Yep my niece worked with young people with severe LD. Earnt a pittance. Now earns triple as a food content creator. No brainer for her, but yeah, something is very backwards.

JLou08 · 15/05/2026 13:58

Public sector staff are paid from the government purse. No one wants to pay tax, many or against increasing taxes for businesses or the very wealthy, so the money stays in the private sector, the big businesses make enough profit to pay influencers a lot of money. It's that simple really. Unless those who earn more are taxed more those doing jobs to serve the public like nursing, fire fighters, teachers etc will continue to be worse off.

C8H10N4O2 · 15/05/2026 13:55

ThatPeachQuail · 15/05/2026 13:51

There are numerous talentless influencers - family ones in particular.

It might take some work but it doesn't mean they're talented, they just joined Youtube at the right time.

8 passengers is a great example and has led to the exposure of child abuse in the domain.

The most famous family vloggers in the UK are also the most controversial, Inghams, Sullivans etc.

No discernable talent, just exploiting their children for cash and joined Youtube at the right time.

And the ones that the smaller channels complain about but also aspire to 'they're doing the same as we do but making ££££'

There is a LOT of money in child exploitation on Youtube and Tiktok and Stacey et al are part of it.

Ok, so you plainly know nothing about the industry.

However talentless you perceive the person on screen to be, if they are making money out of it they are putting in the hours, recognising what people want and successfully producing that content whilst running a business.

Don’t confuse “crap which doesn’t interest me” with “talentless” because none of them would last five minutes in such a competitive market, where yesterday’s big thing is today’s chip paper unless they had staying power and the talents needed by the industry.

I find most reality shows tedious and unentertaining despite their audiences of millions. I don’t assume they are talentless programme makers I just accept its not my thing.

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