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AIBU to be frustrated by repeated wolf-themed gifts?

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Herecomes · 14/05/2026 15:31

I am an animal lover, I am especially a dog person meaning I like wolves too if we’re talking wildlife. My mum has taken this to mean I’m obsessed with wolves - I’m really not.

Every year at Christmas she buys me something wolf related … it started off as huge framed pictures (often featuring native Americans too 😂) and in the end I had so many massive pictures piled up the spare room that I made a point of telling her I am no longer buying wall pictures as I don’t like a lot of stuff on the walls and I’ve ran out of space. She got the hint and stopped buying me pictures … instead she started buying me huge blankets, fleece bed covers etc, again featuring wolves howling at the moon, native Americans, wolf eyes staring out of dark trees etc 🤦‍♀️

I ended up with a big pile of fleece blankets that were just sat there collecting dust. In the end I asked her if she wanted any blankets as I’m getting rid of loads as I have far too many and don’t use them. She got the hint.

Now … as my birthday this year was approaching she asked me what size clothing I was. I told her. I joked to DH that I’ll probably end up with a wolf fleece jacket for my birthday … I was wrong … I got 3 wolf fleece jackets for my birthday.

I don’t get it!!! I’m in my 30s, she sees me every week … surely she can see that I don’t wear stuff like this?? It was funny at first but now its getting frustrating. She gets upset and offended easily so I’ve tried to treat lightly but come on …

What would you do?? Or do I just carry on accepting this stuff and lying that I like it to keep the peace?

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MajorLanceYouDontWantMeNoMoreNsoul · 16/05/2026 22:42

DontShoutInMyEarholeTracey · 16/05/2026 21:46

Aww, it’s the thought that counts! 🐺

Ooo that gives me an idea wouldn't it be ace if a fleece could howl.
Similar to musical Christmas jumpers

Myfridgeiscool · 16/05/2026 22:00

DD pointed out earlier today that my aunt might not actually like gnomes. Lol
I got her a Father Christmas gnome in a sleigh for Christmas: it was very cute, come to think of it he could be in the loft.
I'm now going to look at wolf fleeces for her…wanna sell one OP? What size are all yours? 🤞

noodlezoodle · 16/05/2026 21:47

Thank you OP, this is hilarious. Once upon a time this was me but with sheep. Sheep mugs, plates, pictures, ornaments, on and on and on. I wish I could remember better but I think in the end I just said 'I have more than enough sheep things and will never run out' and it stopped. But my mum wasn't a mardy bum like yours Grin

DontShoutInMyEarholeTracey · 16/05/2026 21:46

Aww, it’s the thought that counts! 🐺

Basketball Howling GIF by Worcester Wolves
TouchtheEarth · 16/05/2026 21:05

You just need to develop a new interest for her to fixate on.

cymruyespls · 16/05/2026 20:59

Pmsl 😂 I’m sorry OP but you’ve brought back a childhood memory of mine..and I was the culprit gifted giver.
My sister is older than me and when I was little she had a single pair of PJs with pigs on. For some reason I took that to mean she really loved pigs, and every ‘occasion’ I’d spend my pocket money on pig themed gifts and trinkets for her. This really irritated her…and of course as an annoying little sister, once I realised it annoyed her I did it all the more. I have no idea how or when it petered out, but it’s her birthday next week and I’m wondering whether I have time to pick up a little something special for her before I see her 😏

As an aside, I’ve noticed on this thread that pigs (and owls) seem to be extremely popular for this sort of misunderstanding. I wonder what it is about them!

AmbeeBambee · 16/05/2026 20:54

Herecomes · 14/05/2026 15:41

Im actually on that group 😂😂 the wolf fleece society? 🤣 that’s why I joked to DH that that’s what I’ll end up with, you couldn’t make it up 😂

She takes offence so easily 🤦‍♀️

At one point were you REALLY enthusiastic about wolves? She seems to think she's giving you really thoughtful gifts, bless her. The blankets, if you stll have them gift them to a dog shelter, they'd love that. The fleeces...one you could wear around the house, possibly to walk your pet wolf...but not 3! Vinted the other two and use the money to buy your mum a coffee, then you won't feel so bad. Long term though, you either need a new "interest" for your mum to fixate on or just be honest with her, but Its not easy when someone is easily hurt. OR do you from now on buy every gift for her in a theme she mentions she likes casually? OR another idea, what if from now on you suggest that rather than physical gifts you would love if the both of you could save all the gifts spending and each year go on a lovely spa night away or something?

BySillyFox · 16/05/2026 20:43

You mustn't do that because your mum genuinely thinks she is doing you a favour by doing this and it really hurts her feelings when you reject it. Instead tell her you've decided only to accept gift cards now, to where you shop mostly or where you'd like to get something from, as a one off treat. And ask at the same time where she would like to get gift cards from. This would help both of you.

Pigeonatthewheel · 16/05/2026 20:22

Tell her to pack it in (has that one been done, cba reading 200 posts to check). Howl she know you don’t werewolf if you don’t let her know!

TheWytch · 16/05/2026 20:11

There's a whole FB group devoted to spotting wolf fleece jackets!

I have a similar issue with dragons - I do quite like dragons as it happens but enough is definitely enough.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 16/05/2026 20:07

This is so funny

Rubbleonthedouble2 · 16/05/2026 19:56

You've got to fight fire with fire.

Buy her sexy pigs ceramics for every occasion from now on!

Isittimeformynapyet · 16/05/2026 19:55

BySillyFox · 16/05/2026 19:35

If your mum loves you and wants to buy you things, that's great but just tell her you liked wildlife and nature things as a child and young adult but have grown out of alot of it now. Instead look at some high end, plain, neutral interior design styles and capsule wardrobes, show her that you prefer this instead. The good thing about neutrals is that they match whatever design style you like and this can be transferred to clothing items as well. These wolf design native American clothing and native Indian paraphernalia, are incredibly popular amongst people that live in rural areas, with log cabins as tourist accommodation when on vacation but can be misconstrued by city parents as a fashion trend choice. In addition, some of the people that live close to these reservations style their homes out of respect for the heritage and as a personal style choice because they either have ties there or can relate in some way to the heritage or grew up alongside it. Looking though e-brochures or magazines would bring you closer together as parent and child and also give you an idea of what each others actual tastes are. Even if some of the items are out of your budget, usually budget friendly similar items are linked or suggested. The alternative solution is to turn your bedroom into a high end she-wolf snug and adorn the walls with a series of novels and books on romantic Alpha males and wolves in general as a species all of which might make up for interesting reading. Who knows you might even become an expert on it. This is actually easier than you think and you've already saved a fortune in 'wolf' themed items.

Are you quite alright?

It's highly unlikely that OP wants to try and like a she-wolf snug and become aroused by Alpha male wolves. You're a fruit loop!

FloofyKat · 16/05/2026 19:52

I voted YABU but only because I don’t understand why you have not told your mum that you don’t like wolves and you would like her to stop with the lupine gifts!

Freezinghotlikeaweevil · 16/05/2026 19:50

Oh OP I can’t stop laughing, this is so funny perhaps you don’t tell her and see how many different wolf themed gifts you can amass.

AvantCharde · 16/05/2026 19:47

Ah mums are great aren’t they. Back in the 90’s I had a t-shirt which was a piss take of the brand Kappa, which was seen as a brand that only chavs would wear. My t-shirt had the Kappa logo but the word ‘Slappa’ (I know, I know, but was actually kind of accurate at that time of my life). Anyhoo, my mum then bought me Kappa items every Christmas or birthday for years, as she ‘knew I liked it’. I had mountains of unworn Kappa clothing and trainers that I wouldn’t be seen dead in, and it’s not even like eBay or Vinted existed back then.

CathyCatnip · 16/05/2026 19:47

I know how you feel but could you embrace it and take a fleece round to your mum's then suggest you both go out together in your wolf fleeces? If nothing else it would be a bit of a laugh 😀

Gwenna · 16/05/2026 19:47

Herecomes · 14/05/2026 15:31

I am an animal lover, I am especially a dog person meaning I like wolves too if we’re talking wildlife. My mum has taken this to mean I’m obsessed with wolves - I’m really not.

Every year at Christmas she buys me something wolf related … it started off as huge framed pictures (often featuring native Americans too 😂) and in the end I had so many massive pictures piled up the spare room that I made a point of telling her I am no longer buying wall pictures as I don’t like a lot of stuff on the walls and I’ve ran out of space. She got the hint and stopped buying me pictures … instead she started buying me huge blankets, fleece bed covers etc, again featuring wolves howling at the moon, native Americans, wolf eyes staring out of dark trees etc 🤦‍♀️

I ended up with a big pile of fleece blankets that were just sat there collecting dust. In the end I asked her if she wanted any blankets as I’m getting rid of loads as I have far too many and don’t use them. She got the hint.

Now … as my birthday this year was approaching she asked me what size clothing I was. I told her. I joked to DH that I’ll probably end up with a wolf fleece jacket for my birthday … I was wrong … I got 3 wolf fleece jackets for my birthday.

I don’t get it!!! I’m in my 30s, she sees me every week … surely she can see that I don’t wear stuff like this?? It was funny at first but now its getting frustrating. She gets upset and offended easily so I’ve tried to treat lightly but come on …

What would you do?? Or do I just carry on accepting this stuff and lying that I like it to keep the peace?

Sounds like the pack are calling you, OP!
Aaaaaiiiiiiiooowwww! 🌝 🐺 😁

worldshottestmom · 16/05/2026 19:44

Tell her you're really into Chanel now instead. Make the boys go awooooo

Merc123 · 16/05/2026 19:40

Herecomes · 14/05/2026 15:44

You don’t know her. She’ll instantly take offence and then go on about the time I told her I didn’t like her gifts for years

Lol well maybe you should discuss THAT too! However if it were me I'd prob have DH mention it to her, that your home is not a wolf sanctuary/shrine. Next thing you know it'll be one of those resin on its back guzzling wine bottle holders...if hasnt been gifted already! 😳😏

RaveToTheGrave1 · 16/05/2026 19:37

Omg this was my nan buying me dolphin themed everything for YEARS

Happyeleven · 16/05/2026 19:35

Thanks for the thread @Herecomes I’m going to buy my friend ‘who likes elephants’ something not elephant-related this year. Good luck with the wolf thing 😬

BySillyFox · 16/05/2026 19:35

If your mum loves you and wants to buy you things, that's great but just tell her you liked wildlife and nature things as a child and young adult but have grown out of alot of it now. Instead look at some high end, plain, neutral interior design styles and capsule wardrobes, show her that you prefer this instead. The good thing about neutrals is that they match whatever design style you like and this can be transferred to clothing items as well. These wolf design native American clothing and native Indian paraphernalia, are incredibly popular amongst people that live in rural areas, with log cabins as tourist accommodation when on vacation but can be misconstrued by city parents as a fashion trend choice. In addition, some of the people that live close to these reservations style their homes out of respect for the heritage and as a personal style choice because they either have ties there or can relate in some way to the heritage or grew up alongside it. Looking though e-brochures or magazines would bring you closer together as parent and child and also give you an idea of what each others actual tastes are. Even if some of the items are out of your budget, usually budget friendly similar items are linked or suggested. The alternative solution is to turn your bedroom into a high end she-wolf snug and adorn the walls with a series of novels and books on romantic Alpha males and wolves in general as a species all of which might make up for interesting reading. Who knows you might even become an expert on it. This is actually easier than you think and you've already saved a fortune in 'wolf' themed items.

BooBooDoodle · 16/05/2026 19:34

My parents always buy my family t-shirts with the place they visited on holiday emblazoned on the front and back. They ask why we never wear them and I’ve stated repeatedly that I personally find it cringe and it’s not something any of us would wear. This turned into fridge magnets and shot glasses, we don’t drink. We have an integrated kitchen so nothing to put the magnets on anyway, not that we would as again, not to our taste. We now tell them not to bother and just enjoy their holiday but get awful knock off tatt of Nike and Marc Jacobs.

Nopesnow · 16/05/2026 19:32

I have a few diverse gifts that I really dislike, but they're from a kind person whose taste isn't the same as mine.
However, your issue is different and that is the price you pay for not being more direct a while back.

Donate the older gifts to charity shops and tell your family what you'd like this year. Be specific! Hopefully that'll stop the themed wolf 🐺 collection.