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AIBU to be fed up with my mum criticising my sister?

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Honeysucklelane · 14/05/2026 20:59

I’m getting fed up of my mother’s irrational anger / annoyance over the way my sister lives her life, what she spends her money on and how cluttered and messy her home is.

She’ll visit my sister more and spend more time with her than me, not bother to see me even though I’m local. Then she’ll bitch to me afterwards about how chaotic their life is and how much money they waste.

She was absolutely livid they’d brought new garden furniture, literally in a ranty rage about it, yet they have the money and it’s their home. It’s gorgeous too. Totally irrational response, I cannot understand her anger.

WTAF is that about? And why do I have to suffer the verbal offloading whilst trying to defend my sister?

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Honeysucklelane · 14/05/2026 21:52

WeatherOrNothing · 14/05/2026 21:28

Record her doing it and play it back to her. Hopefully that will shame and embarrass her enough to shut up

I doubt she’d care. She told me she didn’t think my sister would be speaking to her for a while after what she’d just been saying about her house etc.

We’re both completely baffled she’s so angry over some new garden furniture. It makes no sense.

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WeatherOrNothing · 14/05/2026 21:28

Record her doing it and play it back to her. Hopefully that will shame and embarrass her enough to shut up

Selkie33 · 14/05/2026 21:22

@Honeysucklelane this is an easy one to resolve really.

As soon as your Mum starts on about your sister, you immediately shut it down with "Mum, I don't want to hear it"

Honeysucklelane · 14/05/2026 21:19

pinkpie · 14/05/2026 21:06

I’ll bet she’s criticizing you to your sister!
Hard to understand why parents are so verbally critical of their DC.

I don’t think so. She’ll say most of this stuff directly to my sister too, so if she was criticising me to my sister, I would hear about it. Besides, my house is tidier, organised and I shop at cheaper shops. 😂I do know she does bitch about me being vegetarian and how I should lose weight.

I don’t get the anger over what they choose to do with their house and what they buy though. They have plenty of money and don’t owe my mum anything so there’s no valid reason to be spitting feathers about it.

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pinkpie · 14/05/2026 21:06

I’ll bet she’s criticizing you to your sister!
Hard to understand why parents are so verbally critical of their DC.

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