AIBU to expect some tidying from MIL while babysitting at ours?

I think it depends on what a shithole your house is in general. I've looked after kids in other peoples houses and if its clean and tidy I will pick up any mess. But I've also looked around at other proples houses and I wouldn't even know where to start so am not doing anything

Sounds like you and DH need to sort your work schedules and be more present in your own home....you are clearly wanting it all but getting stressed because it's too much to juggle high flying careers, young kids, dogs keeping the house tidy all at once.Ultimately it has been your choice to have all those things though, and sounds like something needs to give.It is not for your MIL to pick up your pieces.If she had to collect the kids from school, get their tea and do bedtime routines then she was probably shattered at the end of it and just wanted abit of a sit down and time to herself!
Sometimes as a parent, basic things like sorting out their swimming gear need to be on you.

Spoiled by your mum, yes
And conditioned by her actions across the years to believe that all drudgery should be supplied by any available woman in the family.
As it happens, I WOULD have tidied. You’re utterly unreasonable though, as you quite clearly stated in the title of your thread to ‘expect’ it
It makes you sound like a spoilt, ungrateful cow quite honestly

Jeez I don't even empty my own swimming straight away.

How old are the kids. Old enough to tidy up after themselves and get a glass of water?

Plenty on here moan about their own partners not tidying up whilst looking after their own kids. Might be a stretch to expect that of unpaid help.

Wouldn't be an unreasonable expectation of a well paid nanny.

Spoiled by your mum? Sounds it, and created self entitled monsters of your own!

So why isn’t it your own übermamma helping @Sofitella ?
if your dc are old enough to swim with school, they are old enough to acknowledge the appalling rudeness of their bag and kit dumping behaviour.

I would definitely leave it ready for you to come home and chill after a long day like that. I always try and leave my daughter organised and a step ahead. Sounds awful tbh

Unbelievable! She's doing you a great favour and yet you expect more from her?!?
Your kids are school age so they're old enough to be able to put their school bags away, leave swimwear in a laundry bag and tidy away toys etc.

My mum is like this. Every date night me and my husband would have would come back to a bomb site. She rarely babysits anymore as I can’t handle the mess she leaves it’s just not worth it

YABU shes not your maid

Where was your DH?
Why haven’t your DC been taught to take their swim stuff out as soon as they get in?
Perhaps ask FIL next time, but oh no wait …..

Sick and tired of these threads from women complaining about other women not doing their child caring and cleaning for them. Let’s just blame other women. How about the men step up for once!

Haven’t we had this post before?

Are the kids not used to sorting their stuff out? How tiny are they? When did you DH get home? Why didn’t the kids put the dishes in the dishwasher to help out their nan? We were taught to help anyone caring for us…

Agree - not letting the dog out was unacceptable and cruel. Although my mother would have had to be expressly told to do it or she wouldn’t have realised. F”cking hopeless with animals, rather than cruel or lazy though!

Where is DH? Home before or after you? I do think you seem to have fallen into a woman=family drudge mindset OP

Surely your school kids could get their own glass of water ffs! And if you’ve permanently let them hurl their stuff on the floor and just meekly tidied for them, well you do tend to reap what you sow there! Why is it you doing a cleaning mission now - that’s a pretty martyred move late at night after a business trip too - where’s OH and how is this not his problem too?

Agree with the majority - she should have let the dogs out, but no need to do more than that. Maybe if you were paying her… but I presume you weren’t? So she gave up her time to help you out and all you can do is moan.

How old are your kids? I’d expect them to be putting their swimming stiff straight into the laundry basket, of not the washing machine itself. They should know where to put the school bags, as presumably they put those away every other day? How many dirty dishes were there, and how many were from MIL?

she could have got the children to sort swimming bags, clear the table etc.
my mum would have done everything and found a basket of ironing to sort!
my mil would have cleared away too and got me a g and t!

JESUS WEPT - are you for real?!

You lazy Deborah???? WTAF! I hate these misogynistic slurs.

Yes YABU OP. Jeez, try living a life with zero help and then you might realise how lucky you actually are.

Only issue is not letting the dogs out
If your DH had been around while you were away, perhaps it’s him that shouldn’t done more to keep order

Where is your DH?
What time did you get in?
Did you specifically tell her she needed to let the dogs out?
How many kids?
How long has she been there?
How old is she?

There's a lot of variables! I certainly wouldn't expect her to do swimbags, schoolbag etc.

Your kids were looked after, fed, put to bed.

If you want the exceptional treatment then next time ask your own mother.

So much to do yet you find the time to have a whine to strangers on the internet!

Not letting a dog out for a wee is beyond cruel, I'd have gone mental at that. The rest, meh.

In what sense is she not tidying up after herself?

It sounds like the mess was created by your children so it's your mess, not hers.

If your mum chooses to run around tidying up her adult daughter's mess, that's her choice. I wonder whether your mum running around after you has meant you've lost sight of what is reasonable.