Worried about my 18 year old son buying joke shirts from Afflecks Palace

I'm pretty sure I've seen Stephen Fry make the same joke on QI.

Perhaps OP would be ok with it in a posh southern accent rather than a t-shirt?

Yes, it's as old as the hills. There's a character in Brideshead Revisited who said this or words to this effect, when he was being hassled in a club. The book was written in 1944, published in 1945.

In case anyone is interested, this is the place that has the OP riled up 😂

https://afflecks.com/

They are just poor taste jokes. Ask him not wear them around you or other relatives who might be offended. I do think this is normal for his age group…

I need a Rage Against the Washing Machine T Shirt, I'm always ranting to DH about the bastard thing randomly deciding to take 20 minutes longer than the display says. I wish I'd known Afflecks existed last time I was in Manchester but its definitely on the list to visit next time I'm there.

I think most teenagers go through that phase. I remember having a black cropped t-shirt with white handprints over my boobs. Another t-shirt had pictures of Malteasers on it, and underneath, in the Malteasers font, was the word "Manteaser."

Op has issues, and it’s not the son that’s the problem here. That’s a completely unhinged reaction.

If she thinks Afflecks is a bit “out there” she’ll lose her shit mind if she goes to Camden Market on a Saturday.
I still think this is a wind up.

I am generally scathing of grown women with a stick up their backside and no sense of humour who think everyone of a certain age should conform to being boring & beige like they are.

thats a funny one though 😂

My adult children and their friends ( boys and girls ) never wore t shirts like that .
They tended to wear heavy metal band t shirts ironically and Jesus is my homeboy ( so they’re older )
My youngest would wear anime t shirts .
I think if they’d worn anything like that I’d tell them not to wear in certain circumstances and also not in front of granny .

But only the logo of very expensive manufacturers otherwise Aldi may sell shirts with their logo, shudder!

You blame his father for his t shirt choice, to whom do you credit his success in getting into uni? Not his father I bet!

I think at 18 he is an adult (even though very young still) and you cant really tell him what to wear.I think he will grow out of this phase .Probably feels very cool! the more you say about it the less he will listen I think .

Still think your best bet OP is to feign indifference. It's just tedious, I'm sure he is a good person.

I thought this was a joke and then I saw it was you and realised you’re completely serious. You’d have us all in uniforms.

You’ll have to pry my slogan t shirts out of my cold dead hands.

I'll consider it if you stop....using....full stops....in between....your....words.

I'm not being passive aggressive or superior though, just openly scathing of adult women who think their teenage son wearing a t shirt with immature, edgelord humour about ejaculating on it, is hilarious for some reason.

You’re the only embarrassment on here.

my current favourite t shirt is a pride one which says ‘rock, paper scissors 😉’
I enjoy wearing that out at pride events or in the gay village.

My son is 12 and he loves a slogan t shirt. The ones with slightly dark humour are the best. While he’s a child I can stop him wearing anything offensive but once he’s an adult there nothing I’ll be able to do about it.

As a mum of one adult son, and Nan to 4 adult grandsons, I’d say you really need to lighten up. 🙄

Every generation, of teenagers, including mine, held their own little rebellions with ‘edgy’ clothes.

It passes - stop being a control freak, as it won’t end well.

Some parents on here are shamefull trying to controll 18 year olds, yes they are young but also adults.
This is why when they get away they they go low contact.

Its what happened with me i left home and never went back.

He transititioned into a "female".

It’s not Afflecks Palace fault that your ds has rather tacky taste in clothes. I was buying vintage stuff in there in the 80s. I’m not quite sure why you’re so hung up on the place.

I think 'edgy' t-shirts we're not the preserve of the 1980s and 90s. They're the preserve of the teens going through normal developmental stages.
They are designed to separate from the parental unit and willingly go out into the big wide world.

Poor parenting could involve doing that at a much younger age. Or it could involve stifling them so badly and quashing any ounce of personality that they end up failing to launch at all.

As a parent you can control what you find and what you share your space with. You can't control what they spend their money on or what they wear out.

My 15yo wanted a cunt hat. I strongly dislike the word so we compromised with a cannabis leaf hat.

I do think being disrespectful about men including, your husband is unlikely to teach respect - for people, women and milfs.

It's not that deep OP, you're really over thinking it.

I have a DS18. That T shirt would not be remaining in my house, neither would vapes or drugs. I warned his older brother at 18 if he got a tattoo on holiday (one of the group was planning this and encouraging the rest) he could find the money for uni accommodation etc himself.

He can wear edgy political slogans - but not ones that objectify women or promote drugs.