Worried about my 18 year old son buying joke shirts from Afflecks Palace

It’s not disgusting and you should not express that opinion to your son; we make jokes about sexuality when we’re not ready for or incapable of the serious conversations. It “hurt” for him to wear a tshirt? That’s deeply and unhealthily invested in your 18-year-old child’s wardrobe choices, unless the tshirt said, “Fuck you, mum.”

Yes, he claims it’s a joke, but it’s also a secret code - you don’t make jokes about BDSM unless you’re an insider enough to understand the joke and the fact that you clocked this as something weird and disgusting and not a BDSM joke indicates you’re not insider enough to get the joke. So either he’s part of that group and this is a “joke” about his true feelings (dominance games get him off) OR you’re calling his humour disgusting, and that would hurt him just as much, I would assume. I actually think it’s nice that he’s secure enough in who he is and whatever his sexuality is to wear it 😂

Just be patient, and in the meantime, don’t say anything unkind about this because you can’t take words back. Anywhere from two weeks (if a peer makes fun of it!) to two years from now, this shirt will be in the rag pile and you’ll feel ridiculous for letting this matter. If you are suddenly (God forbid) diagnosed with cancer or hit by a bus, your opinion of whether it matters will probably be altered much sooner.

Op ive just read your updates why are you so angry at people.
I mean its just a stupid t-shirt, stuff we do when we are young.
Your son is an adult you cant control him you need to calm down.
And unclench.
Have you never wore a silly top never done anything in your younger years.

I think the market closed and then the Oasis building was deemed unsafe or something?

My gay friend still has 2 t-shirt from 2005.
Shirt 1-it says not a chance im 100% gay.
Shirt 2 im as straight as a round about.
We was all 18-19 back then they are just jokes well nightout tops.

I did see a man with a t-shirt on not long ago with nice legs what time do they open not in huge big letter, you had to be close- ish to read it.
I couldnt help my self when i saw it and said anytime past nine, we just laughed .

Oh no! Has it? I thought it was still there. Im sad now. 😞

What venom? Did you forget you told me i disgust you, then you bantered about me being inhuman with the other poster thats clearly also yourself.

You've done nothing vlbut spew venom and hatred this entire thread.

Perhaps you loathe yourself... but lashing out isnt a good look.

The no shock value thing works really well.

I pointed out to my 17yo that if she wanted to rebel, she'd need to start wearing suits, going to class on time, and being a straight 9s student... because offensive clothing, dyed hair, piercings/tattoos and alt/rock music are just following myself and her dad's tastes.

My goodness, unclench.

DB has one that says "I sweat sparkles and cum glitter" and I'm 84% sure he doesnt 🤔

I have a “I shot JR” T shirt.

I didn’t actually shoot him. It’s just a joke.

I'm not daft or poor yet you have called me one and insinuated the other.
From one woman to another its uncalled for when I was offing to buy you hot chocolate as I figured you might need/want it after your chat.

That's actually pretty funny. 🐸

This was my guess, too.

Oasis is gone now, isn't it?

Such a shame.

Come on Saturday we may get a discount on them if we get two

I guessed it was similar to Oasis on birmingham.. that was our 3 floors of everything rock/goth/alt.. music, decorations, clothing, shoes, tattoos & piercings.

Huh?

I'm not particularly precious and don't mind the occasional bit of offensive humour on a TV show or an in-person joke, but if my son (a similar age) wore those, I'd tell him straight that I thought they were gross, sexist, that I was disappointed he wanted to wear them, and that no one (especially his mother) wants to see him in a shirt talking about how he'll cum. It's not funny or clever, it's just grotty, and advertises to everyone that you're an immature edgelord.

(Thank god, he'd be just as likely to find it tasteless and sexist.) I'm surprised at all the edgy cool girls on here who apparently think 'teehee, cum!' is the height of humour and a good way to represent yourself to the world.

ETA: Reading beyond the first page, it seems the thread has evolved quite a bit 👀 But my opinion stands.

OP is clearly a troll so stop feeding it.

I found the Instagram of the shop OP is ranting about and while some aren't my taste there's some amazing shirts on there!

I’m going tomorrow to get a t-shirt that says “My son is a fool and my husband is spineless and all I got was this lousy t-shirt”.

you daft woman
Your mother didn't do a good enough job

And you think your son is the sexist one?

Anyone else want to go this place now?? I want to relive my misspent youth & gloat about how I’m way more fun as a mum than what I thought!

Probably enjoy not being nagged and criticised.