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She watches my IG story daily AIBU to msg her

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neveraskingtime · 14/05/2026 21:00

A friend of my late DP views my story everyday without fail. I haven't spoken to her since before the funeral after everyone in DP's orbit was strictly instructed not to associate with me. Those who did speak to me at the funeral were unfriended by the family.

I spoke to her a days before his death to arrange for her to visit him as I thought she might be able to help get DPs life back. His closest friends were actively addicted, so I wanted her (and his old group of mates) to replace them and help him recover.

It's been nearly 3 years now and she doesn't follow me but does check my story daily and has done daily for about 2 years.

I suppose it's possible that she's passing on information to the his circles but I honestly can't imagine they would be interested in what I'm doing after so much time.

I have not been able to retain a single link with anyone from DPs life because I think the general consensus is that I (indirectly) caused or contributed to his death, and that view was expressed but thankfully shut down immediately by the coroner at the inquest with no further inquiry or exploration along that line.
So....do I reach out?

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neveraskingtime · 14/05/2026 21:09

Backedoffhackedoff · 14/05/2026 21:08

You put up a story everyday? What sort of thing?

The most mundane room temperature meme shitposts imaginable and occasionally a homemade organic dish. I don't normally write anything or express an opinion on anything.

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Tableforjoan · 14/05/2026 21:08

She is just nosey that’s all.

Backedoffhackedoff · 14/05/2026 21:08

You put up a story everyday? What sort of thing?

neveraskingtime · 14/05/2026 21:07

Namechangedforthis60 · 14/05/2026 21:06

What would you hope to get out of contacting her? What if it didn’t achieve what you are hoping for? Would you be able to accept that and manage ok emotionally?
sometimes as challenging as it is, it may be better to let it be and move forward.

Idk to me it seems like she's the one trying to initiate something but is apprehensive possibly because of how his friends and family might react if they found out. Probably doesn't want to be cast out of her own community.

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Namechangedforthis60 · 14/05/2026 21:06

What would you hope to get out of contacting her? What if it didn’t achieve what you are hoping for? Would you be able to accept that and manage ok emotionally?
sometimes as challenging as it is, it may be better to let it be and move forward.

neveraskingtime · 14/05/2026 21:04

HedgehogsOnTheWall · 14/05/2026 21:04

I think you can hide your stories from people. I would do that. Or just block her. I wouldn't get in touch.

Why not?

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HedgehogsOnTheWall · 14/05/2026 21:04

I think you can hide your stories from people. I would do that. Or just block her. I wouldn't get in touch.